Today was not a great day

 I have been a housewife/stay at home mom for the past 13 years. I have been looking for a part time job for the past few weeks. Today I got a call for an interview tomorrow at 11. I went into my closet looking for a nice outfit to interview in. Nothing! All I had was some old black dress pants. I decided I would buy an outfit to interview in. ( I have no reason to dress up. Even date night is jeans and a nice top)  I went into 2 stores and I was just done! I wanted to cry. I'm only 32 and everything they had for plus size seems like my grandma would wear it...( please don't be offended) My interview is at a high trendy salon. Anyways, when I walked in a store. They have 4 racks for plus size the rest of the store was for "normal" size girls/ladies. Went into another store. They had ALOT of cardigans, some wild looking button down tops. Long sleeve shirts with this crazy huge jewels on it(just not my style)...OMGOSH....I just left the store. Layne Bryant has to order almost all my pants. Because I'm short. I only had 1 hour before all the stores clothes. I didn't have time to run over to the mall. But today was the first time in months I felt huge today. I felt very insecure about myself. Sorry I know I'm just ranting. But I was so upset today. Tomorrow I will be going into an interview not feeling confident at all. And its all because of my size and my clothes. I will be so happy. When I can walk into a "normal" store and find a fun trendy outfit! Not have to settle for something that I don't feel good in. Again sorry to rant. Its really up setting.

Good luck on your interview! 

Sorry you are feeling that way.  I know first hand how frustrating that can be.  This problem has gotten significantly better for me since surgery.

I remember every weekend getting upset and depressed when I had to put something on besides workout clothes or scrubs.  It always put me in such a bad mood and I really got down on myself.

Try to be as positive as you can tomorrow and best wishes.

I'm sorry your feeling down but I'd like to remind you of what you told me. Try to be positive, wear a pair of black slacks and a nice top,a little makeup,some jewelry and a smile and I bet your gonna shine because it's the personality that they will be looking for! Good luck and let me know how you do. I'm praying you get it. Sounds like a fun place to work too!

First I just want to send a million hugs your way.  I think most everyone on this board has felt the way you're feeling.  It really SUX!  You go ahead and rant anytime you want.

So you may not be able to dress up and show off your body the way you'd like, but you sure can wake up and dress up your attitude.  As a former HR professional/recruiter/corporate trainer, I can tell you that what matter is showing up with clean clothes, fresh smelling hair and body and a winning attitude.  If you let that shine for you, you'll have no problem.  People want to hire confident so you just stand in front of that mirror tomorrow and practice unconditional self love.  Then brush yourself off and dry any remaining tears and get yourself a job.

Please let us know how you do and know that it's always safe to rant and cry around here.  We all just take turns.  :)

So sorry and I do know how you feel..you really are a beautiful young woman..I don't think it is all  your size..clothes seem to jump from teeny bopper to old..there is not really and in between..my daughter is 29 and she is not heavy at all..but she has been having a hard time finding things appropriate for her age..she does shop a lot at the express which is expensive and small clothes but that is the only store she likes..we went shopping for christmas and for the first time she was not able to find tons of clothes she likes.and she wears a size 6 or 8..lucky her..she didnt take after me weight wise..I am fighting weight gain right now..I lost 100 lbs and now have gained 50 of it back..going to surgeon today to see what he can do for me..just had hip replacement and cant do a lot of exercise..I have a closet full of clothes I can;t get my big self into..so I do know how you feel..go into that interview no matter what you wear and be confident...that will shine through..let us know what happens..smile..you are beautiful..take care and good luck..

happygirl

Gosh, what a tough day!  I've been there.  It is one of my biggest physiological issues post-op...fear of shopping.  It is just so hard for me to mentally get in the right place to put myself through that torture.  Since the alternative is going naked and that is even worse than shopping -- most days.  You just have to mentally prepare yourself for the experience and for me the tears that followed.

I see so many WLS ladies that love shopping post-op.  Right now, I'm still a coward.  It is my understanding that this will improve as my journey progresses.

My heart goes out to  you.  So many of us have been in your shoes.  {{HUGS}}

Kay

Kay, I so know exactly what you are saying about shopping, I have ALWAYS hated shopping before and still find it repulsive. Even when in high school, Mom was more than happy to pick stuff up for me and I never complained. I am NOT a shopper, ask my husband. As of now, I still hate shopping, although it has become a little less repulsive when the clothes actually fit now....

Everyone here knows exactly how this feels, I too, have been a Housewife/ stay at home mom now for almost 10 years and know exactly what your closet looks like!
It gets easier, wear the black pants and nice shirt, have your hair and makeup done nicely and let them see a beautiful confident young woman who wants the job badly. You will do great with it! Congrats on the interview.

Been there, done that.  I hate to shop.  Even now, it is more to keep my body covered that to have fun with shopping.

At 4'10", I have aways had to hem everything.  Until now.  The latest 12 petite jeans are the right lenght.  Amazing.  You will have that to look forward to.

So go to your interview and shine.  Let us know how things turn out.

I hope so badly you get that job. Sounds like a great place to work. I totally relate to how you are feeling. I would CRINGE when an event was coming up! My husband had his 30 year high school reunion last summer and I was near (silent) panic over it! I was jumping through the WLS hoops at the time, and was at my heaviest. I didn't want to buy anything new, as i was dreaming of fitting into smaller things. But, the funny thing is... Once I was there I just "worked it". I have always been able to paste that smile where it needed to be, and no one was the wiser. I really think there is a lot of "fake it til you make it" mentality to success. People just love a confident person. I hope you dig out that "smile" when you walk into that interview.

Keep us posted. We are all here for you.

kim