the ongoing struggle with the boss ( and myself)
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on 3/10/11 7:55 pm, edited 3/10/11 9:53 pm
on 3/10/11 7:55 pm, edited 3/10/11 9:53 pm
Im dealing with this dilemma in a very womanish way ... i'm refusing to cook his lunch and taking away the office plants lol ... ( and also finally doing the accounting of how much he actually OWES me with interest which is a LOT ..boy am I going to kick myself )
the plants were packed in the hallway and he moved them back saying they needed water .... hmmm.
He'll have the weekend to think about the situation...plant- less .
The situation is something HAS to be done . We've been talking about it for YEARS but as far as he's concerned my working in gross conditions is OK. Its stifling my creativity and NOT OK with me , particularly as we're making enough money to pay for renovations .
Last night I actually made and then DROPPED a diamond-slice earring
and I havent been able to find it after three HOURS of looking .... this is SERIOUS destructive, soul-stealing disorganization and I just can't STAND it any more !
I am willing to pay for the renovations ( which I estimate will cost 50 thousand ) provided I inherit the business ( and location) after his death . He also stole over 80 thousand dollars of my personal savings out of a shared bank account when he had access to it so he owes me big time.
Without the money this business ( I , Ava , through my own hard work! ) bring in to him EVERY SINGLE gosh darn day .. he could not Begin to enjoy the lifestyle he does ...
I have put so much work in here and am willing to put so much more .. I am entitled to own the business I built pretty much singlehandedly outright after he is gone ... not be subject to having to buy out his greedy estranged children ..
In his more lucid moments he agrees ..then balks when it comes to signing the documents. I even agreed to give him more of a payout from the PROCEEDS every month ...
well I'ma gonna STARVE him out now ...like laying SIEGE
. And boy will he miss those gorgeous orchids !! ( which will miss their window to and probably drop all their flowers 
.
The thing is , with food , with flowers .... even with money turned over every day .... people take the many hours of WORK required daily for granted as if they didn't mean anything . Once he eats the food that took hours to make ( and much money in ingredients to aquire and grow ) ..now he dreams he doesnt owe me ANYTHING ...
He spent the money ... so he can make up some BS why it was owed to him in the first place .or just " forget " it ever existed ..
it's like having a PIMP . And his attutude is exactly the same smarmy self congratulatory - just makes U want to slap -him -silly one ..."just play mind games on the b...es " ...
I was actually stoopid enough to plan my whole FUTURE around taking care of this nasty grumpy old guy until his death ( which wont be for MANY MANY years but ... ) ... and he doesnt feel he owes me a THING ??!! ....
In every business between MEN , there is such a thing as a key man clause - one partner dies , the other one gets the business outright . Why not here ?!! Because of SEXISM and jerkyness and a desire for illegitimate CONTROL in a situation where he neither runs the business nor CAN run the business since he has nothing really to do with it ( and is not a jeweler nor in the clothing and/or accessory business ) .
( oh and because I Ava forgot to draw up a contract in the FIRST place ... yes put blame where blame is due ( wish there was a kick Urself in the AZZ icon ). Honestly though I was in no POSITION to jump around initially .. and I Have to renegotiate now ....
The only reason he is a partner at all is because its tied to the location he owns ( and because I needed his credentials in the beginning ) - but I will take it and my clients and start over if I am forced to ... and he will be left with literally with nothing but the mess I found him in .
Ive had ENOUGH
the plants were packed in the hallway and he moved them back saying they needed water .... hmmm.
He'll have the weekend to think about the situation...plant- less .
The situation is something HAS to be done . We've been talking about it for YEARS but as far as he's concerned my working in gross conditions is OK. Its stifling my creativity and NOT OK with me , particularly as we're making enough money to pay for renovations .
Last night I actually made and then DROPPED a diamond-slice earring
and I havent been able to find it after three HOURS of looking .... this is SERIOUS destructive, soul-stealing disorganization and I just can't STAND it any more ! I am willing to pay for the renovations ( which I estimate will cost 50 thousand ) provided I inherit the business ( and location) after his death . He also stole over 80 thousand dollars of my personal savings out of a shared bank account when he had access to it so he owes me big time.
Without the money this business ( I , Ava , through my own hard work! ) bring in to him EVERY SINGLE gosh darn day .. he could not Begin to enjoy the lifestyle he does ...
I have put so much work in here and am willing to put so much more .. I am entitled to own the business I built pretty much singlehandedly outright after he is gone ... not be subject to having to buy out his greedy estranged children ..
In his more lucid moments he agrees ..then balks when it comes to signing the documents. I even agreed to give him more of a payout from the PROCEEDS every month ...
well I'ma gonna STARVE him out now ...like laying SIEGE
. And boy will he miss those gorgeous orchids !! ( which will miss their window to and probably drop all their flowers . The thing is , with food , with flowers .... even with money turned over every day .... people take the many hours of WORK required daily for granted as if they didn't mean anything . Once he eats the food that took hours to make ( and much money in ingredients to aquire and grow ) ..now he dreams he doesnt owe me ANYTHING ...
He spent the money ... so he can make up some BS why it was owed to him in the first place .or just " forget " it ever existed ..
it's like having a PIMP . And his attutude is exactly the same smarmy self congratulatory - just makes U want to slap -him -silly one ..."just play mind games on the b...es " ... I was actually stoopid enough to plan my whole FUTURE around taking care of this nasty grumpy old guy until his death ( which wont be for MANY MANY years but ... ) ... and he doesnt feel he owes me a THING ??!! ....
In every business between MEN , there is such a thing as a key man clause - one partner dies , the other one gets the business outright . Why not here ?!! Because of SEXISM and jerkyness and a desire for illegitimate CONTROL in a situation where he neither runs the business nor CAN run the business since he has nothing really to do with it ( and is not a jeweler nor in the clothing and/or accessory business ) .
( oh and because I Ava forgot to draw up a contract in the FIRST place ... yes put blame where blame is due ( wish there was a kick Urself in the AZZ icon ). Honestly though I was in no POSITION to jump around initially .. and I Have to renegotiate now ....
The only reason he is a partner at all is because its tied to the location he owns ( and because I needed his credentials in the beginning ) - but I will take it and my clients and start over if I am forced to ... and he will be left with literally with nothing but the mess I found him in .
Ive had ENOUGH
Men
Sorry you are starting the day in a bad situation. One of the reasons I like getting up early is that no one can impose anything bad on me in the early morning while everyone is asleep. I get some early morning peace.
Sorry you are starting the day in a bad situation. One of the reasons I like getting up early is that no one can impose anything bad on me in the early morning while everyone is asleep. I get some early morning peace.
66 yrs young, 4'11" hw 220, goal 120 met at 12 months, cw 129 learning Maintainance
Between 35-40 BMI? join us on the Lightweight board. the Lightweight Board
(deactivated member)
on 3/10/11 8:35 pm, edited 3/10/11 8:36 pm
on 3/10/11 8:35 pm, edited 3/10/11 8:36 pm
Sorry Price if I've cut into that peace ! Yes I love my mornings too ...THis morning I spent looking under chairs and couches grrrr....
its amazing how something so tiny can lose itself so effectively especially in a not nearly well-lit-enough mess.
Gosh I hate drama ! but sometimes I think ya gotta stand up for Urself . Ive done way too little thinking about what I deserved for my hard work and ensuring that I get it over the years and as a result have very little to show for all the caretaking I did ....
I dont want to repeat the same mistakes twice .
its amazing how something so tiny can lose itself so effectively especially in a not nearly well-lit-enough mess.
Gosh I hate drama ! but sometimes I think ya gotta stand up for Urself . Ive done way too little thinking about what I deserved for my hard work and ensuring that I get it over the years and as a result have very little to show for all the caretaking I did ....
I dont want to repeat the same mistakes twice .
Your morning didn't upset mine. But I am sorry it upset yours cause mornings are precious.
66 yrs young, 4'11" hw 220, goal 120 met at 12 months, cw 129 learning Maintainance
Between 35-40 BMI? join us on the Lightweight board. the Lightweight Board
(((((Ava)))))
Stand tall, girl! You are (and will continue to be) a success in every way!
Stand tall, girl! You are (and will continue to be) a success in every way!
Rebecca
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135.
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135. 
Oh, Ava, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know it's all going to be fine. You are smart, capable, determined, and inspiring. BUT when you are in the middle of it, it is awful.
You have a great sense of humor. With your long legs, maybe you can kick yourself, but don't. You made all your decisions with the best available information at the time.
Hope you find that earring soon, it's gorgeous!
You have a great sense of humor. With your long legs, maybe you can kick yourself, but don't. You made all your decisions with the best available information at the time.
Hope you find that earring soon, it's gorgeous!
Wendy
5'3" SW: 210
5'3" SW: 210
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on 3/11/11 12:30 am, edited 3/11/11 12:31 am
on 3/11/11 12:30 am, edited 3/11/11 12:31 am
Thanks for the support guys ....
well this is the SECOND big diamond piece thats gone missing .. the other is a 5 carat natural green diamond ring ... only happens to be the most valuable item I own ....I havent seen THAT in over a year now ...
well this is the SECOND big diamond piece thats gone missing .. the other is a 5 carat natural green diamond ring ... only happens to be the most valuable item I own ....I havent seen THAT in over a year now ...
Hope you have your jewelry insured.
I worked for a nasty man for 18 years and when he closed the jewelry store I was devasted because I had to start all over again. The worse thing turned out to be the best thing for me. I have a great boss now.
Find a new partner and then make sure all of the paperwork is signed and dated!
(((HUGS)))
I worked for a nasty man for 18 years and when he closed the jewelry store I was devasted because I had to start all over again. The worse thing turned out to be the best thing for me. I have a great boss now.
Find a new partner and then make sure all of the paperwork is signed and dated!
(((HUGS)))
Roz
God is walking with me every step of the way. Because of HIM this is possible!!
RNY 10/15/2008 9+ Years!!! Height: 4' 11" HW: 203 SW: 197 CW: 119 on Maintenance
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