I Need Some Advice!

When I chose to have weight loss surgery, I wanted to hide it from my mother.  She ended up finding out about my surgery after the fact, and was really upset and hurt by it, and by the fact that I chose to hide it from her.  We have only just begun to mend our relationship, and now I have to tell her that I am again going under the knife!

I began looking into plastics, and it went so quickly that I'm now having surgery June second of this year!  I have to tell my mom, and I have to hurry up, because I'm about to graduate and want my mom to have time to get used to the idea before I graduate May 21 (because we'll have to be around one another!).  Because I had to leave my job this final semester of school, I'm living rent-free in a home owned by my mother until I start working in August.  I don't want her to feel as if I am taking advantage.

Even with that free place to stay, it's a major financial hardship, but this is the right time for plastics because I will never be able to take so much time off of my physically-demanding job again as I need to recover.  It's really the perfect window, and a breast-lift is something that I have always wanted ever since I reached puberty and got huge, saggy breasts!  I feel like I deserve to feel good and be happy, and I want her to support me.  Does anyone have suggestions about how to broach this topic with her?

 Yikes, quite the predictament. I would just be honest and tell her it "pained you" to leave her out of the first surgery and that you "dont want to make that mistake again". I think that might make her a little more receptive anyway. Jusy explain to her exactly as you have here. Its a "now or never" situation. Its not like you'll be living rent free in her house forever. Just make sure to tell her you havent been hiding this, you just didnt expect for everything to happen this fast. 

Thanks.  It really is "now or never."  The deal I'm getting is unbelievable!  One friend of mine suggested that I make plans to see her, and send her an email or letter beforehand, so that she will have no choice but to "hear me out" by reading the letter, and can calm her emotional reaction to some extent before we talk.

Sometimes you just have to be blunt and tell her, be assertive because it is what YOU want to do. It is your body and your decision and you feel that it it what isw right for you right now. She is your mother and she may or may not agree at first but she will get over it and appreciate that you told her instead of going behind her back. I just had to deal with this in telling my dad with wls. Definitely did not go as planned but he accepts it now. Good Luck!! And Let me know how it goes I will be following in your footsteps next may when I graduate nursing school:)

Girl, it will be here before you know it!  Four years sure went by fast for me!