Would you do it again?

I was at the store and seen an old co worker of mine had RNY in september she lost 67 pounds. She was telling me that is has been horrible. The post op all liquid diet that she just wants to be able to eat again like a normal person. As I am just finishing my 6 month pre op diet it scared me. Am i going to have the same issues? She said that if she could do it again she wouldnt and it schocked me down 67 pounds and she can only see that she cant eat so it isnt worth it? Confused

Ahh sweetie..everyone is going to have a different story. You have to make the right decision for you. I have heard awesome stories and then the horror storys about "how I cant eat anything anymore". But that doesn't mean it will be you. Don't stress, you will know if it's right for you.
I have "head hunger" now but its just taking its course and I am sure it will be gone soon. I know I can't eat everything I use to even if it smells yummy, but honestly I haven't missed it yet.
Keep your head up!!

 This is a perfect example of why I'm a huge believer in the psychological/mental evaluations before you have surgery.  If you don't deal with or at least recognize your food issues before, it will be an uphill battle.  The head issues do not go away with surgery, if you are an emotional eater/binge eater/etc. now theres a very slim to none chance that will magically go away with surgery.  I still struggle with this every singe day.  There are foods I can't even have in my house because I will binge on them.  There are also many people in life who just complain about everything.  

That being said, would I do it again?  Yes, yes and YES.  This surgery has given me something that I hoped and prayed for my entire life..a chance to finally be at a normal weight.  I am now there and I am now just like everyone else trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle.  It's nothing magical, I just try to eat well and exercise.  Everyday isn't perfect but I try to strike a balance.  

Good luck!  Try to remember that one person's story isn't a reflection on how it is for everyone else.  

P.S. Just so you know, your co worker will be able to eat like normal person again after about a year.  If I was her, I'd take advantage of the restriction while it's still there to maximize weight loss while it's still easy to do.  It gets harder as time passes.  

~Emily~

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. is all i have to say.

 

OH YEAH... .................AND

  I  MY RNY!!!!!!!!

I think it's different for everyone, and like the others said, you must be realistic and count the cost. a lot of people that had rny miss foods, dislike the things that they're forced into [vitamins, careful of sugar, etc]. Most people by and large are really happy with the procedure and with the results, but think about what you will be missing and if you can, talk to a psychologist about it... they can help you process well and figure out what's realistic, what's anxiety, and what is cause for more thought.

my honest assessment is that I would not have gone through this had I known what would happen and the process it takes to get here. I had several surgeries which left me sorta with a sleeve, but its much too large. and i've lost enough weight that revision isn't an option, but feeling fat and constantly obsessing about everything is taking a toll on who I am as a person. but I'm just one of many, and there is a lot to be pleased with about the place that I am

good luck
ann

Ann, I'm so sorry you've had complications.  By the sound of it, though, it seems you're dealing well.  Have you thought about talking to someone as well for the evident wear on your spirit?
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hey hey hey,

as everybody else has said, everybody who gets rny is diferant! esp since we've all went to differant surgeons and whatever, but also we all have differant mentalities towards ourselves and our health.  make sure before surgery you are head strong and positive your going to do the best you can with this tool .

honestly? i dont know why after 4 months being post op your friend is still on a liquid diet. i would think that mabbe shes had some sort of complication or something. after  4 months i wasnt eating anything close to what i was before surgery but i was able to eat some things with alot of modifications to feel human again ! !  and secondly, she may not be mentioning the whole story to you. maybe its been a horrible experiance cause she tested her limits or just for whatever other reason yanno?

dont let one persons experiance influence you. you can be successful, you can do this!

it is so worth it x10 , if you are going to do everything your doctor and nutriontist suggest that you do and you dont go off your plan suggested for you. yes you have bad days, but make sure you make the rest as best as possible.

dont be scared girl! itll all be ok, if you do everything as your told! promise!  pinky promise :D

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I'm not going to lie - the first months are difficult and frustrating.  While you are losing weight, you are also stuck with the most restrictive diet.  However, I am 4 years out and life is wonderful.  I do not feel deprived.  The WLS way of eating has become normal for me.  When I compare what I have gained to the struggles I have had it is no contest.  I would definately do it again.  Encourage your friend to try to look at the long-term picture.  It is hard right now, but in a year she'll be in a much better place, so she just has to push through the tough part now and she'll get there.

She wants to eat like a 'normal person'... as in eat like she use to? Sounds to me like she is struggling with the emotional part of the surgery.. its hard for people to say 'good bye' to their old buddy food.

I was on an all liquid diet for only 2 weeks post-op... after that it was soft foods, then semi-soft then slowly introducing normal foods. By 5 months post-op I was off suppliments and no longer doing any shakes getting everything I needed thru food. I am almost 4 years out... I can eat like a 'normal person'... I can eat whatever I want, most people wouldnt even know I had surgery... sometimes I do eat a smaller amount and people will question but more often then not a second glance isnt taken at my plate.
The first 6 months of the surgery is rough, you will see most posts on OH are people who are early out and whining/complaining/crying about things... then you see that same person at 1 year, 2 years out and everything is great and that was all just worth it. So basically take what she says with a grain of salt.. know that it wont be easy but it will be over time... it is what you make it, it is definately A LOT of work and either you do it and make it, or dont and cry about it.

YES. I would do it all over again.

Sure, there are some parts that can be frustrating (like not being able to comfort yourself with food anymore, which I'm pretty sure we all did... maybe that is what your friend is having trouble with... she hasn't found something to replace food in her life), but the fact is is that I HATED being 300+ lbs. I never, ever, ever want to go back there again. I am so happy being a "normal" size now, it has literally changed the whole game of life for me. 
I think it is all about attitude, the glass can either be half empty or half full, so why the heck not choose "half full"? 

Good luck!!!!