Hi everyone! Newbie here.
Hi,
My name is Grace and I am 20 years old. I am so happy that I found this forum for 20-somethings because honestly before I found you guys I felt alone in all of this, but as I read the other postings I have found that everyone seems JUST LIKE ME! lol.
So, I have this irrational fear that after my surgery I am going to lose all of the weight that I need to but I'm still going to be as big as I am right now. I know that I will have sagging skin, but I mean, I will be my goal weight but still look like I weigh 420 pounds. Can anyone else relate to this?
Also, I find it really hard to talk to some of my friends about the surgery. A lot of my friends are also bigger girls, but I am the biggest out of all of them. Whenever I bring this surgery up, they seem insecure and almost jealous because they think that I will suddenly be better looking than them. I know it's just a self esteem issue on their behalf, but for once in my life I would like to be able to be excited about something and have some support. Most of the time it's the other way around...me supporting them. So I guess I am also here to make new friends who can share this experience with me.
And how do you get the little weight scales at the bottom of the post?
Thanks!
Grace
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:1-4
Ne te quaesiveris extra
do not seek outside yourself
i know how you feel about your friends.. i have chosen not to tell anyone but my sisters and my parents. some of my other relatives know also, but i'm not sure how they found out.if your friends are just like you, once you get surgery and you're doing great maybe you will persuade them to help their selves too
the scale things are called "health trackers" and you can find the page to set it up in the "My OH"
welcome to our little slice of the forum!
This isn't something you should be ashamed of or afraid to tell your friends.
As far as family goes, my parents and my siblings know as well as my grandmother and her husband. My other grandparents don't know because it will worry them to death because my cousin died when she got addicted to the oxycotton and overdosed from the surgery.
Thanks so much for the support and if you need to talk you know where to find me!
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:1-4
Ne te quaesiveris extra
do not seek outside yourself
i realize my situation is kind of rare though because of my extreme yoyo-ing lol
So have you decided on what surgery you would like?
I understand what you mean. I just decided a long time ago to let *****es be *****es. People are ignorant and I just chalk it up to I am WAYYY too good for them if they don't get to know me and my situation before they judge. Also, I would take being able to lose the weight I need to lose on my own any day over going under the knife. It is NOT the easy way out.
Ashlee,
I am having the open RNY. I am SO excited!!! I really wish you girls lived closer to me! I can't even tell my actual weight to my friends without being embarassed. But you guys have embraced me and accept me. I am sooo happy I found people to go through this with.
Add me on facebook. Type in Grace Louise in the search, I should come up under Grove City, OH or Columbus, OH. If that doesn't work, you can just gimme your info and I will add you.
Anywho, I just worked 11 hours on 3 hours of sleep. Got off work and had to go to my dad's work and follow him home from Columbus because the alternator is going out on his truck. Had to jump his truck 6 times on the way home! Took us 3 hours for what would normally take 20 minutes! I am beat.
Goodnight girlies
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:1-4
Ne te quaesiveris extra
do not seek outside yourself
That sounds like a CRAZY day. Sorry getting home was such an ordeal.
I had the same problem with my weight. Everyone knows I'm big, but I haven't told anyone what my weight was, even my larger friends. Everything feels easier here! lol I hope everything goes well with your surgery and that we can all support each other.
I too am getting the lap RNY.. I'm so excited! I'm looking at a late april/early may surgery date (insurance approval willing) and I'm SO SO SO EXCITED :)
I'm also fearful that the fat girl will never let the skinny girl inside come out and play. And that in the mirror, I will still only see that fat girl.
I actually had one of my "closest" friends tell my other friend that if I were skinny, she couldnt be friends with me because I'd be to pretty. Needless to say, we're no longer friends.
BE EXCITED! you're allowed to be. The rest of my friends are super stoked for me, but they're all skinny. I have one friend whose a little apprehensive about it, but she's apprehensive about life in general.
I have to loose 40 lbs before surgery... do you have to lose any? I'm about 4'11" and 330 lbs so that makes my BMI a little too high and my surgeon wants me to lose some lbs to reduce risks.
When are you looking at surgery?
--Katie
~~ Life is too important to be taken seriously~~ Oscar Wilde
Includes the 50lb loss pre-op
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:1-4
Ne te quaesiveris extra
do not seek outside yourself
