I need advice please

Wow times have changed! When I turned 18 my mother said to me " well it's time for you to do something with your life but you can't stay here to do it!" so a few months later I moved on and Mom and I are still real tight. Since he doesn't live at home everyday...when he does get to visiting he's gonna have to accept what ever accommodations he is given or stay in a hotel. The idea that nothing can change when he leaves is absurd and he needs to accept his growing into a man. You pay good money for every inch of space you have and you and the other kids need to use it. Sentimentality is ok for children and old people like us but he has larger things to worry about. Now that said if you who pays the bills WANTS to save his room and store his stuff well that's up to you not him. He's a man now and before someone else kicks him in the pants he needs to know not everything goes his way all the time and that his siblings need the things and space he once was entitled to. Ok that was a male perspective and a bit harsh but we all know that you love him so it's hard.

My best friend here in town just had her oldest leave for college. She spent two years in the local community college and was told ALL summer that as soon as she left, he younger sister was getting her room (it's bigger) and she would get the smaller room since her stuff was just going to be parked there.

Well, Friday she headed out, Sat morning the younger one was up bright and early and cleaning out her "new" room. And she did a much more thorough job than her mom, my friend, would have done. Far more went in the trash. Altho my friend did rescue some stuff, LOL. As she said, her oldest dd should have done it herself.

The older dd has NOT said a word cause she know she was warned. AND she knows just how her parents would react if she did "whine" about it. Jeff, her parents are from the same "school" as your mom.

Liz

Hey Liz, Yes Mom was "old school" as she was a depression era kid. I myself like to think about the old days and such but i could have bought the house i grew up in many times if i had wanted, considering i now live 9 hours away how dumb would that have been and its not really that great a house either. my kids look at the house they grew up in and say stuff like can you believe they painted it or we didnt stack wood up like that ....etc.....Family is the gift inside the box and not the box itself !