Thinner people claiming to be fat

 I was just thinking about this and was wondering how others feel.

How do you feel when you hear a comedian make a fat joke, a family member comment about some random person's weight, a thin sister critique her body, a grandparent suggest you follow the diet they did successfully when they lost 20lbs., or a friend who comments "that person is way too fat to be wearing that" ?

These are just a collection of things that happen to me, and sometimes it bothers me, other times it doesn't.  I don't know why I guess I'm just sometimes more sensitive than others.  I guess over all I recognize that a) sometimes my family doesn't see me as fat, and b) they are trying to helpful and supportive.

Furthermore, I realize that someone struggling with 20lbs. might feel like they have a really huge burden.  But those are the comments that bother me the most, I guess.  When someone is worried about their "fat feet" or whatever, and I'm worried about whether I can breath okay.  I guess that gets to me.  They don't understand how much worse it can get.  Heck, as a young teenager I thought 160 was SO FAT. 

Anyway, I was curious what y'all think.  I hope I didn't offend anyone.  I am trying to get better about understanding where people are coming from.

I don't think your reactions seem off-base at all. i think you put it well when you factor in people's motives, intents, and the seriously skewed perspective that they sometimes see the world from. sometimes, it's easier to let it roll off. sometimes it gets under our skin.

sometimes, i feel like I'm a spy, or something similar, if people don't know that I've had surgery and they talk about that in front of me- especially if they expect me to agree/contribute. Most of the time, people censored themselves more when i was obese and didn't say things like, 'wow that girl should never wear that' etc.  mostly, i feel like it's silly and ignorant but i don't really get upset over it, people can think what they want and i'm only gonna talk about it if i feel like its worth the effort and they'll try to listen.
 

 well obviously we all feel like that in certain moments and situations.
when my friends make those kinda coments i always tell them. before you say that think about me and all  i've been through and sut up!. lol. n they are like yeah i know. but then i think. they are used to certain weight  and for them 20 more lbs feel awfull! now im kinda understand when i gain a lil weight i feel like a coW! even fater than before. so everyone has her own issues n stuff. u cant judge them as they cant judge you.  we cant help to that comments to boder us but, IDK  
and comedians make jokes of short people, tall people, ugly people, retarded people, people who has AIDS( thats awful!!!) and all kinda people only that you pick up the fat jokes cuz they are the one that afects you the most. 


just dont let that kinda things and coments afect you, just dont forget who u are and where you come from. : )
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Most of the time, I take those kind of comments with a grain of salt.  My mom listens to Imus on the radio and he's always talking about "disgusting fat people" and  how if you have WLS it's the easy way out, of course...etc.   This man is rail thin and probably has never had to even think about his weight ever.  So, I realize that he's just ignorant (for other reasons also) and has no idea what it's like to be in the other shoe.  If people in the public eye would just take a stand and not be so horrible to groups of people, maybe the world would be a better place to live.  

As far as skinny people saying they are fat, I use to want to high five them in the face.  But now that I'm smaller, when I gain even a few pounds I feel huge so I think for the most part I see where they are coming from.  It still frustrates me to hear that though because if they only knew how many of us would kill to be the size they are or how hard we work to even get half their size, then a "fat day" to them wouldn't seem so bad.  However, some people just constantly fish for compliments, in which case I will just agree with them and tell them that they indeed look chunky....which usually shuts them up.  

~Emily~

like the others said, its so weird after you lose the weight, where people have NO idea youve ever been heavier. and then the comments just start pouring in about bigger people.
this has happened to me with people whos known me chubby and people who have no idea what i looked like before.

i hate it. and sometimes it makes me wonder, "what the heck were people thinking when I WAS the bigger person and i never heard comments like that around me??"

anyways i digress, depending on the person i sometimes just give them an evil glare, or i stand up in the situation and tell them like it is. some people are just such ass*oles like that.

i used to let people making any of those comments make me feel like such crud. i realized over time, unless they were saying it directly at me, they are not worth my time and energy to answer. now atleast i have the balls enough to answer back, back then i didnt..

whenever somebody would mention a "diet" i should try or right after my cousin had rny and tried to convince me, i just kinda patiently listened but disregarded because i knew at the time it wasnt for me. sometimes people dont know when to shut up..

anyways good luck and i hope you feel better!
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 try having a 21 yr old sister who is yet to hit 100 pounds, or a 125 lb mom who are both constantly calling themselves fat. then when i tell them i don't want to hear them talk about that around me, they shrug it off or try and make it sound like they are worse off than me. talk about feeling like a failure!