Roomate Issues... Please help!

Hi there, Just as a quick background... my roommate and I have been living together for 2 years now in college. I went home for the summer to have surgery and she stayed here in Boston. Well I came back last week and I have lost about 50lbs since the last time she saw me. She seemed happy for me but I just found out she is taking laxatives. She is very into what she eats and very calorie conscious. She goes to the gym everyday and trys to be as healthy as possible. Plus she is a SIZE 4!! I was hoping that this would not be an issue between us but Im afraid that the more I lose the more she will see me as competition and less as a friend. Now that I know she is turning to laxatives all the time I dont know what will be next. Do I talk to her about this or wait and see if it gets better? Its kinda early but since we share a bathroom its easy to see how quickly the packets are going into the garbage. Its not like I searched the garbage (ewww) but shes just throwing them in there and not even trying to hide them?! I dont want this to ruin our relationship! Stephanie

I think I would first ask her if she is feeling ok? You dont know this is about you either..it could be something that started while you were gone. Also, this could be a medical thing, so you dont want to just to conclusions. If it were my friend, I would be honest and say I was concerned about her, that I noticed the laxitives in the bathroom and how quick they were going. Only you know the best way to handle this for your friendship. Goodluck! Ellen

Stephanie, I agree with Ellen, talk to your friend and see whats going on...

Hey steph, That is a tough thing to bring up casually and its a problem if you care about your friend be straight with her just tell her how you feel she made need professional help. But by all means DO NOT let that put you down you have went through a great ordeal getting the surgery and I want to say CONGRATS on your 50lbs clap: and keep up the good work and strut your stuff gurl !! Daria

Thanks Girls! We actually talked last night and I guess its just been a ton of stress with school and what not but we decided to be there for each other and encourage each other to get ourselves to the gym... Needless to say we were so tired and didnt go out last night we headed to the gym at 9:30 last night! I hope this works because I really like having someone to go to the gym with. Plus I need to step up my weight loss Im starting to feel that I go through these periods where I just dont lose anything. I guess being a slow loser isnt that bad of a thing because of the skin issues. Im so scared of that!! How are you guys doing as far as the skin thing goes? Is there any way to help it? What are you doing to prevent it??? Have a good day!! Stephanie