RANT- Tired of People Insinuating I'm Vain

What woman DOESN'T want to look good??  Show me one that says that they don't care about that and I will show a liar. lol    Sure, some of us care more about our looks than others but we all do to a certain extent.  It's in our makeup to want to be attractive and look our best and why shouldn't we if we can??  Just don't listen to that garbage...it's none of their concern and you will soon find out that the better you look the more the green eyed monster will rear it's ugly head with many of your friends and family.  It's sad but it's reality.  Wishing you all the success in the world and total HOTNESS!! 

Anyone who says they don't care about their looks, I would say have them checked for signs of serious depression.  It is hard coded into our DNA to care how we look.   But, I honestly believe that 99% of us who have gone through the torture of a year or more of preop requirements:  labs, NUT consults, psych evaluations, etc., etc. not to mention the expense of  those self-paying are doing it for our HEALTH and to add more years to our lives. 

Why does this society love to kick people who seem to be making progress toward personal goals?  I don't get it.  I can certainly be happy for anyone who is improving their lot in life.

Kat

 Ah, but not caring about your looks isn't the same thing as not believing that thinness and hotness are synonyms. I'm hot already (sexy even!) Being fat doesn't change that. :) 

I agree and I felt the same, I had confidence and felt sexy when I was obese and I got attention from men all the time but my hotness and my confidence and my sexiness have multiplied ten times over with the weight off and I think you will find the same to be true when the pounds start to melt away....just you wait and see!

Well, it is certainly true that thinness and hotness are not necessarily related.  I have always felt sassy, even at just over 200 pounds and the DH has never stopped chasing me!  But, the more pounds that come off the sexier I am feeling!  And I have just gotten started!

I started looking into WLS just after my mother's death 2 years ago.  She did not die from weight-related issues but just seemed to give up on life and that spurred me on to do something to improve the quality of my own life.  It has been a hard road and I know it will continue to be but I want to see my grandchildren grow up and I definitely want to grow old with my DH.

Blessings,
Kat      

Exactly why i never told anyone I was having WLS.  Almost 6 years out and still no one knows how I lost all the weight.

That is awesome...wish I had taken that route!

I'd rather be vain than jealous!  Being vain means you love who you are no matter what anyone else thinks.....being jealous means you are insecure in who you are and wish to be like others.  Just remember that for everyone who tells you that you don't need surgery there is another person who only wishes they wieghed 15lbs more so they could qualify for the surgery.  You will experience jealousy throughout your entire journey......just love you and you'll be fine!

Heather

I'm always amused when people get all upset at other people saying WLS is "the easy way out," or that we do it "to look better."  As though either of those was a BAD thing!

I admit it -- I had my surgery because I wanted to look better, and compared to a lifetime of unsuccessful yo-yo dieting and exercise, it's been super-easy.  So what?  How is that anybody's business but mine?  I feel absolutely zero need to justify any of it to anybody.