HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My surgery is July 20th at 8:30 and to tell you why I am feeling this way is i was not ready for anyone to know about it. just the people I told and I told them not to say........ I have hypertention, I have a hip replacement"car accedent" and many other things that Ihave reasoning for this surgery. WELL, I tell my My husband of course, My best friend and my father. "I dont speach to my mother she is a very bad alcoholic" My doctor is a friend of the family and is friends with my mother in law..... The wife of the doctor had this procedure about tow years ago and works in his office. She asked if my mother in law knew I said no....... I am not ready and she will not support this for me....DO NOT TELL HER>>>>> SOME HOW She finds out and asks me like this..... SO do you think I am stupid do you think I would not find out.... Why are you doing this to your family >>> Her son.... You have the two boys and I do not feel good about this and why... I asked her how she found out and she would not say.... Later that week she told me she saw me at the doctors because she goes to a doctor in the same building................. There is no doctor in his building he has his own building!!!!!!!!!! I asked if she was sure she wanted to say this... I said what I said above that there is no one in his building and then she back peddled!! Saying oh well, I went to the doctor across the street..... I said no there is nothing across the street! By this time I wanted to jump through the phone......... No only is this woman getting on to me about this hard dicision but, she is now lieing to me about how she found out... she then begins to say she was in the area.... She did not quit! I could not belive this! I knew in my heart she found out from the doctors wife....... My husband was so upset that he called her. Come to find out she has told people about it in such a negative manner that I feel like the fattest grossest thing alive and ........... oh she told my pastor who I see as a father figure and I had a long talk with him and feel better.. But, she is now saying she wants out of our life nothing to do with us and Somone needs to watch the boys... 3 and 8 year olds and My youngests birthday is this 19 and he will be four and we were having a b-day party at Chuckie cheeses and she said she will not be there.. I am going nuts how can she do this to us... Stupid other things she is doing..... took back the cell phone she got as a plan that you get two free phones and one for 9.99 a month which we paid she wants it back.........FINE NO BIG DEAL... Mental game and she wants the reciver for our satilite we got because she again got a deal that you get 4 free set ups for a certain amount.... all things like she is taking us out of the will Wow I was a emotional basket case when my husband kept calling form work telling me all of this..... I NEED PRAYER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wow sound like she is a master manipulater(sp). First just breath and then get back into focus, the way I see it, this is your body not hers. Her being mad that she can't get her way, acting like a 2 year old she needs to pray about her selfish, negative attitude. I would be upset, but if she wants to be petty then just give her her thing back and do you. Is your husband being supportive to you? Because you definately need him to be. But that m-i-l is a mess she can't run your life, she needs to stop! I will pray but try not to let her get to you, you know your reasons for getting the surgery so keep that in mind and go for what you know! I will definately pray about your situation

Melissa; I would be looking for another surgeon as it seems that the surgeon's wife spilled the beans to your MIL. That's a violation of HIPPA and doctor/patient confidentiality. Your MIL may be a little irrational, but why should you be supporting a surgeon that has some serious leaks in his office? Now, to respond to her, ask her how she'd like her husband to be a young widower because of your weight and co-morbs. Every extra pound can put you closer to an early grave. If she loves her son, she needs to step up to the plate and support the both of you in the decisions you make to live a happy life. And if she won't stop the interference, your husband needs to be a man and tell her to BUTT OUT! Blessings, Jennifer 253 / 161 / 137