Fairy god mother please don't take this away!

I have been in a bad fibromyalgia flair for about a week. I have gained 2lbs. I am so scared my fairy god mother is going to change me back. She can take the fibro and shove it just don't tip the scales the other way! Anybody else ever have that fear?? Stress could be a factor. I am going to destress and stomp that carb monster. Do a pouch test and see what happpens. Prayers please. Mother in law starts her treatments next week. Thanks guys!~

You gotta good plan.  Swinging lizards for you guys. ((hugs))

--gina

 I used to be  the fat girl everyone  in my family turned to when something needed  doing .   And they didn't feel like doing it .

They  were too important .    They had LIVES .  They assumed that  because I was overweight , that  I had NONE  , that  my time was FREE and  they were  doing me a FAVOR  or at least  not imposing very much asking me to take various  great Aunts and Uncles to doctors appointments over the course of many years , to the grocery store , here there etc.  I  even had time to drive ( six hours one way  at my own expense  in a car I paid for 100% and maintained 100% - what a sucker ! ) from  NYC  to New Hampshire  to do all these things even twice a week while my Parents sailed  eight months out of the year  since I didn't have a life - why not  ? 

Basically all these nonimpositions ended up shaping my life into that  of a caretaker ... 

Did I get PAID  for this ?  Did I even inherit ?   NO ... because  nobody thought of me that way .  They thought of me  as unsuccessful  fat girl  .. kind of an unpaid servant .  The MAN who ARRANGED all this ..  TOOK THE MONEY ...  and told everyone he would take care of me ... SURE  .    HE  took EVERYTHING ,  every PENNY .... that was the care he took of me for my ten years of labor and time and trouble and SERIOUS sacrifice  of some of the best years and  opportunities of my life .  

When I hear of other women  running here running there  running themselves ragged and making themselves sick taking care of other people I can't help but think of my own example .  

I wonder what I was getting out of it  - I guess a needed self esteem boost  because  I felt  like  superwoman i felt needed .. i was certainly  doing things  way above and beyond the call  of duty  and keeping people  alive longer  through kindness and sacrifice ... but the toll and the years it took away from MINE  were HUGE  ..... and MANY ... 

Would I do it again ?  NEVER .

When someone asks me now to do something  what do I  do ?   I say NO .  

The reason I HAVE to do that  is because I will still  reflexively say yes under pressure if I DONT  say no   and then kick myself later .    Its also  amazing  that since I started saying no  how they find some other sucker  that says yes and they  don't bother me.... and  I see how little they respect  that person who used to be me ( and I IMAGINED i was  so valued ).

Usually even if its  a serious problem they  solve it on their own  ( miraculously !  the world runs without me ! )  .  Then if they really can't  , I  see if I can help..IF  I can fit  it into my own life without hurting MY LIFE .  

I am not here to fix people  or attempt to save people  from themselves ( it never  works anyway ) .

  God put me on this earth to express my own talent - I have  a duty to do exactly that .  I have to think of MYSELF  and my life path  .... Life is VERY short ... I can't afford to play God .  

I feel your pain!!  I am still the person that is always asked to do things ..not the same exactly as driving 7 hours etcc..but still thesame.

My brother moved to Florida and my sister after having a divorce is out "fXXXX around"..sorry I don't mean to be rude..but she cannot take time out to even visit my mom once a week.. I do a bit more..but this is for my mom..not anyone else.. so I'm okay with it..

Hugs

Breathe.  Really.  Just go somewhere quiet deeply inhale and exhale for 10 breaths. Maybe 20.
My holistic friends are always reminding me that the simple act of deep breathing combats stress.
Your plan is sound. You know what to do.
You can do it.

tracey

Fibro flairs are a B*TCH. I hate them. don't have them often but when I do, Lord help me cause I am miserable. Yes, stress is definitely a factor, so do your best to keep from stressing...easier said than done. I know. But remember this, you are no good to anyone, especially yourself if you are stressed and miserable.

Be good to yourself. Liz

  Big hugs  really  Sweetie     hope  U feel  1000%  better 

(((HUGS))) Danielle.  I hope you can beat the carb monster and get rid of the fibro flairs... I'm sure the added stress of the MIL treatments is the culprit...

Stay here with us!  We need you too!

(((HUGS))))

I'm so sorry you have fibro and have to deal with it. I know it can be so painful. I am still pre-op but at some point after wls I have to have back surgery and I am PETRIFIED that the healing time after that will make me regain weight. So very scared. I will pray for you. Find something that destresses you and make it a regular part of your life. Dealing with chronic pain, you need it. Like you said, stress is a factor and you need less of it in your life.

Big hugs, dear.