Where's Rosa? Living her new life of intrigue...

 Hi Wendy, 

It's definitely an open event.  We meet in Concord once a month for lunch.  I'd love to see you there!  go to the California Forum and look for the Nor Cal Loser's Lunch.  Do you think you could make it tomorrow??  :)

 I think I can make it. I just called someone I was supposed to see tomorrow and she wants to postpone. I found the location Coco's Concord, right? Not a promise, but I suspect I'll show up. Like I said, I am looking for any help.

 Oh YAY!  I think you have my cell phone number in your email. I send it again in case you get lost!

Dating 3 guys was just skimming the top of the pond - you need to really go below the surface to find the keepers!!

Keep trying - there ARE good guys out there - trust me.  It took me awhile before I found mine (online), but I did!

Wow Lee - good for you!  And, you ARE average!  No one will think you're not, especially if you're getting the comments you are.

Have fun with it!

I love you, Leelee.  Thank you for this - I promise to keep you posted.

And I can't wait to hear your excited post from finding the right guy, too.

You do not have "a few extra" my dear.  But I'll be most excited when you believe that, too.  Let's get that fat girl out of our heads, ok?

Love to you!

Rosa, Good for you!!! It sounds so exciting. Your new man sounds very attractive. I was burned in the past with online dating, so I am a little gun shy about it.

I get that, definitely.  

Let's not call him my "new man" just yet - I don't want to jump the gun.  Let's call him my new possibility.  ;)

Hope you're finding a good way to get out there safely...it's scary!  But could be fun...

Rosa - how exciting!

Now - you need to work on getting the "fat girl out of your head" - I know, easier said than done...

Now - regarding the "tell or not to tell" - only tell when you're comfortable with it - if ever.  I was the type that told usually right up front, because the topic usually came around to food, how I ate, etc.  Everyone was very open and didn't judge.  Great topic of conversation, BUT - don't do it until you want too.

We HAVE missed you here!  But I totally understand how life gets in the way.  I met my guy online, and we hit our 2 month anniversary the 12th. Yes, we count them - lol. 

Enjoy dating - that's what's it is all about.  Your friend was so right when she said look at it as an opportunity to go places you wouldn't otherwise.  Its all about having fun.  If its not fun, then why do it?

Love hearing your update!  Keep us updated on what's going on with your subsequent and future dates!  I wish the dating pool here was as varied as you have there, but I found a great guy so I'm not complaining.  But - I DID have to go through a lot of toads before I found my prince!!

I can't believe it's only been 2 months, Jody - wow - it seems like so much longer!  You two really clicked, didn't you?

I talked to a friend today who made this point:

You never were a fat girl.  The fat was never you.  You just shed an extra self, not the self that has and will always remain.

He's a good friend!

I'm going to think about that.  Shedding something that hid myself.  Yes, that's a good thought...