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I'm sorry you are having mixed reviews....I purposely didn't tell ANYONE except hubby until I was approved and scheduled (one week before surgery).....and then I told them by a very lengthy, indepth email ....with lots of research data included. 

I received nothing but well-wishes and support.  Bottom line---it's YOUR decision!!  They will come around when they see how successful, happy, and healthy you are!  Good Luck!!

Peyton-  Thanks for your thoughts and support.  I have been lurking in the background for awhile and just wanted to say that from your tiker you seems to be doing great.  I hope and Pray that you are right about them coming around. 

Sharon

Hi, I too am an NP and had mixed (mostly negative) comments from my medical community and friends....but you should hear them now that I am down 63 lbs....the only comments now are how great I look and are you feeling o.k.  I think they are just worried AND think we SHOULD do it the "old fashioned way".  While I have adveraged about a 2 lb a week wt loss (not real fast), the baby tummy  has made it a lot easier not to eat so much....I simple get full on less food.  I am eating fairly healthy, but I do cheat at times and am still loosing.  I can live with this.  Early on had a few problems with nausea...had a hard time finding a protein drink I could tolerate, but by 2 months everything smoothed out.  Good luck to you, I support your decision.

Jane- Thank you so much, I think you are right.  Somehow people think you are taking the easy way out.  From what I have read this isn't the easy way, just a more committed permenent decision. The MD in our practice did seem pretty supportive and agreed to do my postop wound check for me and order labs so for that I am grateful.  We live literally in the middle of nowhere so is nice that I won't have to drive for care.   Thanks for your support I will take all I can get and appreciate all of my OH friends who have taken the time to respond to my frustration and nerves.

Sharon

HI! I am one of those people I call closet sleevers, My mom and hubby are the only 2 that knew...it's been bad on some points and good on others. It's hard for people to understand why we would want to do this...But after yo-you diets all my life from H School on, I can tell you this is the happiest I have ever been. I am very lucky, I haven't had any trouble at all from day 1. I followed the orders to a T.  I have a lot of negative response now..... again my fault because I have lost a lot very quickly, even with people thinking I have started eating better and exercise months before I really did...and mostly these are comments are  from women. But, I am doing better I am letting things go. As hard as it is and for me it took a long while....to get it through my head....I did this to be healthy, to have the time I want with my family to enjoy things I never thought possible. If people can't understand, so be it...You do what is best for you! You will never look back and say you shouldn't of done it! I am happier now in my new body then I have been even as a high school kid (and I was pretty small then). Do what I do, come here to get the support you need! We are all in the same shoes....
Good Luck!

LouLouBelle- Thanks for the kind comments and the insight.  Everyone has been so helpful to reinforce what I know to be true.  Oh how are heads like to play games with our hearts and cause worry.  I am sure as things get closer and for after surgery I will turn to my OH friends for support.  Thanks again.

Sharon

I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this.  After you have your surgery then you can be the encourager for the next one who chooses to have WLS.  I was so surprised when I was waiting the morning of surgery how many nurses came up to me and said they had surgery.  You just might be the example for you other overweight co-workers.

I didn't tell anyone but DH and DD's until I had about 2 weeks to go.  I don't remember anyone worrying about the surgery (maybe that's just medical folks), but I heard all of the "I know someone who had it and gained their weight back" stories.  I guess those stories have helped keep me driven  to be successful and to continue to be.  I want to be the success story that people talk about.

 The nurse practitioner I see for gynocological exams is  VERY supportive. I saw my Endocronologist today, and she wanted to tell me horror stories, but then turned it around by saying she only sees the people who are having problems, not the vast majority, who aren't having problems. This is a subject that people seem to have very strong opinions on, whether they know much about it, or not. Wishing you the best.
Nita

Ya, I have been real open with people about whanting WLS. This is because I am so excited about it and whant outhers to be excited about it also.  I work in a packaging plant (vegitables-potatoes) and I would say that a good 2/3 rds of the plant is hispanic.  When I tell them what I whant to do and where (Mexico)  they even are concerned.  It is not so much the WLS as it is to where I would be going to have it done. 
One of the ladies I work with told me that they can not go out at night in Mexico becuase there are alot of murders comited at night.  Cars are jumped to rob them of their monies and posesions. Even though she is still going on vacation for a month next February there.  She told me of people ripping earings off of people and outher things just because they whanted it.
I am not concerned about that becuase my experience will be in a controled environment.  I
I do understand what you are saying about people being downers.  I try to let it go because this is what I whant to do regardless of the outcome.  It is my life and I whant to live it for me.  Oh and of course my kids and grandchild.
I will be putting my deposite down next month.  This will committ me to saving money by my goal date for surgery. 
I am excited and don't let outhers get you down.  I try not to.