Update on son and weight study

So many of our "issues" with weight start with messages when we are young.  I applaud you for supporting your son and hope this program helps him.   I would completely encourage the activity and not make him feel bad if he chooses something not healthy at times.  The biggest message he needs to receive is that he IS a great person no matter whath is weight is and that his weight is only one part of him (and that you will love and support him no MATTER what!).  Unfortunately, so many of us turned to food when we FELT bad about the food we ate, creating this horribly self destructive cycle.   I did this as a child and it haunts me today.  He has years to grow and probably the height of your husband will help him greatly AS will the sports.  I pray for him and you!!!!!

For those of you with daughters, make sure PCOS isn't a possible culprit.

I have it, it reared it's ugly head at the age of 12. I was a normal child in weigh and somewhere about 11-12, my weight increased and I've been overweight since.

For those with sons, it could be Metabolic Syndrome X (same issue, different name)

Bottom line, if your child has one of these, his metabolism is broken already and he will need as much understanding as possible.

Liz

Good luck with him - he'll make it through this and so will you. I would just make sure that he had healthy eating habits at home and that you didn't have junk around the house at all. He's not going to be able to eat what isn't there.

Sounds like he's a very active kid - and that will help a lot with this issue. Also his choices when eating at home are limited to what is available at home. We don't have chips, soda, or sweets in our home - it does help a lot with my overall health, and since WLS, my hubby has lost 20lbs as well.

Good luck with him!

 Well I just got married  and I have a COE  400 lbs  30  year old stepson ....  who's my age lol .   Still living  at home, on the EDGE  of being disabled forever ... eating up a storm...

eating his Father out of his retirement money , any security he might be able to put away .... I mean that LITERALLY  - his food  habits and demand of eating in restaurants daily  are costing his Father over 60 thousand dollars a YEAR !!!  

TOTALLY DEMANDING , FILTHY , GROSS  , DISGUSTING   in his personal habits  ( which he leaves  deposits of dirty laundry  , size 15 shoes , baseball caps and laptops  all over the house ) 

Like a THUNDERCLOUD  of anger when he walks into a room....

 U do not want to enable a  young man !! 


Do what U have to do to help Ur son...  but the biggest help I think is NOT to turn a blind eye to his eating EVER  .. to bust his ass for compulsive overeating ...  TO make him do sports  and get out of the house  ..if U have to chase him out with a BROOM   !!!

Thats what  my Parents did for me ... and though it felt abusive im so glad when i compare my fate to someone like this .  


Send  him to boarding school !!   Obviously  being under Ur roof ISNT  WORKING ...  Ure too soft  and too understanding .... some of the BEST high school in the COUNTRY are boarding schools .. target those  and  make sure his grades and recommendations and extracurricular activities will be strong enough to gain him admission .

I went to Philips Exeter Academy ..  and it was by far the BEST thing that ever happened to me  ..other than WLS .

Once there , the peer pressure , the emphasis on spots and scholarship WILL  turn this problem around in a way U CANT . 

I 'ts called enabling  what happens in the home , because U LOVE the child and the child BEGS ..... and  it wrecks Ur life and the childs life ... if U cant be  tough  , let soemone else do what needs to be done is my advice ...

compulsive overeating is a DEATH SENTENCE  and no child deserves to start life  out with  this terrible handicap .... 

Learning how to eat healthy takes a lot of education. And you are definitely on the right track to learning those healthy habits. Your son will respond to that as well.

Upon hearing of your husband's height, I cannot help but think he is gearing up to have a gigantic growth spurt when he enters puberty. I cannot tell you how often i have seen a "chubby" 11 or 12 year old boy who a few years later ends up being a thin, fit 6 feet tall!

Continue to be aware of healthy eating, and I bet you will see a tall thin young man in a few short years. Hang in there.

Danielle, 
  I'm sorry your son is having to go through this.  I hope that his athleticism will help to pull him through this and that the new healthy eating your whole household is taking on will have a good effect on all involved.  
  Please do show yourself some grace!  We don't choose our genes, you know...  

:)