when i look in the mirror who do i see..

Lately people have been coming up to me saying i look like a totally different person but i cant see that big of a change. Yes i've lost 75 lbs in four months due to wls but i still see the old me in the mirror. Yes my pants are looser and shirts but not that much. haha When people compliment me or say something to me, I just say thank you because i feel uncomfortable about the attention ...does anyone else feel this way?


The other day my best friend said "your wasting away, dont get too skinny." I know thats a back ass compliment but when your skinny best friend says that too you who has never had a weight issue , i almost wanted to slap her..lol

Anyways i guess i just want to know how people deal with the compliments and back @ss compliments/semi rude remarks as well...

take care courtney

I am in the exact same situation as you are. I still don’t see anything different in the mirror! Sometimes when I see an old picture of myself and then a new one it makes more sense to me but when I wake up every morning and look in the mirror I still see the same person I always saw. People say it takes a long time for your mind to catch up and start to see a change…

 

 

As for the comments, I don’t have any advice there since I never know what to say either. I especially hate it when someone I have never spoken to in my entire life feels the need to make a comment about how I look…like people at work. Or they say something like, “Have you lost a lot of weight? You look great." It’s just a weird situation to be in…yes I’ve lost weight and thank you but I don’t know you, why are you telling me this? Also, someone actually made an “anorexic" comment to me the other day, I just about slapped them. I am still technically obese…what is wrong with people?

 It takes time for your head to catch up to the rest of your body because the weight comes off so fast.  I still feel like I weigh 250lbs again some days.  It's normal.  But if it ever gets to the point where you become depressed and have real anxiety issues, please get some help for that..it's not anything to ignore.   People make those comments because the weight does come off so rapidly and what they don't realize is that it tapers off.  So of course we'd all look skeletal if we kept losing 20lbs a month for a year but it doesn't work that way.  Just smile and say "Don't worry!" 

~Emily~  

This is my issue as well!!  I do not "feel" any different now that I have lost 94lbs.  dont get me wrong, things are way easier for me to do but as a whole i dont "feel" different.  It wasnt until my husband put my before and so far pics side by side for me to be able to see that i do actually look different.  But in the mirror things are still the same as they were almost six months ago. 

People on a daily basis tell me oh my god you must feel sooo much better and i think i would just do better if i lied and said yeah i do cuz the weird looks that i get when i say no not really, and the weird ass comments that follow that are annoying! Like i said i am NOT complaining about the weight i lost, i am ecstatic about that just saying i dont feel really different, however i cant wait till i do!!!!

good luck everyone with your journeys!!!

-tori

OMG!!!

Im going thru this too, and also have lost alot of weight....(83 lbs)

every day at work people tell me that i look sooo different, and that i shouldn't lose any more weight....( im 5'9) i look really thin now..and sometimes i feel like i dont wanna lose any more weight....

but i too get uncomfortable about it cuz i sometimes feel like im the same person in the mirror...agh! all these feeling and emotions huh? i kno? its alittle confusing at times..

keep up the great work you have come a long ways, and we are just startig our journey, there will be alot od WOW momments to come...

best of luck!!!

Congrats courtney!! thats awesome!
i know its hard to ur mind to catch up with ur body. i get that kind of coments 2, n even now 2 years out. sometimes i still feel like the fat girl, and sometimes i feel thin,  so take it easy n enjoy the awesome complements.
hugs