Is it just me?

Is it just me, or does anyone else's jaw drop when they see a post by someone wanting to know when they can start eating chips, or bread, or pancakes, french toast, whatever?  It seems like that's a recipe for failure before they have even started. 

I agree. I have had lots of friends in "real life" ask me all about the surgery because they want to lose weight and think it's the easy way out. When I tell them about my diet and exercise program, they don't want to have the surgery.

I recently heard (I have a friend who is a nurse at the hospital my surgeon uses) about a lady that had gastric bypass with my surgeon, so I know she went through a long program pre-op with a dietitian, exercise specialist, psych. dr, etc. She left the hospital two days post-op and went through the drive-thru at McDonald's on the way home. She ordered a Big Mac, gulped down a few bites and ended up right back at the hospital because she had done some major damage. I don't get it. Another lady had caramels in her hospital bag and was sneaking them before she was even supposed to have liquids (like before the leak test).

I started a big chain the other day on the VSG along these same lines.  I simply said I was tired of hearing it and people should follow their programs.  Some didn't take too well to it, but those are probalby the people that it hits home with.  I do have a co-worker that had RNY about 2 years ago and now she is bringing in McDonalds everyday for Breakfast, doesn'****ch what she eats.  I don't understand it.  Why go through all the trouble and then not do what you are supposed to do?

When I first started looking into WLS, I knew two people that had it. both were years out from RNY. One was healthy, worked out, slim, ate healthy, still small portions...the other had lost tons, and regained lots. She ate crap constantly, had stretched her pouch from over-eating, when we went out to eat, you could not tell she had surgery. She could finish a restaurant sized meal. It showed me what I needed to do to be successful.

I'm wondering if some of them are very young or haven't gone through the extensive approval process.  I have to watch myself when I read a post and someone's upset because they're gaining weight back and then you look at what they're eating and think duh. 

I did not go through the approval process and I am incredibly watchful of how I eat.  I think - we are all just as such different places.  I did not go through any food funerals because I was at the end of my rope, I had come to the end of me, I KNEW what all that trash was doing to me, but was overwhelmed and out of control. 

Now - I try and just wish peace and wisdom on those folks.  Its like folks who KNOW that eating X is what made it so they are failing their second weight loss surgery, but refuse to actually go through the pain of GETTING THROUGH the withdrawls.  They come back every couple of months asking what people eat, how many calories, what's the deal with PCOS, et cetera, and when you look in their latest posts, you see pages and pages and pages of the same exact question, just phrased in different ways.

A lady just said over on the other board "If I have to diet and exercise, what's the point of getting surgery?"

What indeed?  I dunno.  We are all just so different in our places on our journeys.  Bless us all so that we can get to healthy, happy, and whole without doing damage along the way. 

When folks gain weight back, I always go into the latest posts and read their history.  ITs incredibly telling - and I do not do that to be a finger wagger or a holier than thou human, I do it because - if I had a map to get me somewhere, and every single pitfall was marked along the way.. why in the WORLD would not I follow the road that has less chance of the bridge being out or whatever? 

Again.  *shrug*  We are all so different in clumps. 

It is so sad, because they will be the ones that drive others that could be helped away by telling them "it doesn't work"....

And to think I am feeling guilty about wanting refried beans right now....it may VERY well be my breakfast 11 mornings from now...but not a day sooner.  This only works if you take control of the urges...and I realize this is my first of MANY to win control over in order to be successful.

I don't want to ruffle any feathers but I DO eat every one of the things that you just listed on a regular basis....just in very small portions.  When I make pancakes or waffles for my boys I eat a few bites of one.  When I have a sandwich I have a few regular chips with it and yes, I eat the bread that is on the sandwich.  I absolutely do not count calories, fat grams, or carbs....I track my protein and my water that is all and I have been greatly successful at losing this weight and I have never been more healthy.  I am only 1 pound from goal at almost 8 months out and have not had a single stall.  I did not have this surgery to be on a strict diet for the rest of my life.   I know not everyone takes this approach and those of us that do certainly aren't very vocal about it but we are out there.  Maybe some of you will think that it is only a matter of time until the weight starts piling back on but I don't think so.  I eat VERY healthy for the most part, VERY small portions. I rarely have hunger or cravings but when I do I eat whatever it is that sounds good to me.  I am so grateful and thankful that I was able to have this surgery that allows me to be in control which is a feeling I never had before surgery.  Anyway, just my two cents.

Yea, but you are months and months out babygirl.  And you *have not* had a problem with stalling because of those things and then come cry cry cry about how your surgery failed you.

This is true and I am annoyed by posts about eating things too early for sure....that is insane.  I was way too scared to eat anything too early.