Emotions...Emotions...Emotions

I there I am new to this fourm, I am 5 weeks post-op today. I am 22 years old and going through a lot of emotional changes (take a look at my profile to see what I mean). If anyone has some advice for me I would appreciate it.

Well, I didn't have the same surgery as you, but I think in some part I can relate to your frustrations. Wanting to lose faster (even though your loss rate is really good), not know if what the scale says today is "real", etc. My only advice is to not concentrate so hard on the scale. Naturally you want to weigh, and see if it's going down, but don't let it dictate you, you know? I weigh every stinking day, but I have gotten to the point where if I don't show a loss or even *gasp* it shows a gain, I don't let it ruin my day. I get super happy with a loss, but I don't get super down if there's not loss like I would like. It's hard work to get to this point, but I think life is much easier once you are here. Feel better, Sarah

I haven't had surgery yet, but I wanted to welcome you to the board. Tina

It was very hard for me at first with the scale....it was like I had a new addiction! So I started limiting myself to only weighing myself once a day...yes! once a day...for the first 2 weeks I was on the scale like 5x a day...drove myself craze and had to take control. Good luck!

Hello There ! I just finished reading your profile and I know just what you are going thru... I too was burned as a child and have been heavy most of my life... I am so glad that you finally had your surgery, and you sound like you are doing great.... So welcome to the board... Hope you enjoy your time... All the best! Bridget 280/259/140 RNY 8/8/05

Girly Girly Girly ((((HUGS)))) I just got done reading your profile. First of all... you HAVE lost a lot of weight in the first month. If you read my profile you will see that I only lost 15 the first month... I am the slow one here, not you. YOU are doing FABULOUS! There are only so many things that I can type to make you feel better. First of all... dont worry that the weight wont come off. I promise you ON MY LIFE that it will. I hit a plateau when I was 3 weeks post-op! That was sooo depressing and I know how you feel when you dont lose. First tidbit of advice is not to weigh yourself everyday. I KNOW how hard that is... but just try it. I didnt start this just until a few weeks ago. Day to day you may not lose anything or just lose 0.5lbs. When you weight yourself on a weekly basis... it is much more exciting because you can lose 5lbs!!! Much more happier when i see -5lbs than -0 or -0.5lbs. I PRAY PRAY PRAY that you get over the whole guy situation. You dont need a man in your life right now. You need to concentrate on getter better psyically and find out who you really are inside... dont depend on other people to make you happy or for you to find happiness. Concentrate all your energy on YOU! YOU are the one in need right now. YOU are trying to get healthier by losing weight. We all know what it is like. If you need to talk, you know where to come. I am just 4 months post op and my life is SOOOO different now. You are gonna look back at these moments a year from now and be greatful that you had this experience whether it be good or bad at the moment. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Email me sometime to chat.

First I want to thank all of you; you have made me feel a lot better, and given me a course of action. I will only weigh once a week. Also I talked to my mom last night and we discussed the fact that weight loss surgery will not fix the emotional problems. All my life I blamed my low self-esteem on my weight, but now I know that it's not at all my weight, it's an issue that I have within in myself. I now see that I do not have time to find a man, or be wrapped up in someone else, I need to be a little selfish and focus on me. I'm only 22 so I guess we will chalk it up to age or lack there off, I'm bound to make a lot of mistakes at this point in my life. Anyway I am out to discover a new life and find a knew me inside. Thank you all so much.

Hey I had my surgery at St agnus too! I moved from fresno last Sept....I had my surgeyr last August. I have lost 135 so far...I actually had to go on paxil for my depression, i was so bad i didnt want to brush my teeth or hair or do anything, i got up in the morning, took my daughter to daycare went back home and slept. but when i started taking the paxil, i caught myself singing in the shower, singing in the car, playing with my daughter, life felt better! I hope this helps, you can email me privately if you want [email protected] Rachael;