wondering what life will be like when i loose.

since i'm still waiting to get my date (fingers crossed it happens tomorrow or friday) i can't help but let my mind and thoughts wander to the post op world. the one thing i keep thinking about is what its going to be like to be skinny or average sized. the truth is, i'm 24 and haven't been a normal weight since i was 5. i don't know what i will look like, or what life will be like on the loser's bench. i am just so used to not doing certain things because of my size, or being cautious in certain situations (like talking to guys, going out to the bar, walking sideways through hallways, etc) and i guess the thought of being skinny is almost just as scary as it is exciting.

have any of you post op-ers experienced any of these thoughts or even experiences once you lost the weight ?

have any of you pre op-ers felt the same way i do?

its just weird to wonder how i will dress and live post surgery. kinda scary.

I just wrote something about this in my blog last night.  notjustaface.blogspot.com

I think we all feel this way.   ... but... I'm just so damn excited for my surgery.. I'm not letting anything stand in my way or hold me back.  And my plan is to just take the days as they come.

I felt the same way. I really didnt know what to expect from my new body bc i really had no idea what it looked or felt like to be normal size... but um here to tell you it is amazing. To walk out of the house and feel confident and sexy is the most amazing feeling. To know that people are looking at you because youre beautiful and not because your fat is wonderful. Also-  shopping and  meeting new people are 2 things that will completely change. Youll WANT to go shopping... a lot haha and you will feel completely comfortable walking up to someone new without feeling judged because of your weight.  I hope you get your date soon so you can experience all of the wonderful things that are coming your way :)

-Courtney

 I wonder the same thing. Even though I've already lost 73lbs I still feel like the same ole' me a majority of the time. One thing I've found about myself is that my confidence has gone up I'd say about 75%.. I still have aways to go as far as getting to my goal, but when I'm out with friends or anything like that I find I walk my head up a little higher, not always starring at the floor when I'm in public. Even at 283 if someone I don't know wants to judge me they can, because by the next random we may cross paths they're gonna be sorry the did! hehe  I also know that if there's someone I haven't seen in awhile I'm not going to dodge them and run the otherway. I am the size I was then was about 19 so I'm not scared to get judge and have people say, "oh my Kelby's put on a lot of weight" going forward those people can say, "DAMN!! Kelby looks good!" lol 

I already love shopping for clothes.. I have to hold myself back since I know I will only be in a size for a short while! I tell myself when I'm in "normal" size I will be trendy, but I'm pretty sure I will wear the same kind of stuff I do now. I'm jeans and t'shirt kind of girl! 

Hope you get your date soon!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!! 

I completely understand this. I thought the same things preop. When I was over 400 pounds, I had no self esteem to approach ladies, and I hated the way people looked at me in public, so I didn't socialize too much. That's besides the fact that I was barely capable of walking.

It has taken me some time adjusting to being thin. It has kind of been like having to relearn how to live as a thin person. Everything is different, but it is much better now. Just be prepared for happy times ahead.

Yehuda

It takes a while for your head to catch up with your body as it changes.  Some days I Iook in the mirrow and thing "who's that" other times I still see all the same old fat rolls.  I still daydream about what it will be like when I'm "thin".  I hope one day I'll stop feeling like I'm waiting to be something and just be happy with the place I'm at!

TOTALLY Agree with Courtney and Paula! 

I am now a size 10 in almost every store and SHOPPING is wonderful! I kind of had the fever at size 14-12, but now it's a totally new world. 
When you're a size 20 and bigger, if you find something that fits, you buy it. It doesn't matter if it's on sale, it doesn't matter if it's not necessarily the most flattering thing... IT FITS!
When you're a size 10, you shop around, trying on dresses, putting this one back because it doesn't go with you skin color...wondering if you can get these pants hemmed. ITS SO DIFFERENT. And if you're a girly girl like me, you'll absolutely love it.
Also, (if I can say so myself) clothes look good on me! When you're heavy, you're constantly readjusting yourself. Pulling up your pants, pulling down your shirt, trying to get comfortable in a chair, etc. Watching heavier people now I totally see it in them. They could wear sweats & still not be comfortable. 

As far as meeting new people, I have so much more confidence. I don't usually make the first move with guys, but I'm not totally afraid to now! If they turn me down (hasn't really happened) I know that there are more guys out there and I'm totally hot (haha, jk) so I can deal with rejection. "On to the next one" mentality..

Other notables:
CROSSING YOUR LEGS. OMG. If you are like me, it was so hard to cross my legs! It was a srenuous workout every time, and I usually had to anchor my foot on something to keep them crossed. Now it's just so relaxing and looks so effortless to do.. because it is!
Wearing dresses: your legs don't rub together and chafe! 
Heels: soo much more doable without that extra 100+ pounds

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wow! i could not even imagine being a size 10. and its true. i absolutely hate pulling up my pants all the time, i always feel like something is sticking out or showing or looking awful. and i am a big time fashionista. i love for collections and designers (even if i can't afford them) and it makes me sad that even if i could i can't fit into them. 

and your confidence is so great! to be honest, i consider myself a pretty girl. i have a feeling if i lost the weight i'd be confident (okay maybe a little ****y lol) but i think i deserve it after all this time. its hard bc there's definitely someone i have a little crush on at work, but he's a personal trainer on the side and thats a big ol fat girl no-no. after i change me for me i'm looking forward to making the first move confidently. i think that will be really big for me.

you're notables made me :D all big haha. to even think those things MIGHT be in my future is enough to make me smile. 

thanks for your reply, it made me quite cheered up :)

 you'd be surprised! i'm at a size 16 right now (and for only being 5' that's still pretty big) and the guy i started hooking up with this week is a body builder and really hot

Hi i know this is an old post but im feeling like that and often think about it alot. Daydreaming or wondering what i will look like small or if ill look good at that size and be fabolous at it too but i guess i. Just have to wait and see.