How do you handle the "getting too thin" comments?

Happy_Camper
on 9/13/10 6:19 am

Ok...first here are my stats:

Im 5' 8"

I started off at 278 lbs - BMI 42.3
Im now 169 lbs - BMI 25.7

My normal BMI range is 18.5 - 24.9 - So Im 5 lbs from being within the "normal" BMI range.

Im getting all kinds of "You're getting too thin" , "Be careful, you dont want to look anorexic" comments. I keep telling myself that people arent used to the thinner me. They have known the obese Cindy for all those years. I just tell them that Im close to my normal BMI goal weight, then I will start the maintaining phase. My surgeon never gave me a goal weight. He said my body would stop at a certain point. The comments are driving me crazy!!! How did everyone else handle this? Cindy

Surgery March 2, 2010 - 5' 9" - HW 278 / SW 260 / CW 139 / GW 150

sam1am
on 9/13/10 6:28 am

VSG on 09/08/09

I tell them I'm done losing then do what I want. It keeps them quiet for a little while at least!

Sandy
                "The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody  else up"
                              Mark Twain          Animation One

Sharonda
on 9/13/10 6:51 am - Canada

VSG on 11/10/09 with

Me too...I just tell them "Nope, I don't plan on loosing anymore" and then continue as I am. I sense it is a threat to some, as it was for me too when I was really fat and seeing someone else suceed made me feel worse about not doing well myself. So I understand where some are coming from, but all the same, I'm not going to let it stop me from achieving my goal. They will have to deal with their own stuff, just as I do, fat or thin.

5'4"
HW 242
SW 202
GW 115
CW 146

VeraG
on 9/13/10 6:54 am - Bonner Springs, KS

VSG on 04/20/10

Tell them you're being monitored by healthcare professionals and are doing just great!

Living until I die!

Jody ***
on 9/13/10 6:59 am - Brighton, MI

RNY on 10/21/08 with

I just told them "yep - I'm done"... then kept on doing what I was doing.

I still get "are you still losing weight?"... Umm - NO - I've been the same for about a year, bouncing a few lbs here and there - I've actually gained a few lbs.. but I guess they don't see that. I just give them a baffled look and say "NO - but I'd like to".. haha - I'm one for punch and reaction.

HW-218/SW-208/CW-126/ Lowest Weight-121/Goal-125 - hit 8/23/09/Height-5'3"

Regain 30 lbs from 2012 to 2016 - got back on track and lost it. Took 8 months.
90+/- pounds lost BMI - 24 or so
Starting BMI between 35 and 40ish?
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Happy_Camper
on 9/13/10 7:09 am

RNY on 03/02/10

Thanks everyone!!!! Im going to continue along with my journey and try to let their comments roll off my back. Cindy

Surgery March 2, 2010 - 5' 9" - HW 278 / SW 260 / CW 139 / GW 150

Roz !!!!
on 9/13/10 12:15 pm - Butler, PA

Don't stop losing for anyone but yourself!!! Once you stop losing and are maintaining the comments will stop from most people.

You are right about them not being used to the new you, but I also think we go through stage of looking pale because we have lost so much so fast. I never noticed because I felt so good but my DD's tell me now that there was a time frame that they were worried about me. When I look back at my pictures, I can see what they were talking about. My eyes didn't sparkle and I looked pale.

I also think if you wear clothes that fit you really good then you don't look so thin.

Roz

God is walking with me every step of the way. Because of HIM this is possible!!

RNY 10/15/2008 9+ Years!!! Height: 4' 11" HW: 203 SW: 197 CW: 119 on Maintenance

Mini.me
on 9/13/10 1:55 pm

VSG on 01/27/10

I just smile and say thank you. If they push, I inform them that I am being monitored by my physician and am well within healthy weight and body size. That usually stops them.

I get a little angered sometimes. I wonder if they don't think I deserve to be thin. But, then I try to rationalize that they just aren't used to me being thin & are truly concerned.

Revision from Sleeve to DS (with re-Sleeve) on 10/10/17. Slow and steady ...

moondancer2000
on 9/13/10 8:21 pm - Ft Rucker, AL

RNY on 11/04/09

It hasn't happened to me, so I'll let you know if it ever happens!! LOL

I will live each day in the mindful present

HW 208/SW 197/CW 115/1st GW 130/2nd GW 120/3rd goal 115/New GW ??/HT 5'2" NO MORE WEIGHT GOALS

vixen01
on 9/13/10 8:37 pm

VSG on 11/13/10

Congrats on your weight loss!. I am very similar to you. I weight 260 after just gaining 16 pounds to qualify for surgery. I told my husband I want to be 145 and he said no way. I say thinner is better because as we get older we tend to gain naturally. If someone made a comment I would do as another person said and say that you hadn't noticed and that you still fit the same clothes. People are so nosey. Continue doing your thing:)

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