Who did you tell?!?!

 I'm just curious to know who everyone told bout their WLS?!?! I'm a very private person don't really like people knowing what goes on in my life... I told my CLOSE family mainly my mom and gma they basically told EVERYONE else in my family and like 3 of my close friends knew about it... Basically i'm just wondering how you told people becuse now that im loosing weight pretty fast alot of my "friends" that didn't know think i'm on dope or other drugs like that... 

I told anyone who was interested. I kept the information private only to the point where I didn't blast it on Facebook, or something like that. I certainly don't want to bombard people with info that they would find annoying and uninteresting. But everyone whom I've told has been very supportive, and they always ask for updates whenever I see them.
I know some WLS candidates are afraid to tell others, lest they be judged. But I've noticed that if I treat this process as something open and unshameful, then others treat it that way, too.

I'm open about it to some people but i just dont want everyone in the world to know i had WLS and people think i took the easy way out! i get that enough from my family... saying that im only 21 why couldnt i do it on my own..

I guess I'm lucky I haven't gotten that response from anyone yet. I hate that people think this is "easy." And I'll admit, I used to think that, too. I think that opinion just comes from ignorance. If people don't know all that's involved in this process, I suppose its logical that they assume its easy. Most people don't know about the emotional struggles, and life long sacrifices that are required.

And I'm just beginning, so I barely know the half of it yet!


Does your family know how hard this process is?

Not really they don't seem to really care either way... but i;m not really close to them so wat they think doesn't bother me much i have enough other stuff to deal with thats more important than what they think about my life decisions when they dont want anything to do with me.... sorry had to vent a lil

I have only told my close family: sister, mom, grandmother, uncle, brother, aunt, husband, and mother-in-law. im sure they have told a few people themselves but not many and not any that are really in my social scene or whom i see often or talk to too much. as far as friends i have only told my best friend, another good friend (but i didn't actually say exactly what i was getting, just that i was getting some sort of plastic surgery which i think she already forgot about), and one other good friend of mine that i talk to a lot but she is also getting the surgery with the same doctor so shes pretty much been my rock through all of this. other than that i mentioned it to a close coworker of mine but he's pretty quiet so i don't foresee him gossipping about it and also briefly mentioned it to my former boss 2 years ago when i started the process but i never updated her on if i was really going through with it, plus she is no longer my boss and because of issues at work she is restricted from being near me, speaking to me, speaking about me, or contacting me in anyway (yeah, shes a mean one LOL). im also pretty sure my brother told his girlfriend but most of the people my grandmother have mentioned it to don't realize the magnitude of it, i don't think. plus, i think my grandmother doesn't really know how to explain it, she's only told one or two of her friends that i'm getting the lap-band which im not LOL so i'm kind of glad i replied to this post, now it makes me glad that not too many people know, but more importantly, the people that know probably already forgotten or don't care to remember the information to tell other people. like i said it's not like any of these people are in my social circle, which would probably make me feel weird and i definitely don't want to tell anyone from my social circle i'd just rather wait and see how shocked they get, especially those who probably already talk stuff behind my back about my size LOL but more importantly if people that i don't want to know do end up finding out, i'm just gonna go with it. im not gonna lie but im not gonna make a big deal or put too much emphasis on it. personally, ideally, i am not going to tell anyone besides the people that already know which is not that many anyway. most of them i rarely see or never see at that! good luck!

 it's funny, back in pa when i had the surgery i told anyone, it wasn't a secret. most people at work knew (and i worked with well over 50 people), even newer people that came in found out. it wasn't a big deal. all my family knows, my mom and dad's friends and co-workers, neighbors. i was proud of what i was doing so it didn't matter.

but since i've moved to new york i've only told my roommate (in case anything happens) and one close friend (one other friend knows because we've been friends since before my surgery). since i'm close enough to my goal weight that it's totally feasible i could have done it "on my own," i just don't think it's a big deal. i didn't even tell the guy i dated for three months and he saw me naked lol

I'm also a pretty private person, sometimes to a fault. My wife says I don't socialize enough. I told my dad, my brothers and few of my closest friends. Most were very supportive, those who weren't can take a flying leap.... 

When I had the surgery I told anyone. I didn't care. Now that I am getting smaller I don't advertise it as much. I don't like people to think I "took the easy way out" since I still struggle often.

 I told my close friends and family. The people I care about and who care about me and love me. Some people at my work do know as well because they are my friends. I have had a few rumours with people saying that I started drugs or I am not eating etc... but honestly who cares? If those people talking about me do not know, it is for a reason. If someone comes up to me and asks where I was for a month I tell them I was sick, if they are my friend I tell them. It is up to you who you want to tell and it is up to you whether or not you care what other people think. Some of my friends at work that I told arent okay with the fact that I got the surgery and think it was the easy way out. You will have to find ways to let it go with some people. I hope this helps!