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I have a friend that is about 450 and she is having major health issues. A couple of our friends and myself are really worried about her. We eat good around her and were wanting to maybe suggest weight loss surgery or something. I want to be sensitive but I am so scared for her. Any ideas? Please be friendly on this topic.
Hi Lesley,
For me, if one of my friends would have came up to me 5 years ago and told me about it I would have jumped for joy. Thing is, I never knew about WLS and thought I was slowly killing myself. Luckily, I read about it and looked into it and I'm currently on a waiting list. Lucky for your friend though, you went through the same process so she knows she can count on you for support. It is a risky topic but the more you wait the harder it will be on her. The fact that you and your friends are thinking of her already shows just how special she is to you girls and that she should at least think about it. Tell her that you would be more than happy to help her through her process as it's not always an easy journey to do alone.
Good luck and let us know what gives.
Derek
I guess i would be honest and tell her how you feel. I'm assuming that since she is 450lbs, the thought of surgery more than likely has crossed her mind at some point anyway. I wouldn't so much concentrate on the weight part of it but tell her you are concerned for her health. Even if she is dead set against surgery, offer support for other ways for her to try to get some weight off. Be her exercise buddy and get her moving. You already said you eat well around her, so that's a great example to set.
The decision is ultimately hers to make, so don't get frustrated if it takes awhile for her to get on board. All you can do is be a good, supportive, unconditional friend to her. She's lucky to have you guys!
~Emily~
The decision is ultimately hers to make, so don't get frustrated if it takes awhile for her to get on board. All you can do is be a good, supportive, unconditional friend to her. She's lucky to have you guys!
~Emily~
"Tis better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not"
well 1th. 450 lbs is not like 50 lbs overweight. so i think you should def say something. its better to tell her than not say anything and watch her die. i know ur pain cuz u know how she feels. and u know when u were in her situation u just wanted to be saved!.
if she saw u going through all this. i bet she is wanting this tool bad. you just have to find the right moment. now that ur inspiration to other use it!
hugs.
if she saw u going through all this. i bet she is wanting this tool bad. you just have to find the right moment. now that ur inspiration to other use it!
hugs.
I LOVE this question!
If one of my good friends, had told me that they were worried about my health, and that I needed to look into some medical support, such as WLS. I would be very open to it!
As I had never herd of WLS until about 2 years ago, and I have been doing research ever since.
I know that my weight effects my entire life, and that I need a change.
Maybe just casually bring it up at 1st, so that it doesn't sound like you are pressuring her, or trying to say she is fat. TRUST ME, you can say one thing, and us BIG GIRLS can hear something completely different!!! (Well maybe its not a big girl thing, maybe its just being female!)
I remember when I was loosing my mom to cancer, and the day before she passed away, she told me to do something about my weight, before it took over my life. I never understood what she really meant by taking over my life, (as I have been BIG my entire life) but as I got older, and wiser, I FINALLY understood what she meant by that. That's one thing that has brought me closer to WLS.
Just maybe plot it with another friend to have the other friend ask you in front of her about your WLS, and go into detail about it, and maybe casually ask her if she has ever considered it, I would also tell her that there are so many benefits to it, and how it has saved your youth and health!
Keep us updated on what happens, and I will pray for the strength you need to bring it up, and and wisdom for your friend to understand!!!
If one of my good friends, had told me that they were worried about my health, and that I needed to look into some medical support, such as WLS. I would be very open to it!
As I had never herd of WLS until about 2 years ago, and I have been doing research ever since.
I know that my weight effects my entire life, and that I need a change.
Maybe just casually bring it up at 1st, so that it doesn't sound like you are pressuring her, or trying to say she is fat. TRUST ME, you can say one thing, and us BIG GIRLS can hear something completely different!!! (Well maybe its not a big girl thing, maybe its just being female!)
I remember when I was loosing my mom to cancer, and the day before she passed away, she told me to do something about my weight, before it took over my life. I never understood what she really meant by taking over my life, (as I have been BIG my entire life) but as I got older, and wiser, I FINALLY understood what she meant by that. That's one thing that has brought me closer to WLS.
Just maybe plot it with another friend to have the other friend ask you in front of her about your WLS, and go into detail about it, and maybe casually ask her if she has ever considered it, I would also tell her that there are so many benefits to it, and how it has saved your youth and health!
Keep us updated on what happens, and I will pray for the strength you need to bring it up, and and wisdom for your friend to understand!!!
Thank you thank you thank you EVERYONE! I will keep you updated. I will collect my thoughts and try to figure it out when I get back in 10 days from my honeymoon. I really do appreciate it. It has been so hard because I have thought it out so much and maybe overanalyzed it too much! Take care and Thanks for the support
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