Worried about best friend!
My best friend and I have known each other for 13 years and now she is my roommate and also I'm putting alot of pressure on her too, she is my support person to help me along the way with my surgery. Maybe your wondering why I choose my best friend over a family member, I live in Ohio and all of my family lives in Texas kinda far to help me on a daily basics. My parents are super excited for me though. Maybe I should have mentioned my best friend is also overweight herself. I'm worried however that me losing the weight and getting healthy could ruin our friendship. Has anyone else had something like this happen, or worried it might happen?
Most of my best friends and I have known each other for 18+ years, so I understand how the thought of losing that would make you feel anxious.
Just the fact that she has agreed and is helping you out as your support person should speak volumes. If she is willing to help you out in that way, she obviously is supportive of your surgery so this is a very good thing.
The biggest thing to try to do is realize that she is her own person and you can't control how her, or anyone, reacts or feels to situations. You can hope for the best but ultimately if she feels jealous of you or anything like that as a result of surgery that's her issue to deal with, not yours. Odds are, just the fact she has supported you this far and your history together, everything will be just fine. If your feelings for her and your friendship stay the same after surgery, then you have done your part.
I'm a worrier, so I understand how you feel but it's really not productive to worry about situations and things that haven't happened! So as they say, you'll cross the bridge when you get there....and there may not even be a bridge to cross because everything may be fine! What you could do now is just very casually say that you know surgery is going to change your body but your friendship means a lot to you and surgery won't change that.
Good luck with your surgery and just concentrate on getting yourself ready for your new lifestyle!
~Emily~
Just the fact that she has agreed and is helping you out as your support person should speak volumes. If she is willing to help you out in that way, she obviously is supportive of your surgery so this is a very good thing.
The biggest thing to try to do is realize that she is her own person and you can't control how her, or anyone, reacts or feels to situations. You can hope for the best but ultimately if she feels jealous of you or anything like that as a result of surgery that's her issue to deal with, not yours. Odds are, just the fact she has supported you this far and your history together, everything will be just fine. If your feelings for her and your friendship stay the same after surgery, then you have done your part.
I'm a worrier, so I understand how you feel but it's really not productive to worry about situations and things that haven't happened! So as they say, you'll cross the bridge when you get there....and there may not even be a bridge to cross because everything may be fine! What you could do now is just very casually say that you know surgery is going to change your body but your friendship means a lot to you and surgery won't change that.
Good luck with your surgery and just concentrate on getting yourself ready for your new lifestyle!
~Emily~
"Tis better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not"
I have the same worry! She says she is supportive but I wonder once the weight drops off if she will be able to handle having a skinny friend. She is insecure with herself and says little comments all the time about skinny people.
I guess time will tell. Hope things work out for both of our friends! Glad to know I'm not the only one wondering about friendship-
Valerie
I guess time will tell. Hope things work out for both of our friends! Glad to know I'm not the only one wondering about friendship-
Valerie
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