Its Yom Kippur!
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on 9/18/10 3:53 am, edited 9/18/10 3:57 am
on 9/18/10 3:53 am, edited 9/18/10 3:57 am
It the Jewish holiday of atonement .. when U admit to God all he sins U committed this past year and humbly ask for forgiveness and improvement ....
Its a milestone holiday - when we take stock of our year and resolve to do better in the new one ...
For me my surgery date also coincides ( almost ) with Yom Kippur... so I have a LOT to tell God about and thank Him for His assistance for ....
I am newly aware of many things I do that do NOT help my recovery from food addiction . Things that depress my self esteem. Part of that is relationships that were forged when i was a different , heavier and suffering person .
I was honestly glad to have ANY help and acceptance ...then.... and didnt mind eating the pain when the relationship hurt me emotionally and damaged my self esteem. NOW, well , I SEE it .
I DONT gladly suffer it anymore . I dont think i was ever GLAD about it .. just in willful denial most of the time . Now , the blinders have slipped from my eyes ... and I know i need to protect myself better in order not to inevitably overeat .
I may be getting married in November . Part of me says you should be glad anyone wants to marry you ..... and part of me says hold up ! hes a freak for constant attention .... have U EVER had a positive relationship with a guy ? This whole relationship is built around You taking care of HIM in his mind.... and is that what U WANT ? ! Or NEED ?!
On the other hand .. hes a good , reliable , hardworking guy . He'll be faithful. Im good for him and i think being married will be good for me ....
ACHH !! I AM VERY grateful for how far Ive come and how much ive matured in this last year .... something i would never even have known to ASK for when i thought my only problem was 100 extra lbs ! Love U all !!
Happy New Year!!
Its a milestone holiday - when we take stock of our year and resolve to do better in the new one ...
For me my surgery date also coincides ( almost ) with Yom Kippur... so I have a LOT to tell God about and thank Him for His assistance for ....
I am newly aware of many things I do that do NOT help my recovery from food addiction . Things that depress my self esteem. Part of that is relationships that were forged when i was a different , heavier and suffering person .
I was honestly glad to have ANY help and acceptance ...then.... and didnt mind eating the pain when the relationship hurt me emotionally and damaged my self esteem. NOW, well , I SEE it .
I DONT gladly suffer it anymore . I dont think i was ever GLAD about it .. just in willful denial most of the time . Now , the blinders have slipped from my eyes ... and I know i need to protect myself better in order not to inevitably overeat .
I may be getting married in November . Part of me says you should be glad anyone wants to marry you ..... and part of me says hold up ! hes a freak for constant attention .... have U EVER had a positive relationship with a guy ? This whole relationship is built around You taking care of HIM in his mind.... and is that what U WANT ? ! Or NEED ?!
On the other hand .. hes a good , reliable , hardworking guy . He'll be faithful. Im good for him and i think being married will be good for me ....
ACHH !! I AM VERY grateful for how far Ive come and how much ive matured in this last year .... something i would never even have known to ASK for when i thought my only problem was 100 extra lbs ! Love U all !!
Happy New Year!! 
What exciting and anxiety producing news about getting married. Hell, I've been marrier so long, almost 38 yrs, I don't remember much about those feelings. We were older for then, 24 and 30 and I just knew it was right. And it was. It has definately been good for me.
Wishing you love and luck. And Happy Yom Kippur.
Wishing you love and luck. And Happy Yom Kippur.
66 yrs young, 4'11" hw 220, goal 120 met at 12 months, cw 129 learning Maintainance
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Ava,
Happy New Year and congratulations on all the gains you've made over the past year. It truly is a time to be grateful to Yahweh.
Personally, I would pray hard about the marriage. I know this may sound silly coming from a woman who just celebrated her 40th anniversary but the very best marriages take lots of work. There is NOTHING better when it is going right, but it still is a LOT of work and the most important thing for you to remember after all you've been through to get healthy is just how very valuable YOU are.
Blessings and love,
Kat70
Happy New Year and congratulations on all the gains you've made over the past year. It truly is a time to be grateful to Yahweh.
Personally, I would pray hard about the marriage. I know this may sound silly coming from a woman who just celebrated her 40th anniversary but the very best marriages take lots of work. There is NOTHING better when it is going right, but it still is a LOT of work and the most important thing for you to remember after all you've been through to get healthy is just how very valuable YOU are.
Blessings and love,
Kat70
I am 4" 11" HW: 207 SW: 190 CW: 163 Surgery date: 9/23/10
Ava,
I waited until I was 50 to marry my mensch. First I thought no one would be interested in fat me, then I went to a fabulous therapist who helped me find the real me, even before I lost weight. So I got married 4 years ago and my ONLY regret is that we didn't meet earler. I know I am good for him, but he is also soooo good for me.
I love being married but sometimes it is almost harder than trying to lose weight. In the best of relationships it is give and take. Make sure you marry the man who gives as much as he takes.If it is hard being fat and miserable, it would be horrible being thin and miserable.
That being said, mine was worth the wait and I was blessed to spend Yom Kippur with him again this year. May your choices give you peace and joy as you enter this new year of health and happiness L'Shana Tova
I waited until I was 50 to marry my mensch. First I thought no one would be interested in fat me, then I went to a fabulous therapist who helped me find the real me, even before I lost weight. So I got married 4 years ago and my ONLY regret is that we didn't meet earler. I know I am good for him, but he is also soooo good for me.
I love being married but sometimes it is almost harder than trying to lose weight. In the best of relationships it is give and take. Make sure you marry the man who gives as much as he takes.If it is hard being fat and miserable, it would be horrible being thin and miserable.
That being said, mine was worth the wait and I was blessed to spend Yom Kippur with him again this year. May your choices give you peace and joy as you enter this new year of health and happiness L'Shana Tova
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