1/29 Morning Coffee

Hello all..........sorry I missed yesterday it was a long and busy day!  I finally got a "my k-cup"  and went to Caribou and bought some reg & decaf Espresso beans AND some of my favorite flavor syrups!  So I 'm having coffee this AM!......LOL

So I have a couple of updates........

First Pat didn't unfriend me..........his computer was hacked!!  I recieved a message from him yesterday that he had no idea what I was talking about.  He never recieved my cell texts because he had his phone shut off to save a little $$.  So we have cleared the air and straightened things out!  I'm so thankful because I was really gonna miss him!  I know some of you may be thinking likely excuss.......BUT......I have had more than one friend have "phantom" IM sessions with me on Yahoo over the last couple of weeks so PLEASE watch youself .  I've had full on conversations on 4 different occasions with people that were NOT the person whom I thought I was talking to...with 3 different friends..........NOW THAT IS SUPER CREEEEEPY!!

Secondly.......I had my second date Thursday night with Tim!  We went to see the new Ashton Kutcher movie "No Strings Attached".......hilarious movie!  So I think this guy is far to young for me.....he is 30 and acts like a horny 16 year old boy.  I was completely turned off by his lack of self control.  He is really sweet and very chivalrous when he isn't trying to mawl me.  Guys like this scare the crap out of me.......in my experience they turn out to be jealous abusive A-holes.  Now I'm not sure how this will play out with him since his cultural background is much different than any other man I've dated.  He does admit that he has control issues when he is around me and reassures me that he isn't just trying to get into my pants......but I have serious doubts.....LOL  I don't know what to do......I have a lot of red flags but with the cultural differences I'm a little leary to just throw this guy to the side because he is alot of fun othewise.  I think I will have one more date with him to see how it goes and if I still have those flags I'm gonna stop seeing him.  I'm gonna let him take me to Fogo de Chao so we can actually sit and talk for a couple of hours about who we really are.  

And lastly..........Happy Camper/Cindy.......I wanna know all about the mammogram......I know it sounds funny to ask a woman to tell you about her boob smashing.........but she will beable to provide invaluable information to us about the difference between a preop mammo and a post op one!

 Good Morning!

That's great news about Pat.  

What sort of cultural differences do you have with Tim?  Long term, cultural differences can really matter, particularly in long term relationships where family is involved.

I recently had a post-op mammogram.  I asked them if they could see my Sleeve and told me they were wondering what the heck that was since they had never seen one.  One of the techs was overweight and wanted to talk about surgery etc.

I had a second date last night.  We went out to dinner, something simple, nothing fancy which was great.  After dinner we went to a big bookstore and browsed around together.   We talked a lot and I was very comfortable.  No fireworks, no big thrill but he's a very nice guy.  Almost felt like a cousin or something.  Next Saturday, if it's not raining, I'm going to meet him in San Francisco to spend the day walking around, getting to know each other.  

I'm hoping the rain will hold off so I can go for a long walk at noon.  Tonight going to see a movie with a friend, or else hang here at home and watch a movie.

 Is this the IT guy, who cancelled? Glad you are on to second date. Comfortable sounds mighty good to me. Hope you are having fun. 

 Hi Wendy, this is the IT guy.  Yesterday was our second meeting and it was good.  Next week we'll spend more time together.

Well Lee........Tim is Iraqi.  He moved here as a refugee 3 years ago.  So I'm not sure if some of his behavior is just culture shock.......LOL

You are one of those patients that cracks me up........LOL  Unless your sleeve is located IN your boob........they wont see it.......LOL  Isn't it a great feeling to share your knowledge about your surgery?!?!

I'm glad your date went well.  Even if there were no fireworks I bet you could still have a great time just doing things you both enjoy......if that's an option.....

 Opps, I forgot.  It wasn't my mammogram, it was the xray for my back pain.  I think I had them both in the same few weeks.  So it was the back xrays that they commented on my Sleeve!

I have to admit I haven't had a mammogram in years. I know. The last one really hurt. And then I got implants and I was afraid that would really hurt. I will bite the bullet and get one.
I'm not having a good day. I feel really crummy. I had a few good days last week and now I am feeling weak and tired again. My head feels really weird, too. I got an exercise machine, it's called an XL Glider, kind of like a Gazelle. I use it like an elliptical. I have really been pushing myself to use it, not to lose weight but everyone tells me that if I exercise I will feel better and get more energy. Not working so far. I have only been going 5 minutes at a time which feels like an eternity. I do it several times a day. It is like climbing a mountain to me, each time I use it. When is it supposed to feel good?
I am totally broke today which I hate. I don't know where the money goes. I evenn got some extra money this month for my birthday and I did buy myself a few things like an ice cream maker, which only cost me about $15 because I got a $20 gift card for Amazon for free, and i got a magic bullet which I kind of regret now because I don't know what to do with it. I wish I had gotten the Ninja. I'll probably wind up getting that one of these days. And I got the exerciser, which was only $10. So I spent about $55 on myself this month. I don't know what I'm going to do next month.
Last week when I was feeling better I did go see the boyfriend, which was nice. He has been so patient with me. I have had no libido at all. My doctor put me on estrogen cream and that seems to have helped, if you know what I mean. So he was happy (and so was I for a change).
I got my labs back and there were a few things that were off but not enough to explain my terrible fatigue. The good things were that my B12 went from 616 to over 1100 and my D went from 42 to 72, this is since Oct. 10, so that is good. However, my protein and calcium went down. I am getting more then 125 grams of protein in so I don't know why it would go down, especially since I'm not supposed to be malabsorbing anymore. I think I still am, though. I wonder how I would find out. I guess I'll just have to keep an eye on my labs and adjust as necessary.

I'm sorry you are still feeling under the weather!  Your D is getting better but it's still low which can explain the fatigie.....sounds like you are probably a little stressed with your finances which will add to your down mood.    Now as far as your statement "I'm not supposed to be malabsorbing anymore"  What type of surgery did you have?  I know with the RNY you will malabsorb for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!  You may gain some of your absorpbtion properties back but you will never regain them entirely.  And you are not even 2 years out so you most definitely would be malabsorbing most everything at this point.

I'm a revision.  In 2002 I had a very malabsorptive procedure done and I had a lot of problems like diarrhea, constant gas and bloating, as well as the vitamin deficiencies so I had surgery that was supposed to correct that.  When I asked my surgeon if I still malabsorbed he said very little.  Since the surgery my intestinal problems are much better so I assumed that I wasn't malabsorbing but now I don't know.  Not only are some levels dropping but I seem to be losing weight pretty quickly, which I'm not complaining about, but wasn't expecting.  My surgeon warned me I might not lose weight.

What portions of your small intestine do you still use?  That will tell you if you are malabsorbing or not.  If your food passes through your Duodenum then you may not have the malabsorption properties any longer as this segement is where the majority of breakdown and absorption of many nutrients occurs.  The duodenum is the FIRST portion of your small intestine that is attatched to your stomach if you are a normie.  Maybe some other malabsorbers will chime in as well .......I am not familiar with the DS to a point where I feel comfortable making statements in regards to it's long term affects on your absorption......