OT - holiday difficulties - reflecting
Hi All,
I do hope your holidays were great and you bring in a great new year!
I posted about a week ago (and you all were amazingly supportive!!) about feeling stressed/anxiety, hormonal ups and downs from the weight loss ect. I had decided to call my PCP (and did) but she can not see me until January 11th (small office as she is the only doctor) so that is fine and I don't feel like it is an emergency so that is good I have that on the calendar and will make it to her in the next two weeks as well as look for someone to work through a bit of this with as we have pretty good insurance so I think that will be fine.
So all was o****il the night of the 23rd. I slept through the first two calls and finally my husband got up to find out why someone was calling us so late. My 24 year old cousin (on his birthday) had been killed in a very serious car accident. I remember the day he was born, and grew up with him and his sister as my little cousins. He lived less than 5 miles away from me my whole life. The sadness our family is feeling is immeasurable.
The one thing I can say is that I am really feeling all of this and not eating my way through this one. I think that is why I have been so down from even before this tragedy but didn't realize it until something this horrible happened. In the past I had eaten my way through the feelings even if they were just the meaningless stressors of daily life (not even anything significant) so I think that is the reason that this stupid anxiety/impatience is getting to me because I have to find another way that is healthy to deal with things on a daily basis and in this case, for the big stressors as well.
My head is not really here right now (and sorry if I have been absent and not as supportive as I would like to be) but wanted to pop into one of the most amazing group of supportive people I have ever met and share today.
Happy New Year to you all and wishing you all health and happiness.
Ann Marie
I do hope your holidays were great and you bring in a great new year!
I posted about a week ago (and you all were amazingly supportive!!) about feeling stressed/anxiety, hormonal ups and downs from the weight loss ect. I had decided to call my PCP (and did) but she can not see me until January 11th (small office as she is the only doctor) so that is fine and I don't feel like it is an emergency so that is good I have that on the calendar and will make it to her in the next two weeks as well as look for someone to work through a bit of this with as we have pretty good insurance so I think that will be fine.
So all was o****il the night of the 23rd. I slept through the first two calls and finally my husband got up to find out why someone was calling us so late. My 24 year old cousin (on his birthday) had been killed in a very serious car accident. I remember the day he was born, and grew up with him and his sister as my little cousins. He lived less than 5 miles away from me my whole life. The sadness our family is feeling is immeasurable.
The one thing I can say is that I am really feeling all of this and not eating my way through this one. I think that is why I have been so down from even before this tragedy but didn't realize it until something this horrible happened. In the past I had eaten my way through the feelings even if they were just the meaningless stressors of daily life (not even anything significant) so I think that is the reason that this stupid anxiety/impatience is getting to me because I have to find another way that is healthy to deal with things on a daily basis and in this case, for the big stressors as well.
My head is not really here right now (and sorry if I have been absent and not as supportive as I would like to be) but wanted to pop into one of the most amazing group of supportive people I have ever met and share today.
Happy New Year to you all and wishing you all health and happiness.
Ann Marie
HW: 242
SW: 225
CW: 178
GW: 140
SW: 225
CW: 178
GW: 140
Ann Marie,
I am so sorry for your family's loss. That is so tragic. You are right, we cannot eat away our feelings any more and must find another way to deal with them.
I have been really bad about my exercise or atleast walking. When I do this, I do feel so much better and it really helps with the stress.
Take care of yourself and I'll be thinking about your family.
Linda
I am so sorry for your family's loss. That is so tragic. You are right, we cannot eat away our feelings any more and must find another way to deal with them.
I have been really bad about my exercise or atleast walking. When I do this, I do feel so much better and it really helps with the stress.
Take care of yourself and I'll be thinking about your family.
Linda
14.5 lost pre-surgery 5'1 1/2" 
Ann Marie - I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - and the holidays are especially a hard time to deal with, without a tragedy.
As far as your emotional eating - I think you'll find most of us have realized the same thing, we now need to find another outlet in which to vent our problems and issues. You'll see many have resorted to exercise, which does release endorphins and helps the coping mechanism kick in.
I'm glad you're going to see your PCP, she may have some other suggestions for you.
You take all the time you need to get yourself together, and remember we're here for you!
As far as your emotional eating - I think you'll find most of us have realized the same thing, we now need to find another outlet in which to vent our problems and issues. You'll see many have resorted to exercise, which does release endorphins and helps the coping mechanism kick in.
I'm glad you're going to see your PCP, she may have some other suggestions for you.
You take all the time you need to get yourself together, and remember we're here for you!
HW-218/SW-208/CW-126/ Lowest Weight-121/Goal-125 - hit 8/23/09/Height-5'3"
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Ann Marie, there is nothing I can say that will make you feel better but I am so sorry for your and your families loss. 24 yr olds are not suppose to leave before they have time to have a life. But we don't get to make those decisions.
I'm sure you will find a way to handle your stress. Talking to your PCP may help. God bless you and your family.
I'm sure you will find a way to handle your stress. Talking to your PCP may help. God bless you and your family.
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Ann Marie,
I am very sorry for your loss. The death of a family member is very painful, but the sudden unexpected death can be unbearable at times.
It is perfectly normal that you are missing your comfort foods. Good for you for working as hard as you are to not return to them during this time. I agree with others that exercise is a good option. It has been shown in many studies to improve both anxiety and depression symptoms. You may not feel like doing anything right now, but taking care of yourself is still very important.
Tonia
I am very sorry for your loss. The death of a family member is very painful, but the sudden unexpected death can be unbearable at times.
It is perfectly normal that you are missing your comfort foods. Good for you for working as hard as you are to not return to them during this time. I agree with others that exercise is a good option. It has been shown in many studies to improve both anxiety and depression symptoms. You may not feel like doing anything right now, but taking care of yourself is still very important.
Tonia
RNY 11/15/2010
HW 280ish
SW (after 6 month diet) 247
Lowest post-surgery 183
Current 241
Considering revision to DS - have appointment 8/15/2017
Dear Ann Marie,
I do hope that you're feeling joined in this process. I completely agree with everything everyone else has said. I would just add the point that you are not alone in this. Your feelings are yours, of course, but know that we are with you however it's possible. And in some ways, it is. In others, it isn't. The ways in which we can't be with you, and now, food can't be with you, will invite you to be creative in order to find ways to cope.
I pray that creativity leads to positive developments in your life - it absolutely can. Sharing your concerns and where you are (just as you've been doing!) is a great step. Help from professionals (which you're already seeking!) is another.
Blessings to you, Ann Marie, to your family and all who mourn this loss.
Rosa
PS - please don't apologize! It's our job as fellow lightweights to listen, and when you can, you are or will, too.
I do hope that you're feeling joined in this process. I completely agree with everything everyone else has said. I would just add the point that you are not alone in this. Your feelings are yours, of course, but know that we are with you however it's possible. And in some ways, it is. In others, it isn't. The ways in which we can't be with you, and now, food can't be with you, will invite you to be creative in order to find ways to cope.
I pray that creativity leads to positive developments in your life - it absolutely can. Sharing your concerns and where you are (just as you've been doing!) is a great step. Help from professionals (which you're already seeking!) is another.
Blessings to you, Ann Marie, to your family and all who mourn this loss.
Rosa
PS - please don't apologize! It's our job as fellow lightweights to listen, and when you can, you are or will, too.
5'4 CW: 130, GW: 130
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