What a crazy, exhausting month!

The VA covers my mothers but Medicare would if they didn't.
My mom is 87 and a retired nurse. I didn't think the day care would last a few days. She griped turned her nose up at the place.
But, she gets up every morning told me she was going to work. Lol
I live a couple hours drive from my mother.
I'm looking at one of two options soon
My home or a nursing home for her. I know even if she moves in with me she needs to have others around her instead of just sitting under me. So

Sorry, Message posted before I was finished.

We do what we do for our parents because we love them and it's the right thing to do!
But, sometimes we must look at the bigger picture of if everyone is happy and being taking care of in the situation( including ourselves) and believe me I'm one to talk! Please pm me if you'd like to talk.
Pam

So true Pam!

This morning the RN came (she has 3 more visits and we're done) mom is improving everyday. BUT...the one thing that is hard is when does the boredom set in. Even at her house she was conten****ching TV or reading. The RN asked is she had hobbys etc,....to keep her mind active and sharp. I want her to understand that I know the change is huge and living with someone else is going to be tough but I want her to feel at home and have free run of the house. But she doesn't want to do anything....my aunt crochets and others do puzzles. lol. None of that's for her. I can see that too because it would bore me to death. lol. I told her once she is more mobile we'll go to the mall, lunches, movies etc.

I'm self employed and here Mon-Friday but not a lot of fun because I do work and have a heavy workload everyday.

Thanks so much for your help and suggestions.

When does the boredom set in? My mom has gotten to where she doesn't want to do anything for herself. Especially when she's at my home. You never saw dirty dishes or clothes and now when I go over I've become the cleaning lady as well as the chauffeur.

I wish you the best of luck. Remember,'yourself and your family in all of this .
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Pam

 Wow!  You have a lot on your plate, girl.  I'm sorry I don't have any practical advice, except to say don't forget to take care of yourself, too.  Also, I know they have adult  "day care" available here in Santa Clarita.  Maybe your mom will improve enough to be able to spend a few hours a week there and give you and your family a bit of a break.

Thanks Shellie. I think once things fall into rhythm, it will get smooth. My mom would cringe at adult day care. She didn't even like when I suggested hanging out at the senior center and getting to meet people. One thing I have noticed of mom as she got older is lack of intolerance. But I guess that's commom with some of the elderly.

Plus once she is getting around I'm sure my brothers will have her over for the day. As long as I tell them she is NOT the maid and babysitter that that always used her for.  But don't get me started with that. lol