NSV - so why am I depressed

Hope you feel better soon.  Congrats on the new cute jeans.  So much is changing in your life right now and you can't turn to your old friend food.  I think it is natural for us to feel down every now and then.  That along with the weather we have all been having.  I usually feel better if I make myself get up and walk some or do some type of exercise.  Sometimes it is really hard to get that motivation though.
Linda

Oh Sue, lots of cyber hugs. 

There are times when it all seems too overwhelming, even when it is all going good.  Cry if you need to, come post here.  We will love and support you through it. 

I still find myself wandering into the large sizes and when I hold up my jeans to stick my legs in, I swear they aren't going to go on.  But they do. 

More hugs.

Too much of that sugar free stuff causes issues like the runs I do believe.  I've never eaten it myself.  ;-P  But I will.  I'm sure.  lol

Sue, y'know what fleeting thought I've had a time or two and it's only the beginning?  Everything was so EASY until I got this BRIGHT idea and had to rock the boat!!

It's very hard to follow many rules when before there were none.

Big Hugs my friend.  This Too Shall Pass.

Love,
ruthie

 I have some bad days. I had one last week and my friend was worried about me. I have been so enthusiastic, then darkness set in. I am over it now, but so many things contribute to it. Slowing weight loss, weather changes, not sure I'm doing my food and supplements right, not exercising enough, noticing more wrinkles, wondering what to wear, all minor, but put me in a state of depression.

I think this journey is so wonderful, but I know I will have to be vigilant all my life. The snacker-stuffer still lives inside me.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

hoping you feel better really soon!  i remember when i went from the plus size to the regular size department in the store.  it was almost like i felt like i didn't belong in the regular dept and still find myself wandering over to the plus size dept without even realizing it til i stop and pick something up and look at the size!  i have a hard time wrapping my head around this weight loss thing.....my brain isn't catching up with the rest of me!  in my head....i still weigh 250 pounds!

we have so many emotions going on....so many hormonal changes going on.....so many physical changes going on.....and that makes it really easy to get a bit weary!  and didn't even mention the psychological stuff that's going on!!!  please know that you're not in this by yourself!  and you certainly don't seem "pretty stupid and selfish".  you're just going through the perfectly normal chaos that goes hand and hand with WLS!!!

be blessed today, my sister!!!  sending best wishes your way!!

Sending mega hugs your way!  What you're going through is so normal.  Everyone gave you great advice.

Big congrats on those new jeans.  You must look terrific.  How long has it been since you were under 200 pounds?  For me the excitement was also mixed with other emotions as well.  Last fall I had a lot of blue days.  Not sure why and didn't try to hard to analyze it.  I just tried to stay in touch with friends and treat myself with a lot of loving kindness.  Exercise is a great help in clearing out the blues.  Just to keep walking and feel the wind on my face etc.   I always try to find things to appreciate in my life.  When I'm feeling gratitude, it's more difficult to be sad because I'm focused on the things that bring me a lot of joy.  Re-read an old book that made you smile.  Last week I rewatched Marley and Me, just the first part that made me laugh and laugh.  I didn'****ch the end because I knew the ending.  I'm striving for more laughter. Of course it creates more wrinkles but what the heck.

Find things to appreciate and focus on what makes you feel delighted.   If it were me and that sugar free chocolate I'd be crying because it upset my tummy pre-op and can't even imagine what it would do post-op.  I could clear a movie theatre on just a piece or two.   I bet that chowder had some sugar in it.  That would make me want to take the entire pot with me everywhere I went.  :)  I bet you'll be in much better spirits in a day or two when all of that is out of your system.

I hope today makes you smile!

All of you are so helpful and supportive.  It's funny how you read about all the hormonal things before surgery, think you understand the different emotions that might occur, and then when it happens to you, it's like "what's happening?"  This morning my hair was all over the sink.  What's happening?  Okay, I read about this.............I'm glad I have all of you to talk to because neither my sisters or friends would have a clue.  They would just look at me and think, you're losing all this weight, what do you have to complain about.  I had no idea how hard it would be not to turn to my friend, food.  Thank you

Lucycat --- I hear you LOUD and clear on the s/f chocolates.  I ate 2 werther's s/f on a pre-op stomach and like Lee I could clear the room.  It is so funny how those sorbitol or anything that end in "tol" or "sol" rips right through us!  

I am just a super emotional person and wear it all on my shirt sleeves.  Throw in a little stress and LOOK OUT.  God help the people near me...

Hope you are having a better day today!

Meg

PS - size 16!!!!!! and in the misses department .....  woo hooooooo to YOU!!!!

Thank you, Meg.  I haven't been too emotional in the last few years, it takes alot to make me cry but the last few weeks, Geez!  I am having a better day, and do alright as long as no one gives me any grief.  I have no patience right now.  I'm wearing my size 16 jeans today, and they're getting a little saggy in the butt.  Yahoo, but I've probably just stretched them out. 

Lucycat,
You're about halfway, according to your scale thingamajiggy.  WEIGH TO GO!
Is your first really down period in all that?

I second (or third) the "just feel the feelings" idea.  This too shall pass. Be gentle with yourself, maybe a bubble bath?  a fresh boquet of flowers from the grocery store?  Some bulbs to plant in a pot on the windowsill?  A visit to one of your most understanding friends?  Cuddling up on the couch with a blankee and a favorite sad movie to "prime the pump" and give yourself a "reason" to let out those tears?

I love your volunteer idea.  Especially the baby idea.  Some young soul will be soooooo lucky to have your loving arms around them.

Thanks for sharing.  This way, I know I'm not weird when I have these sorts of moments.
tracey