Rosa's Unhappy Update (Understatement)
So sorry to read what happened to you Rosa! It sounds like you did all the right things! And everyone is doing what they kind to make sure you stay healthy! I'll be thinking about you and sending you strong thoughts and wishes!
As far as your feelings....this was a real kick to your emotional well being. I'm sure it has triggered some of the old habits most of us had prior to WLS (turning to food for emotional support). It may be the medications as well (making you feel hungry). I know how you feel in this aspect! Right now I'm in the funk, once a month.....yup good old Mensy time....I feel sooo hungry that I have to eat! I eat so much more during the week leading up to my period...it makes me depressed! I get bloated as well, which makes me feel fatter! Take advantage of the counseling the hospital is providing for you! You are a strong person and all us LW's are here for you if you need us!
Take care of you!!
As far as your feelings....this was a real kick to your emotional well being. I'm sure it has triggered some of the old habits most of us had prior to WLS (turning to food for emotional support). It may be the medications as well (making you feel hungry). I know how you feel in this aspect! Right now I'm in the funk, once a month.....yup good old Mensy time....I feel sooo hungry that I have to eat! I eat so much more during the week leading up to my period...it makes me depressed! I get bloated as well, which makes me feel fatter! Take advantage of the counseling the hospital is providing for you! You are a strong person and all us LW's are here for you if you need us!
Take care of you!!
There are never any problems, only solutions. quoted by a dear and special friend!!!
My stats:
Starting weight 234 lbs Height 5 ft 6 in
Goal in 7 months (127 lbs)
Currently: 120-123 lbs
Tops Small Bottoms size 2!!!! UPDATED: 11/11
Rosa,
So sorry to read your post and what/why you've been absent for awhile (I was hoping to read of your awesome Dominican vaca). I am so proud of your pro active approach to this trauma. That is a sure sign of the strong woman you have become. And impressed that you are dealing with this immediately. Take the time you need.... CYBER huggs from me!!!!!
So sorry to read your post and what/why you've been absent for awhile (I was hoping to read of your awesome Dominican vaca). I am so proud of your pro active approach to this trauma. That is a sure sign of the strong woman you have become. And impressed that you are dealing with this immediately. Take the time you need.... CYBER huggs from me!!!!!
Oh Rosa - I've wondered where you were!
Hold onto your faith. It will get you through this horrible experience. I want you to know most people are good at heart - it hurts me tremendously that you experienced someone who wasn't.
I'm glad you're taking care of yourself - both physically and emotionally.
Don't let your eating worry you at this point. Get healed. I know it takes time.
Sweetie - you are loved on this board.
Please let us know how you're doing.
Hold onto your faith. It will get you through this horrible experience. I want you to know most people are good at heart - it hurts me tremendously that you experienced someone who wasn't.
I'm glad you're taking care of yourself - both physically and emotionally.
Don't let your eating worry you at this point. Get healed. I know it takes time.
Sweetie - you are loved on this board.
Please let us know how you're doing.
HW-218/SW-208/CW-126/ Lowest Weight-121/Goal-125 - hit 8/23/09/Height-5'3"
Regain 30 lbs from 2012 to 2016 - got back on track and lost it. Took 8 months.
90+/- pounds lost BMI - 24 or so
Starting BMI between 35 and 40ish?
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Rosa....I was so sorry to read your story! I too was sexually attacked (by a stranger) in college. I actually was able to stay strong during the process and follow the case through a 2 year legal process(trial and all) I actually relived and retold the story so many times I became numb to it. The man actually served 6 years in a state pen. (not long enough but I felt like I got the last laugh....he has a record forever.) PLEASE press charges or he will just do this to someone else!!!
Stay in counseling! I had to go on strong anti-depressants for a while. You will need help when you are ready to explore men and dating again. That was the hardest part...I was afraid of all men for a LONG time ****il my incredible husband came along and restored my faith in the male race).
Please know I am praying for you! Stay tough....you can get through this with time and I promise--you will come through a MUCH stronger woman. In a weird, sick way--my ordeal was one of best things that happened to me. It made me so tough....I can handle ANYTHING now, I met life-long friends at the crisis center (and volunteer there when needed), I became a self-proclaimed self defense expert, and my faith in God has increased ten-fold! (just to name a few)
Let us know if you need anything!
Stay in counseling! I had to go on strong anti-depressants for a while. You will need help when you are ready to explore men and dating again. That was the hardest part...I was afraid of all men for a LONG time ****il my incredible husband came along and restored my faith in the male race).
Please know I am praying for you! Stay tough....you can get through this with time and I promise--you will come through a MUCH stronger woman. In a weird, sick way--my ordeal was one of best things that happened to me. It made me so tough....I can handle ANYTHING now, I met life-long friends at the crisis center (and volunteer there when needed), I became a self-proclaimed self defense expert, and my faith in God has increased ten-fold! (just to name a few)
Let us know if you need anything!
HW/SW/CW/Goal.....219 / 206 / 122 / 130
I feel so many things...horror that any one could do such a thing....sadness at the painful path you are forced to travel...pride for your strength...anger that all of your hard work and personal growth is being challenged....and I know my emotions are just a dim shadow of what you are going through.
Please look in to the mirror and say (out loud) to yourself, "This is not my fault, I did nothing to deserve this. It will never happen to me again!!! I will not only survive but, I will THRIVE."
Allow yourself to do whatever you need to do to get through this horrible time. The physical aspects will get better after you recover from the medical treatment but the emotional aspects may get worse when you no longer have to deal with the medical treatment. Let yourself feel it all and do not feel bad for it. It is part of the healing...take anxiety and depression meds if you need them. Take good care of yourself, once the " physical" meds are over and the digestive issues are past, eat for health...it will make you feel best. Keep going to the gym. Get plenty of rest. Surround yourself with friends and be open to making new ones. You do not owe any of them an explanation of the situation if you choose not to tell them anything. USE counseling for as long as you need to....the crisis centers will always be available to you...do not hesitate to make yourself one of their priorities for as long and as often as you need them. When you are ready, you will give back to others who need it...that is the kind of person you are.
Of course you will have all of our support and as we are more anonymous than real world friends you can say anything you need to.
The biggest of cyber hugs possible,
Dawn
Please look in to the mirror and say (out loud) to yourself, "This is not my fault, I did nothing to deserve this. It will never happen to me again!!! I will not only survive but, I will THRIVE."
Allow yourself to do whatever you need to do to get through this horrible time. The physical aspects will get better after you recover from the medical treatment but the emotional aspects may get worse when you no longer have to deal with the medical treatment. Let yourself feel it all and do not feel bad for it. It is part of the healing...take anxiety and depression meds if you need them. Take good care of yourself, once the " physical" meds are over and the digestive issues are past, eat for health...it will make you feel best. Keep going to the gym. Get plenty of rest. Surround yourself with friends and be open to making new ones. You do not owe any of them an explanation of the situation if you choose not to tell them anything. USE counseling for as long as you need to....the crisis centers will always be available to you...do not hesitate to make yourself one of their priorities for as long and as often as you need them. When you are ready, you will give back to others who need it...that is the kind of person you are.
Of course you will have all of our support and as we are more anonymous than real world friends you can say anything you need to.
The biggest of cyber hugs possible,
Dawn
Big Frog Kisses,
DAWN
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