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Hey! My name is Brenna, and i am in the process of getting RNY :) It has been a LONG wait for me, this is my 3rd attempt, and so far everything seems to be falling into place! I just found out today that the 6months worth of weight check ins that my insurance required are actually not a requirement!! So if all goes well, i should have my surgery in about 3 months instead of 6!! And although i am so excited, reality is also starting to hit me, and it actually kind of freaks me out! I have been over weight pretty much my whole life, and ive kind of gotten use to it...But i am 100% ready to get healthier and skinnier! I dont really know what im scared of, but i have never been so terrified and excited at the same time...if that makes any sence LOL.....My family is supportive, but i think my husband is a little nervous that once i lose all the weight i wont want him anymore, which is crazy....I am just happy I found OH, so i can find people who i can actually relate to and they can relate to me!! :)
Im glad to hear that I'm not the only one whos other half is having a tough time! I've been hearing horror stories about all the divorce after WLS and it scares the crap out of me! I mean, were a strong couple, but this is going to be a huge change to both of our lives, and i just hope he can handel it with out getting jealous or anything....but i guess only time will tell!
this is why i am SO happy i am going through this single! i won't have anyone whose ego needs stroked from time to time, plus i want to date as a smaller girl who all the guys want!
as for your boos. i'm sure that it will all work out, if it is TRUE love they will stick by you are realize that you're not gonna leave them.
alrighty. well, if anyone wants to chat hit me up! i'm so bored.
as for your boos. i'm sure that it will all work out, if it is TRUE love they will stick by you are realize that you're not gonna leave them.
alrighty. well, if anyone wants to chat hit me up! i'm so bored.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:1-4
Ne te quaesiveris extra
do not seek outside yourself
Hello Brenna..Welcome...I am still in the process of getting my surgery too...I have heard a lot of people have trouble with relationships after having such a radical change in their lives. Many people are treated different and the dynamics of relationships change when a person decides to no longer be a door mat or whatever defines them in the relationship...I know from experience that being the fat friend who cant say no, that I may have a few less friends when this is all said and done..I truly hope that my 11 yr relationship can withstand this life change...I thin we are a strong couple as well..but..it is real easy to settle in and get comfortable...soo let's hope he is up for some big changes!!...LOL...I wish you and your other half the best of luck ...and I love to meet others who are begining their journey about the same time as myself...
I'm with grace on this one. I'm on the single train also. And im reallllllyyy friggin thrilled about it. lol. (i swear thats not sarcasm, ... i've got enough crazy of my own , i dont need a man's crazy either)
But... i will say... in regards to the hubby and the boyfriends... maybe bring them to one of the therapy sessions.. or support groups.. to maybe put his mind at ease, seeing that other couples have done this and got through it.
But! Congrats on your upcoming surgery! I'm looking at the lap RNY around the same time as you!
Why has this been your 3rd attempt?
But... i will say... in regards to the hubby and the boyfriends... maybe bring them to one of the therapy sessions.. or support groups.. to maybe put his mind at ease, seeing that other couples have done this and got through it.
But! Congrats on your upcoming surgery! I'm looking at the lap RNY around the same time as you!
Why has this been your 3rd attempt?
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~~ Life is too important to be taken seriously~~ Oscar Wilde
Includes the 50lb loss pre-op
~~ Life is too important to be taken seriously~~ Oscar Wilde
Includes the 50lb loss pre-op
Thanks so much ladies, its so nice to be meeting so many great people who are in the same boat i am!! I can already tell OH is going to be a HUGE help in the up coming months!
As for the single ladies...embrace every moment of this journey, and enjoy every minuete of the single life! I got married, and had kids young, and although i wouldnt change a thing, i often wonder what my life would be like if i was going through this single, it would be a whole different type of excitment...so im excited to hear all the great storeys you all will be posting!
As for our hubbys and boyfriends, i think that men are just as insecure as women, but sometimes we are better at hiding our insecurities then they are....My husband and I have been together since i was 18, we have 2 kids, a 1 and 3 year old, and have been through SO much together, that i cant imagine something like my weight tearing us apart. He met me when i was "thinner" (and by thinner i mean, chubby but not as big as i am now :(), but ive gained a good amount of weight in the past few years, but hes never seemed to be effected by it...he still always tells me im beautiful, and even after 6 years still wants to constantly do the naughty (haha..sorry if thats TMI, but i think its important in a relationship)..but what im worried about is the attention i may get, i dont know how he will handel that...but he has already agreed to go to one og my therapy sessions with me, and he wants to meet with the surgeon, and get as much info as he can...so im hoping that will help ease his mind!
As for this being my third attempt, In 2007, after having my daughter, my doctor recomended lap band surgery, i went through the WHOLE process, therapy, nutrionist..everything...it took 6 months, and i was SO excited, but i got a letter from my insurance saying i didnt qualify, i was so upset..but the NEXT day i found out i was pregnant with my son, so i guess it wasnt meant to be...so a few months after my son was born in 09, i had a different insuarance company, so i decided to try again...to be told that my insurance company didnt cover it! I was so discouraged, that i just gave up hope..but then my hubby got a new job, with awesome benifits, and ofcourse, the first thing i checked was to see if WLS was covered, and it WAS...so i figured, 3rd times a charm! And so far everything has been going great! My first appt was In mid January, and they told me that with my insurance i have to have 6 months of documented weight loss, but ive waited so long that i didnt think that was a big deal...So this week i went to the manditory seminar, and as they were doing my weight check the nurse told me i should call my insurance company to make sure they require the 6month weight loss...so i did, and they dont require it! so now i can move on with the therapy and nutrionist 3 months earlier then expected..which means surgery will be sooner then expected!! So lets hope everything else works out from here on out!!! Ive been crossing my fingers and toes..because i want nothing more then to have this surgery, and start to really live my life!
As for the single ladies...embrace every moment of this journey, and enjoy every minuete of the single life! I got married, and had kids young, and although i wouldnt change a thing, i often wonder what my life would be like if i was going through this single, it would be a whole different type of excitment...so im excited to hear all the great storeys you all will be posting!
As for our hubbys and boyfriends, i think that men are just as insecure as women, but sometimes we are better at hiding our insecurities then they are....My husband and I have been together since i was 18, we have 2 kids, a 1 and 3 year old, and have been through SO much together, that i cant imagine something like my weight tearing us apart. He met me when i was "thinner" (and by thinner i mean, chubby but not as big as i am now :(), but ive gained a good amount of weight in the past few years, but hes never seemed to be effected by it...he still always tells me im beautiful, and even after 6 years still wants to constantly do the naughty (haha..sorry if thats TMI, but i think its important in a relationship)..but what im worried about is the attention i may get, i dont know how he will handel that...but he has already agreed to go to one og my therapy sessions with me, and he wants to meet with the surgeon, and get as much info as he can...so im hoping that will help ease his mind!
As for this being my third attempt, In 2007, after having my daughter, my doctor recomended lap band surgery, i went through the WHOLE process, therapy, nutrionist..everything...it took 6 months, and i was SO excited, but i got a letter from my insurance saying i didnt qualify, i was so upset..but the NEXT day i found out i was pregnant with my son, so i guess it wasnt meant to be...so a few months after my son was born in 09, i had a different insuarance company, so i decided to try again...to be told that my insurance company didnt cover it! I was so discouraged, that i just gave up hope..but then my hubby got a new job, with awesome benifits, and ofcourse, the first thing i checked was to see if WLS was covered, and it WAS...so i figured, 3rd times a charm! And so far everything has been going great! My first appt was In mid January, and they told me that with my insurance i have to have 6 months of documented weight loss, but ive waited so long that i didnt think that was a big deal...So this week i went to the manditory seminar, and as they were doing my weight check the nurse told me i should call my insurance company to make sure they require the 6month weight loss...so i did, and they dont require it! so now i can move on with the therapy and nutrionist 3 months earlier then expected..which means surgery will be sooner then expected!! So lets hope everything else works out from here on out!!! Ive been crossing my fingers and toes..because i want nothing more then to have this surgery, and start to really live my life!
Hey there! Congrats on making this life changing decision :) I had my surgery July 2007 and I lost 125 lbs! My husband and I got married a year after my surgery and are still going strong (been together for 6 yrs). Of course he got insecure for a while, especially with girls nights out...but he's doing okay now in fact he encourages me to have girls nights out! ha ha
"I come this way only once, so let me do all the good I can, for I
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haha jk.. but....
I had my first date as a skinny girl last night!! he picked me up at my house in the snow (ha, ha, i made him come in and shake my dad's hand--i'm at home for the weekend)..and then we drove to a sushi restaurant. I made him order, because I hate making food decisions..haha. I did most of the talking because I hate awkward silence. He's cute, but too short for me!!! Anyway, story over, thought I should share :)
haha jk.. but....
I had my first date as a skinny girl last night!! he picked me up at my house in the snow (ha, ha, i made him come in and shake my dad's hand--i'm at home for the weekend)..and then we drove to a sushi restaurant. I made him order, because I hate making food decisions..haha. I did most of the talking because I hate awkward silence. He's cute, but too short for me!!! Anyway, story over, thought I should share :)
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