Where do you find someone?!?
Ok Im offically frusturated! This might have tmi but right now Im so frustrated Ive tried everything!
Match.com POF Eharm Craigslist BBW Romance ect!
I cant find anything! I know that Im cute and I am a catch so WTF!
I just keep getting losers that are just grown children and I want a man! It has been 2 years without some action and Im climbing the walls almost. Im not wanting just some action but I want to date someone. I mean thank god for the a vibrator! LOL Im sorry but I just dont understand! Im so clueless does anyone want to set me up Seriously! Ive tried everything I can think of! Im just really frustrated because Im turning 21 on Oct 12 and the 16 I want to go out to the club and have fun and dance with a guy! But how can I do that if I dont have anyone to dance with!!!
I just wanna spend my birthday with someone fun!
HELP ANY IDEA IS GREATLY ACCEPTED!
Match.com POF Eharm Craigslist BBW Romance ect!
I cant find anything! I know that Im cute and I am a catch so WTF!
I just keep getting losers that are just grown children and I want a man! It has been 2 years without some action and Im climbing the walls almost. Im not wanting just some action but I want to date someone. I mean thank god for the a vibrator! LOL Im sorry but I just dont understand! Im so clueless does anyone want to set me up Seriously! Ive tried everything I can think of! Im just really frustrated because Im turning 21 on Oct 12 and the 16 I want to go out to the club and have fun and dance with a guy! But how can I do that if I dont have anyone to dance with!!!
I just wanna spend my birthday with someone fun!
HELP ANY IDEA IS GREATLY ACCEPTED!
Alisha
Im in the 200's YAY!!!!
Come check out my clothing exchage site
www.weightlossclothingexchange.blogspot.com
Im in the 200's YAY!!!!
Come check out my clothing exchage site
www.weightlossclothingexchange.blogspot.com
Hey hon!
I know it's frustrating...I was ALWAYS the one of my friends that was without a boyfriend and when I did have one, it was a HUGE loser because I would just pretty much date the first guy that showed any interest. I didn't have any standards or anything..just whoever would show me any attention. I was more miserable in the relationships (and verbally and mentally abused not to mention used as a huge door mat) than I was alone. Until I met my husband (which was totally random at a mutual friends wedding) my outlook on everything changed completely. You can't rush relationships and the best ones usually aren't ones you are actively seeking. I was an emotional and psychological mess when my husband met me and THANK GOD had the patience to see me through that while I worked on myself.
That's my advice, which probably isn't exciting, is just take this time not to worry about not having a significant other but working on yourself. Just enjoy life the way it is now and concentrate on being a strong, independent person. Someone will come along that is right for you but it may take time or it could be tomorrow. Life is weird that way.
Happy early birthday!
~Emily~
I know it's frustrating...I was ALWAYS the one of my friends that was without a boyfriend and when I did have one, it was a HUGE loser because I would just pretty much date the first guy that showed any interest. I didn't have any standards or anything..just whoever would show me any attention. I was more miserable in the relationships (and verbally and mentally abused not to mention used as a huge door mat) than I was alone. Until I met my husband (which was totally random at a mutual friends wedding) my outlook on everything changed completely. You can't rush relationships and the best ones usually aren't ones you are actively seeking. I was an emotional and psychological mess when my husband met me and THANK GOD had the patience to see me through that while I worked on myself.
That's my advice, which probably isn't exciting, is just take this time not to worry about not having a significant other but working on yourself. Just enjoy life the way it is now and concentrate on being a strong, independent person. Someone will come along that is right for you but it may take time or it could be tomorrow. Life is weird that way.
Happy early birthday!
~Emily~
"Tis better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not"
Speaking from the other side, I know part of the allure of online dating is the fact a guy can still be somewhat successful despite being somewhat immature in terms of forming and developing relationships. It often seems that way on the other end too - I'd say the most frustrating thing for me is when a girl isn't engaged in the process or they have somewhat unrealistic expectations. Playing hard to get is usually fun, playing extremely hard to get is just a waste of time for everyone. and just because I can type a coherent, half witty sentence doesn't make me Jerry Seinfeld in real life, you know?
I'm glad you mentioned that you want a "man". You actually see that A LOT on many ladies' profiles. It sounds innocuous enough, but my experience with online dating has led me to see that as a sort of red flag. You really shouldn't ever say anything like that on a profile (I know you may not have). It means that for whatever reason, you attract a lot of well - grown up children. And that can't be completely the fault of us guys. Another point - I know it goes against everything most ladies stand for, but some of the best girls I've met sought me out first.
Sorry if I came across harsh or made some broad generalizations that don't really apply. They have places on many of those sites where you can get the opposite gender to review your profile, and I can look it at if you'd like.
Oh, and you don't need a guy to go out dancing. In fact, that's a pretty decent place to meet a guy to dance with :)
I'm glad you mentioned that you want a "man". You actually see that A LOT on many ladies' profiles. It sounds innocuous enough, but my experience with online dating has led me to see that as a sort of red flag. You really shouldn't ever say anything like that on a profile (I know you may not have). It means that for whatever reason, you attract a lot of well - grown up children. And that can't be completely the fault of us guys. Another point - I know it goes against everything most ladies stand for, but some of the best girls I've met sought me out first.
Sorry if I came across harsh or made some broad generalizations that don't really apply. They have places on many of those sites where you can get the opposite gender to review your profile, and I can look it at if you'd like.
Oh, and you don't need a guy to go out dancing. In fact, that's a pretty decent place to meet a guy to dance with :)
Maybe I need a guy to look at it. I'm totally clueless. You can aim me makeupartist08 and I can give you my online sites. Thanks david
Alisha
Im in the 200's YAY!!!!
Come check out my clothing exchage site
www.weightlossclothingexchange.blogspot.com
Im in the 200's YAY!!!!
Come check out my clothing exchage site
www.weightlossclothingexchange.blogspot.com
Def. agree with the going out dancing with some girls!!
So can I tell you that I met my husband online... but it was a complete accident. I was like you, completely fed up with boys and just stupid guys in general. I had actually posted a thing like yours about how frustrated I was and how fed up with it I was.... and he responded... and we talked and talked and then eventually dated.
So I'm not saying that the guys that will respond to you are going to be your match but I am saying that it will happen when you least expect it. When your over everything else. My best advice, is to focus on yourself and focus on everything else and the RIGHT man will come along... be patient. even though patience sucks :)
I hope that helps <3<3
So can I tell you that I met my husband online... but it was a complete accident. I was like you, completely fed up with boys and just stupid guys in general. I had actually posted a thing like yours about how frustrated I was and how fed up with it I was.... and he responded... and we talked and talked and then eventually dated.
So I'm not saying that the guys that will respond to you are going to be your match but I am saying that it will happen when you least expect it. When your over everything else. My best advice, is to focus on yourself and focus on everything else and the RIGHT man will come along... be patient. even though patience sucks :)
I hope that helps <3<3
I'm really late to reply to this since I just started reading this board, but if you're looking at online dating, I'm going to throw in a recommendation for OK Cupid. I've been on it for years, and I've met three guys I ended up seriously dating and a whole bunch of friends. I met my current boyfriend there, who I've been with for almost two years now.
Yes, you have to wade through a bunch of crappy guys (but to be fair to the guys, they have to wade through a bunch of crappy girls to find a few that might not even email them back because they get messaged so much by crappy guys and it's hard to tell the difference in an email), but once you figure out what you're looking for, you can find some great people.
A bit of adivce, though:
1) Don't meet up with a guy until you've gotten comfortable with him and have spoken to him on the phone
2) Frame your first meeting as just hanging out, and not as a first date. This has worked out really well for me. If it's a date, there's pressure, and it's awkard if you don't find each other attractive. If it's just hanging out, you can turn it into a friendship much easier if that happens, and it can quickly become a date if you like each other.
3) This is the biggest part. Always make sure to meet up in a public place. I used to use Barnes and Noble for this. Drive your own car, don't pick him up or let him pick you up. Make sure someone you trust has his name, number, and the place where you'll be. If you're going to be late getting back or if you're moving to another location, text/call the person. I've never had any bad luck with online dating, but I know it's possible, so I'm as safe as possible.
Yes, you have to wade through a bunch of crappy guys (but to be fair to the guys, they have to wade through a bunch of crappy girls to find a few that might not even email them back because they get messaged so much by crappy guys and it's hard to tell the difference in an email), but once you figure out what you're looking for, you can find some great people.
A bit of adivce, though:
1) Don't meet up with a guy until you've gotten comfortable with him and have spoken to him on the phone
2) Frame your first meeting as just hanging out, and not as a first date. This has worked out really well for me. If it's a date, there's pressure, and it's awkard if you don't find each other attractive. If it's just hanging out, you can turn it into a friendship much easier if that happens, and it can quickly become a date if you like each other.
3) This is the biggest part. Always make sure to meet up in a public place. I used to use Barnes and Noble for this. Drive your own car, don't pick him up or let him pick you up. Make sure someone you trust has his name, number, and the place where you'll be. If you're going to be late getting back or if you're moving to another location, text/call the person. I've never had any bad luck with online dating, but I know it's possible, so I'm as safe as possible.
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