help?
i need emotional help. which seems to be the only thing i ever have to say on this board, but you guys always make me feel better.
i'm 4 months out now, and i have lost 100 lbs. which i know is awesome. but my mental state is like crazy.
i have somehow convinced some part of me that i'm done losing weight because i'm eating more (which i am, but still not even at the point i should be with the amount of protein and calories i take it). i am no longer appalled by food, and am more willing to try things. which seriously scares me.
also, i had learned to accept and be comfortable with how i looked 100lbs+ ago, and am looking forward to when i'm at my goal weight. but somehow, i feel really uncomfortable with how i look now. only in pictures do i ever seen a difference. all i see in the mirror is a big girl who has a lot of weight to lose.
i know you guys will have advice, you always do. which is why i know i can rely on you to get me out of this funk. thank you in advance.
i'm 4 months out now, and i have lost 100 lbs. which i know is awesome. but my mental state is like crazy.
i have somehow convinced some part of me that i'm done losing weight because i'm eating more (which i am, but still not even at the point i should be with the amount of protein and calories i take it). i am no longer appalled by food, and am more willing to try things. which seriously scares me.
also, i had learned to accept and be comfortable with how i looked 100lbs+ ago, and am looking forward to when i'm at my goal weight. but somehow, i feel really uncomfortable with how i look now. only in pictures do i ever seen a difference. all i see in the mirror is a big girl who has a lot of weight to lose.
i know you guys will have advice, you always do. which is why i know i can rely on you to get me out of this funk. thank you in advance.
Hey!
It's ok, I know I still have those same thoughts a feelings that you described and I'm sure many others of us on here do too. It's scary when you can start to eat more because it feels like you are overeating even though in reality is like 1/8 of what we all use to eat before surgery. If you are eating the right foods (right meaning, yes, you can expand your palate and eat a variety without turning to fast food or sweets) and exercising, then it should all work out. But I totally understand where you are coming from. My situation may be a bit different because I struggle with BED (binge eating disorder) and emotional eating and it's been hitting me hard lately. I am seeking professional help for this problem which I know I have to because I can't do it on my own. When I am in control, I try to remember that it's just food and it's not going to win. We've all come so far to let food continue to keep us down.
About the other issue you are having. Even in the 130's, I still look in the mirror and see a too big of tummy, swishy thighs and saggy arms. My husband finally said to me that one day I'm just going to have to be happy. Then I realized that what kind of life am I living if I'm constantly down on myself and always unhappy with how I look even though I get so many compliments every single day from other people? Not a great one. This is also hard for me because I'm my own biggest critic but even small affirmations every day can help. I keep a bog and have taken a picture every month from surgery day until now and when I need a boost, I go through those pictures to remind myself of where I was just a year ago. One thing I've noticed with this surgery is that since the initial weight comes off so fast, we expect it all to just fall off overnight. So, give yourself permission to have time to reach your goal weight....who says you have to be there in 3, 4, 5 months? Goals are great but sometimes if it's unrealistic or it's just not going to happen, we can stress out about it more than anything. I never make my goals weight related just for that reason.
Good luck and just know you aren't alone.....I'm right there with you!
~Emily~
It's ok, I know I still have those same thoughts a feelings that you described and I'm sure many others of us on here do too. It's scary when you can start to eat more because it feels like you are overeating even though in reality is like 1/8 of what we all use to eat before surgery. If you are eating the right foods (right meaning, yes, you can expand your palate and eat a variety without turning to fast food or sweets) and exercising, then it should all work out. But I totally understand where you are coming from. My situation may be a bit different because I struggle with BED (binge eating disorder) and emotional eating and it's been hitting me hard lately. I am seeking professional help for this problem which I know I have to because I can't do it on my own. When I am in control, I try to remember that it's just food and it's not going to win. We've all come so far to let food continue to keep us down.
About the other issue you are having. Even in the 130's, I still look in the mirror and see a too big of tummy, swishy thighs and saggy arms. My husband finally said to me that one day I'm just going to have to be happy. Then I realized that what kind of life am I living if I'm constantly down on myself and always unhappy with how I look even though I get so many compliments every single day from other people? Not a great one. This is also hard for me because I'm my own biggest critic but even small affirmations every day can help. I keep a bog and have taken a picture every month from surgery day until now and when I need a boost, I go through those pictures to remind myself of where I was just a year ago. One thing I've noticed with this surgery is that since the initial weight comes off so fast, we expect it all to just fall off overnight. So, give yourself permission to have time to reach your goal weight....who says you have to be there in 3, 4, 5 months? Goals are great but sometimes if it's unrealistic or it's just not going to happen, we can stress out about it more than anything. I never make my goals weight related just for that reason.
Good luck and just know you aren't alone.....I'm right there with you!
~Emily~
"Tis better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not"
Girl I feel like this too. Dont you see how amazing 100 lbs is in only 4 months.Im the same way tho I look in the mirror and I still see the same fat girl.Im almost 7 months and ive lost 85 so I look at you and think wow thats amazing, I know how scary it is to see that you can eat more and how you feel like your done losing. But its not as much as we ate before surgery and its not the same kinds of food Im right there with you. And just like emily Ill eat when I get mad or hurt and shouldnt between meals. Its hard Im sure itll always be hard but we can do it!
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