Date Update.......1/27 Morning Coffee

I hope you all had a great day yesterday!  I am sitting here very frustrated.  I noticed last night that my friend Pat has unfriended me on facebook for the second time in a month.  The first time I figured it was a facebook mess up of some sort because he refriended me when I asked him what was up.  He didn't respond to my question tho telling me it was nothing.....So I started to notice that he had been going offline from yahoo and facebook anytime I would come online.....ok no big deal...just a coincidence right??......Now this......unfriended again......I sent him a text message to his phone asking him what I did wrong that he doesn't want to be friends anymore and told him I was hurt and pissed that he didn't tell me what was going on and that I though he was a better person than that.....I've still heard nothing even though right after I sent the message he logged into yahoo messanger......I didn't message him because I figured if he wanted to talk he would......and I got nothing......I wish this didn't bother me so much but it does.....I considered him to be such a good friend of mine and will truely miss his friendship if he in fact doesn't want to speak to me any longer....I'm just at a loss right now.....and want to cry!!!!!

I'm so caught off gaurd by this whole thing that I can't even talk about my date last night.....or really even feel good about it.......Hopefully by later today I'll be up for an update on the date.....which went well BTW....

Ahh hell I'm just gonna go cry now....



Ok......so I'm finished wollowing.....for now......

So I met with Tim for coffee before work last night.  I must say this guy is completely smitten!!!!!  I don't think I've ever sat next to someone who's pure joy for just being around me shined so bright.  I almost felt like a sheep and he was the wolf who was licking his lips ready to pounce....LOL  It was almost uncomfortable at times.  We didn't have alot of time to visit actually it was only about 45 minutes......He didn't understand why I was putting protein in my coffee so I told him about my surgery and showed him some pictures of me when I was big and he couldn't believe I was even the same person.  He honestly didn't care that I had surgery.  I don't know if it was because he didn't understand or just because it doesn't matter.   He was super cute, a little short for my tastes and oddly enough I don't care!  He asked if he could see me again tonght and I said yes and then I had to go to work.  We had a nice kiss goodnight.....after talking more today we both told eachother it was hard not to just make out in the parking lot.....LOL  After I slowed down at work we spent the rest of the night IM'ing on Yahoo again......we've talked most of this morning as well.......we are meeting for a movie after my belly dance class tonight.  Luckily I found a movie that starts at 800 so I'll have enough time to see the whole movie and make it to work on time!  I have to be honest I can't wait to see him again and kiss him for real this time......LOL  He is a very affectionate snuggley type which is so far off from what I'm used to....I feel mixed emotions about it.....I like it because it feels great to have someone find me that attractive.....however, it worries me that he is moving things along to fast....I have always been a slow mover when it comes to relationships and this guy is so not gonna let me be that way.....Maybe there is some usefulness to this approach since what I've been doing for years obviously hasn't been working for me right???   Any way......sorry so long and rambley......

Thanks for all your support with the situation with Pat......it hurts but it is still out of my hands at this point......so I just have to let it go....

Is it possible that he is jealous that you are dating?

He's encouraged it......A friend of mine thinks it may be a new girl friend that I don't know about.......Which is possible since he's been hanging out with this one girl alot lately.....Either way he could tell me whats going on for god sake......he's 41 years old.....it doesn't suprise me that much tho because I've seen him just cut people off before with no explaination.....but he wasn't as good of friends with them as he was with me......I just don't know.......I miss him so much tho.....we haven't REALLY talked in about 3 weeks.....

Heather,

That really sucks. There is nothing worse than a passive "un-friending." Whatever his issues, he owes it to you to be up-front. In the end, you are only control your behavior. I hope you don't let his actions spoil the good things happening in your life. It is not worth it. I would love to hear about your date (hint, hint).

I go today for my second trainer session. I am looking forward to the endorphin rush at the end. Question: do you use the machines that put pressure on your tummy? If it does not hurt, does it matter?

I just heard a review of Company Men. I really want to see it. Has anyone seen the Fighter or True Grit? I plan to do a movie binge this weekend.

Heather, I know you're freaking out but I would take a deep breath, take a step back and give it some time.  This may have nothing to do with you and it's just his "stuff".  Focus on something positive in your life and bring in that energy.   I recently had a friend do something similar and I lost a lot of sleep until I realized that they weren't being a "real" friend to me if they could behave this way.   Focus on those in your life that are special and give you what you need.   I cried too!

Now get on with it and give us a date update please.  We've been waiting all night to come read about it.  :)

 I have never been on any social network, since I am 64 and don't have children. My observation is that it has given an opportunity for people to be cruel to others via text, facebook, etc. People are still louses in my life, but it usually involves a face to face brush off, or at least on the phone. He sounds adolescent, if he let's a new girlfriend affect his friendships. 

His actions do not reflect on you. That is hard to believe, when you are hurt. You are energetic and positive. Please don't let this be your focus. He way come around when he misses you. I want date info, too.

Heather - sorry to hear about Pat being like this.  Sometimes you just can't figure it out and need to let it go.. he'll come back around in his own time.  Yea, I know it hurts now, but maybe focusing on your new dating life will help ease the pain of how he's treating you.

Sounds like you're having fun with the new guy!  of course we'll want regular updates - lol.

I'm not having a good day today.  I've been snoozing on the couch all day and have been extremely nauseous.  We're supposed to go to the banquet tonight and quite honestly I don't know if i can go.  He has to and i want to but..... i even cancelled my hair appointment today.  She was just going to style it for me since I can't seem to do it very well since she cut it.  That's pretty bad...

 Aww  dear Heather  (((((()))))))) so sorry to hear about Pat  .   Somehow it didnt surprise me though.... U  were  just  too kind  and  well  loving towards him without his having to EARN it  and that  rarely works in relationships  unless U want to be Mom  forever .  

 Someday U may think he did U a favor walking away .....

Now  it wouldn't surprise  me that if  U ignore him and get on with Ur life  he eventually comes  back looking for more ego stroking and  leading U on....   grrrr  ..    

Im glad  Ur getting an ego  boost from  Mr Newbie !   My advice  ( that ive never followed myslef honestly )  is to date 50 appropriate guys Ure attracted to before sleeping with ANY  .... so U can get to KNOW  them as people  FIRST  ... and not be blinded by the bonding thing that happens when we have sex,,,, 

but im very conservative that way  .. and slow to date  and  slow in general in relationships ... 

Have FUN tonight