Less Than 4 Weeks to RNY Surgery
Hi. A good friend recommended this site. She is a few months out and doing well. I am scheduled for surgery on May 26, 2009. My BMI is just about 58 and I have decided to have a filter implanted prior to the procedure as a preventative measure again DVT. I am anxious to get everything done and over with but at the same time I keep thinking about what my life will be after the procedure. I have made the decision to tell only those whom I am very comfortable with but I have concerns with how I will reply to others when they start to see the changes. Can anyone offer advice related to the decision about the filter and how I should respond to those I don't care to share the details with?
i am giving this question a lot of thought. i'm trying to qualify for RNY. for the record i'm still in the approval stage, so it's by no means a given i'll be able to have the surgery. but should everything work out, i'll have to take off at least 2 weeks from work probably, plus assuming i'm successful there will be noticable changes quickly and i'm sure someones are going to ask what i'm doing differently.
my boss will know i'm having surgery and he wont' want details, except to say something like "i hope it's nothing serious." I'll say something like, "well it's necessary, but it's not heart surgery" and he'll probably just nod and approve my time off.
my coworkers are all 20-something males and i don't want them to know, period. so if they ask, i'll just say i'm getting a medical issue treated successfully. no details. but i dunno. sometimes it's just easier to tell the truth. i'd be matter of fact. i had X procedure done. end of story.
that's what i'm figuring right now. but i'd love to hear how others handled it. friends - i don't have any close friends, really, just my husband. acqaintances, family outside of immediate - i don't know for sure. probably i'll tell them the truth and try to keep it short and sweet.
vague but true responses could include, i had a medical issue fixed that was preventing me from losing weight, and i'd rather not get into the details, but it was successful.
my boss will know i'm having surgery and he wont' want details, except to say something like "i hope it's nothing serious." I'll say something like, "well it's necessary, but it's not heart surgery" and he'll probably just nod and approve my time off.
my coworkers are all 20-something males and i don't want them to know, period. so if they ask, i'll just say i'm getting a medical issue treated successfully. no details. but i dunno. sometimes it's just easier to tell the truth. i'd be matter of fact. i had X procedure done. end of story.
that's what i'm figuring right now. but i'd love to hear how others handled it. friends - i don't have any close friends, really, just my husband. acqaintances, family outside of immediate - i don't know for sure. probably i'll tell them the truth and try to keep it short and sweet.
vague but true responses could include, i had a medical issue fixed that was preventing me from losing weight, and i'd rather not get into the details, but it was successful.
Ok...here's my take on things. I was so proud of myself for making this healthful decision, I told anyone and everyone. That's just me.
When people start to notice the weight loss, tell them, "I've adopted a new lifestyle, and I'm working hard to get healthier." Then, thank them for noticing! :) They really don't need to know anything more. If they ask...well, how did you lose the weight, you can tell them, honestly...."Diet and exercise."
I wish you all the best! I'm 7 weeks out, and I know that this was the best...the BEST...decision with the exception of having my kids
This is definitely NOT the easy way out. I remember at my first appt. with my surgeon, I said...I feel like I'm taking the easy way out." I was thinking to myself...the weight will literally just fall off of me. I was thinking...no meetings. no getting on a scale in front of people. This is too easy. It's not! You have a lot of psychological changes to make! Old habits die hard!
Anyway...Congratulations on your decision to improve your quality of life, and your health!
When people start to notice the weight loss, tell them, "I've adopted a new lifestyle, and I'm working hard to get healthier." Then, thank them for noticing! :) They really don't need to know anything more. If they ask...well, how did you lose the weight, you can tell them, honestly...."Diet and exercise."
I wish you all the best! I'm 7 weeks out, and I know that this was the best...the BEST...decision with the exception of having my kids
This is definitely NOT the easy way out. I remember at my first appt. with my surgeon, I said...I feel like I'm taking the easy way out." I was thinking to myself...the weight will literally just fall off of me. I was thinking...no meetings. no getting on a scale in front of people. This is too easy. It's not! You have a lot of psychological changes to make! Old habits die hard!
Anyway...Congratulations on your decision to improve your quality of life, and your health!
I'm becoming half the person I was...but I'm also becoming twice the woman!
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