Where's Rosa? Living her new life of intrigue...

 Hi Everyone,
  I've missed you all!  It's been an insane week.  Part of it is that my work schedule has been intense.  The other part is that...I've been *personally* busy.  
  On a whim exactly a week ago today, I set up a profile on an online dating site.  And...I wound up hearing from all these incredible-seeming guys, and actually have been on now - get this - 5 dates!
  A friend of mine once told me that dating is a great way to experience the city.  Have the guy take you somewhere you've never been, and even if you don't connect, at least you've had fun out.  That was very helpful advice.  Each of these guys has taken me somewhere I've never been.  Of course, I was able to screen them before we met so that I could tell if they were creepy (as best one can.)  I thought they were all pretty cool.  3 of them are real possibilities.  And what's absolutely shocking to me - because despite all of my talents in other areas of my life, I'm deeply insecure about my romantic prospects - these guys have all pretty much fallen for me.  No, I'm not leading them on.  They just really liked me.  I'm shocked!
  Here's the thing:  I still think like a fat girl.  I still think that I have to settle for any old guy because a great guy wouldn't like someone fat.  I know that there are all kinds of problems to that (and I promise that I've been working on them) but it's still there.  
  So. Last night's date was absolutely fabulous.  This man is stunning - very, very handsome.  I couldn't stop staring at him.  And he thought that I was, too.  (This kills me!) And he's brilliant, has a great job, lives nearby, is a personal chef on the side, is athletic, and...has this adorable british accent.  I couldn't really ask for better.  Oh, I forgot to mention that *he's totally into me!* And he's a complete gentleman.  We're going back out tomorrow night.  
  Dating introduces new challenges to the diet, of course.  I feel less excited about telling these guys that I used to be fat.  I know.  But I just do.  Which means that I haven't told anyone about the surgery,either.  
  Meanwhile, they've all been foodies.  As many of you know, I eat out almost exclusively, so that's not the problem.  (I've figured out how to select the healthy item off the menu, etc.)  So as they introduce me to new foods (fortunately, most people are sensitive to food concerns, so they've only given me stuff I would eat anyway) my problem is that I'm not eating much of the food - just a bite - which seems strange to them.  I just tell them that I eat very slowly, which is, of course, true.  And that I don't eat dessert because refined sugars make me really sick, which is, of course, also true.  
  But I feel like such a hypocrite!  I'm the one who's all about telling everyone about the surgery.  Now...not so much.  So I think that, eventually, if anything serious develops, I will have to disclose.  For now, though, I'll just be that mysterious fit girl who can only eat a bite.  I guess I always wanted to be her...and now I am.
  Anyway, I thought I'd just update you all on things.  We'll see where all of this goes...
  Anything you've read in here of concern?  Anything you're noticing that I seem not to be?  
  Thanks for all of your support, lws! 

lol Good for you, Rosa!  I've been itching to post a "Where's Rosa?" post for the past 5 days or so. I'm glad you are putting your MIA time to good use. Have fun, babeee!

--gina

:)  lol on the MIA time.  ;)

Thanks, Gina!

 Hot Mama!!! Enjoy yourself to the fullest.  YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE.

That's what I'm talking about!  

Thanks, Rachel.

I've been trying the on line dating thing for awhile......I've only met one person tho.......lol  I'm to afraid to really meet these guys.  I have had many people send me messages that are NOT my "type" at all....you know SHORT, inactive, looking for a mommy, works at a fast food restaurant or worse yet "self employed" in a felonous kind of way or he can't spell or create a grammatically correct sentence to save their life, the list just goes on!  So I give you props for taking the risk!

As far as not divulging the fact that you have had surgery is your choice.  I think my only concern about being the "fit girl who only eats a bite" is that they will start to think you have an eating disorder and disqualify you as a crazy girl who's eating is way off balance!  I would suggest if you have 2 dates that gives you time to know if the guy is worth keeping around and you drop the bomb on the third date.  That way if he decides to bail you know he wasn't really that into you to begin with and if he sticks around he really is diggin ya!

Have a blast!  I wish I were in NYC where the options are so much better!

 "in a felonious kind of way" - LOL, Heather. 

Trust me, I'm getting my fair share of those messages, too!  It's crazy.  My profile actually says something about needing to write with complete sentences - I just couldn't take it.  ;)

I'm not sure that the options are better, they're probably just more plentiful.  When you have 12 million people in a city every day...

Good luck in this, Heather.  BTW, what ever happened with the guy?  The housemate guy?

 U can always tell them U had hiatal hernia surgery   recently so cant eat cuz of that .... I would so not tell a guy i had WLS  .

I mean my HUSBAND   doesnt even know .....  and he had it himself lol....

U guys may think thats weird - all right I think its weird ..

but U know what ..I dont need to have it thrown in my face when he feels like picking a fight or not eating his vegetables ....

I just dont think we need to humiliate ourselves by asking for others approval or ignorant OPINION about our lifesaving surgery .

Who goes around talking about their mastectomy or the polyps being removed from their colon ? I kind of think bariatric surgery its the same thing........ PRIVATE .

MY business NOT yours .

You make some good (and provocative) points (as usual) Ava!

I totally understand your decision.