goals.

I have been thinking lately. I am 19 pounds or so from my goal (stupid gallbladder surgery gave me 3 pounds water weight or so id like to blame that and not some chocolate covered raisins i gave into because...well thats a whole other story..anywho!)

so im 9 months out, 19 pounds give or take from goal. and ive been thinking lately, what size is the normal women?

ive consulted the web and some sites say anywhere between a size 12-14 with a 34b breast size. (sorry im leaving you boys out of this post. lol.)

anyways, so im happy where i am. im between a 10-12 in jeans, anywhere from a m-l in girls shirts, (SMALL in mens?! i couldnt get over that the other day, who knew thatd ever happen.).

my question to ya girls is, what dictates your GOAL? is it bmi? is it a personal, "wow ive always wanted to be a 6?", are you just going by what your dr says? is it whenever you feel happy with yourself?

i def want to get to a healthy BMI, but this is just something ive been thinking about lately and finally remembered to research the internet for my ?, am i average now?!

gimme your thoughts <3<3

my dr, didn`t set a goal, but i would love to be a size 6 also. my goal is to be 1 size smaller than my sis hahahahahaa. I fit in most of her clothes but some are really tight yet. I even fit in one of my sis's size 7 jeans. :) they are stretch but who cares! lol.
but i feel confortable now in this weigth every one says i look i weight less than i actually do so ones i get my brachioplasty i think im gonna be happy with my body . n after that we'll see if i can lose a lil more but my im working now on mantaining.
hugs!

its so funny you mention your sister, cause mines all jealous of me now. haha and she keeps on telling me not to get bulimic looking. haha im like uhh not going to happen!
ive never been smaller then her my whole life!!

is brachio the arms? im thinking no plastics till after babies, but then i was thinking how about wedding pics the other day and i dont want bad arm pics but i want a strapless gown. dilemmas dilemmas!

*big hugs mama*
am<3

lol. well my sis is GOurgeous! model material lol. everyone here in my home town  says sooo. but she is such a sweet heart she is very supportive about my weight loss and she is so proud of me thanks good. lol.

well i wanna have  my plastics now. i don`t have a BF right now or any weedding or babies plans so i don`t wanna wait for something it might not happen. i do want all those things but i wanna live the present and i wanna enjoy my new body while im young :) so having my arms and then maybe a TT n a lil thight lift, im not sure yet!
hugs!!!!!
mariana.

ps. yes brachioplasty is an arm lift.

Mariana,

If you say your sister is gorgeous, you must come from a family of super models because you are absolutely beautiful! 

It's great though that she is supportive, my sisters (who have no weight issues) are as well and it makes life so much easier! 

~Emily~

My dr. didn't really give me a goal at all and I came up with 135 because it's in my healthy BMI range (I'm 5'4) and because it seemed realistic.  Now that I'm there (give or take a few pounds....giving now a days because of lack of exercise due to surgery..BAH!), I feel very comfortable where I am and if I stayed this weight forever, I'd be happy.  

I think it's going to be different for everyone because of how we are all built.  It would be unhealthy for me to say I want to weigh 100lbs but someone who is 5'0, that's probably fine for them.  Same with taller people.  

I never really thought about clothing size when I picked my goal because honestly, I'd been overweight my whole life I had no idea what weight corresponded to what size.  I thought a size 10 would be awesome.  I never imagined I would be in a size 5 or my one glorious pair of size 3 jeans...that was just a happy bonus.  

I have lost hope with my bra size.  I'm a 34 A.  I have to go out and get that new Vic. Sec. bra that takes you up two cup sizes.....Truthfully though, my body looks pretty proportioned so I really don't mind the smaller cup size but I wouldn't turn down free breast implants either. :-)  

~Emily~ 

i never thought about it really till recently. well ok thats a lie, for a while i was like yeah im going to be 150 cause thats what my surgeon in nj said then i got to oklahoma and my surgeon here said that wasnt too realistic and we should stick with 175.
then as the process went on i agree so much more with my dr here in OK. honestly at the beginning people kept asking me my goal and like you ive been over weight my whole entire life and didnt even know what a 10 or 12 felt like till recently.  so its all just been a blur of numbers for me, and i feel if i ever get to 150 id be a bag of bones. and i whenever people did ask me, i was just like 'whatever happens happens'.. lol

im luckily proportioned too (except these darn saggin boobs! haha).

but i guess what got me really thinking about this was last week looking for jeans on a sales rack at aero and not being able to find my size! and it felt like lane bryant all over again where 24 was a popular size (and i was that size for a few long years). so now im back in the same boat being a popular size. and for the internet to tell me im average just kinda freaks me out!

btw i love that i can shop at vic secret now! i love their undies!!! <3am

I picked the weight I did (127) for a bunch of different reasons, actually. It puts me at the lower range of a normal BMI, which is what I want because I actually (verified by my doc and everything) have pretty small bones, even now for someone who was MO for as long as I was. The lowest I can really remember being in high school was 125 for about a day, and I thought it would be neat to be close to that same weight again. I’m 5’4.5 and 130 seemed like a nice round number, so I dropped it by a few pounds to give me a goal range of 127-130 due to weight fluctuations, period, all that. Also, I’m currently in a 10 (some 10’s are tight, some totally comfy), so 40 pounds from now should put me roughly in a 4 or 6. A 6 was where I wanted to end up, so slightly smaller than that would be great to give me room for period bloat, fat days, etc. Also, I started at 294, so 127 would be      -167 pounds and 7 is my lucky number.

wow great job on your journey! you sound like a huge success! thanks for sharing your thoughts <3

LOL I love your logical thinking!!!