Well, its official............

A baby is never a mistake....it is always a blessing even if it wasn't "planned".  I wish your family all the best and I am sure you will LOVE being a grammie!

awwww Cindyyy,
i know it will all work out. jsut knowing that ur daughter has support from u is whats going to get her thru her education and everything else . i hope she has a great pregnancy .
when is her due date? im so glad the father is a good guy too that helps . good luck i cant wait to become a nana u have no idea lololol i was just looking at trendy grandma names how funny is that? lololol

Dont know the official due date yet.  Just doing some research online Im guessing around the beginning of August.  She has an appt next Tuesday.  Thanks, Cindy  

hey Cindyyyyyyyyyy,
if u know when her last period was all u do is go back 3 months and add 7 days from her last period
so like if last period was jan 4th i would go back 3 months oct and ahead 7 days 11th so it would be oct 11th

Cindy - I'm glad you're looking at it positively - and supporting her getting education is a big thing!  I know it won't be easy... and with the dad in the picture, hopefully that will make things a little easier.

Hugs to you and your daughter - I hope she has an uneventful pregnancy!

I know this wasn't exactly the news you were hoping for but at least you have had a few days to process the thought before it was "REAL"!  Your daughter is very lucky to have such a supportive mother!  I didn't have my children when I was a teenager but I had my first daughter when I was 21 which as we all know is close enough.......LOL  I'm glad that the father wants to be a part of this.  However, you should encourage your daughter to go to college so she is able to support her child regardless because for some reason it's alot easier for a father to walk away when the going gets tough more so than a mother.  I know from first hand experience TWICE!  If you ever want some advice on chosing colleges I can help you......I researched many colleges for thier support systems they have in place for single parents!

Good luck Grandma Cindy.........hey my oldest has one of those too.......they are the best grandmas EVER! 

Cindy, I know you are going to be a great grandma!!  I can tell you it is the best thing in the world - I love it.  I am so glad you are supporting her and going to help her continue her education.  I wish we all lived close to each other so we could give you a grandma shower!!

Linda

 I was pregnant at 16 and had my daughter at only 17 years old. It was not easy by any means and it really changed the road my life took but I made it and so did my daughter. My biggest regret was not being able to go to college :( I can see that my daughter who is now 13 is a lil more grown up than her peers and not in a "good mature way" more like a older teen than she should be and im sure that comes from being raised by a teenager… I was always there and my parents did not really help, but i was a kid and didn't filter music and things like a parent normally would cause i was still a dumb kid. I had two more children later… at 25 and 28 after getting married to someone else and it has been a totally different experience. At 17 if you told me I would want to raise the next kids differently I would have said you were crazy and I knew what i was doing. but i would have been wrong. My boys are more innocent children than my daughter ever was, I am more aware as I am a grown woman who is not in school, not working two jobs and not worrying about making ends meet. Its hard and it changes everything but I can say at 30…. I have the life anyone who loved me would have wanted for me… Im married… own my own business have three wonderful children and own my own home. All the things I thought being a teen mom would take from me. The best thing you can do for your daughter is be there, and teach her her how to be a parent without becoming the parent to her child. Help her with the relationship with her boyfriend, it will be hard and not many make it as at that age no matter how mature you are the stress of a child breaks 99 percent of teen romances up. I swore this would not happen to me… it did. We grew up and grew into different people… really how many of us are the same person we were at 17? Sorry to rant… I look back and see so many things i wish i could change for my daughters sake but overall am really happy with where i ended up in life. People ask if i regret "keeping" my daughter and I say no i love her more than life itself but if i was given the choice to have the same child 5 years later id be all over it. My daughter and I were just talking about sex and she asked about if she got pregnant what would I want her to do… and i told her its your choice and I could have never given her up because I loved her and wanted her but looking back that choice was all about what i wanted not what was best for her and i can now see how much she would have benifited from a home with a stable and successful mom and dad so I would not stop her and maybe even encourage her toward adoption but cant even imagine how hard that choice would be. I do feel like being a teen mom has defined my life for so long, when I go to back to school night, the other moms know im like 20 years younger and treat me differently. Its par for the course i guess, but on the upside all of my daughters friends think its super cool that we like all the same music and stuff. One kid recently asked her "Is it weird that you and your mom are like the same age?" lol Its a tough road but you'll all make and you'll learn what your made of for sure. If you ever need to talk hit me up… Ive been though it and know how bumpy this road can be.

jennchap, thank you for this post. You gave me alot to think about.  You sound like an awesome Mom!  I hope you stick around the LW forum. Would love to see you post more often.  Cindy

 Thanks! I love this forum, one last thing I forgot… Over the last year a lot of girls from HS have found me on FaceBook and lots of them had babies around the same age. At 17 I was so jelous of them all, their moms watched the baby all the time so they could party go on trips all the normal teen things. Now looking at their lives they all got a really raw deal. They are all in the same boat: Married to someone other than the first babys dad with children from that new relationship and that first baby… still lives with grandma :( The relationship seems very broken and everyone seems resentful. The Grandma seems to be the happiest as she has come to love this child as her own, how could she not? But the babys mom resents her mom for "stealing" her baby as they all say, but really over time it just happened and I am sure that child has a lot of rejection issues as they see their mom raising other children but not them. Just something to think about. I wish my family would have been more supportive as far as college goes but am glad they didn't just babysit so I could go "be a kid" I choose to give that up when I decided to keep her. To keep some sense of normalcy I did go out at night once my daughter could sleep through the night and only went out after she was asleep, babies go to bed pretty early :) Looking back though I can see how much that would have ruined my relationship with my daughter… Oh and you know how we all think we know who we are at 17…. well who would have known my daughters dad would now be openly gay and living with his life partner…. lol haha not him or I but we've ended up with a nice big family who love and respect each other but that took years as we were too angry after the break up to not be ******** to each other for years :)