Hmmm. Should I or Shouldn't I???

I just got a save the date for my 15th high school reunion.  

I liked my high school enough - I got the most incredible education [a whole lot of] money can buy.  I'm grateful to the school and glad I went.  (Whether or not I go, I'll definitely send the school a gift in honor of the reunion.)  

But it just seems so far behind me.  I am such a different person now than I was then - for the better, I believe - and I'm not really sure that I want to see those girls because I don't want to re-enter into those relationships and possibly revert to my "mean girl" ways.  That's just not me anymore.  (It probably never really was.)

What do you think?  Should I go?  I kindof feel like I'm going to determine whether or not to go based on how much I weigh in April.  Am I awful?

 I say go, but only if you think you'll have fun.  There's really no other reason to go.

This summer, three of my best friends from 3rd to 12th grade came to my town for a 60th birthday reunion.  It was fabulous!  We had so much fun.  That said, I've never gone to my HS reunions.  :)

At 61, I have never been to a high school reunion.  None of those folks are part of my lives or have been since I left high school.  Of course, being obese didn't help that decision.  I agree, go if it will make you happy.  I didn't have any risk of getting involved with anyone.  We are half a country away.

I went to my 25th just out of curiousity, and it was fun seeing some of my old friends again.
I had more fun though at the night before, instead of the formal dinner.
But it was funny to see some of the old cliques form right up again!
Dont think I will attend another.
Maria

Like the others said, only go if you think you will have fun.  That being said, a new slimmer you will have fun wherever you go in April.  I think for most people (thank goodness) the "mean girl" ways end in highschool, so I would worry too much about that.  I missed my 20th and always regretted it but did make it to an overall reunion of my highschool because it was being torn down this summer.  I had a great time.

And NO, you're not awful!

I'm like the others, I would only go if I thought I would have a good time.
We just had one this summer 38 years.  I've never attended one.  I was going to go this year but it was on a weekend I couldn't leave town.  I don't feel bad that I missed it.  I did get to have lunch with some I graduated with and I enjoyed that.
I might go when we have our 40th year.  There is probably only a handful of people I would like to see.
I would never have gone before WLS. 
Linda

This past weekend I went to my 15 year 8th grade reunion. I went to a "gifted" school where the district chose kids from all of the primary schools, did tons of academic testing, etc to get in. There were few students per grade, and we all got really close. We all got split up and went back to the regular high schools for our neighborhoods. It was so much fun! A year ago, I would not have gone, but I was the skinniest one there! I am smaller now than I was in 8th grade! I am a different person now too, but so are all of my old friends. It was cool to catch up.

Helpful, thank you! I think I've decided to go as long as I'm skinnier than I was when I graduated. I think I'm on track for that to happen...

Hi Rosa..

I think you will find that most of the women will have outgrown the mean girl behaviors and you will bond again over your commonalities of being women rather than competitors. There might be 1 or 2 who still feel the need to feel superior, but you can just smile at them and think to yourself "how sad for her", and then rejoin the people who have grown up. And I can tell you from my own experience, you will regret not going.

And I would like to offer some advice that I am just starting to figure out for myself too: When interacting with others our insecurities creep in so easily and they often will shape our choice of words or will make us try harder to impress, or conversely, will make us feel and act defensive, etc. I don't know if my new revelation is something that has come with age or what but all I know is that I'm grateful and relieved to be rid of the burden of caring so much about the impression I am making. The insecure voice in my head that used to cause me to brag or overstate or get defensive or name drop or embellish, etc. is gone. And when I feel it creeping back and shaping what I say (or bringing on reasons to avoid social situations like the reunion), I just remind myself to just let go and be in the moment and fully interested and engaged w/ the other person. I remind myself to just listen to the other person's story to hear it rather than compare; offer a suggestion because it would be helpful, not to sound intelligent; tell a story to make a connection, rather than to impress. It is so liberating and allows you to connect in ways that just feel so much better.... and the irony is that you will make a better impression on the person because trying to impress was not your goal. It just happens.

ooxx

 This is very very good advice, Kathy!  Thank you.