How are people different towards you now?

This has been on my mind for a while. People are so shallow!  Myself included at times....I hate to admitt that!  But when I was in good shape, playing basketball and being miss popular people treated me so much differently than they do now!  Even my best friend!  I moved away for about 2 years (Got married, now getting a divorce) and when I came back I had gained ohhhh 80 pounds or so and people act so different! Even people that I considered my friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  What gives after you lose the weight? Will things go back the way they were pre weight gain?? 

 sure people treats you diferent, as u said no only men, even girls treats you diferent. but also is has to do with the way we carry ourselfs now . with more confidence.
my friends say im a diferent person. im more confident n my male friends say i have a sparkle now that i didn´t have before. so i go more with the idea of , yeah people are superficial. but also we are more confident n it shows.
yes is annoying sometimes.  
hugs!

Thanks for your feedback.  I think I will have to agree with you when you say that being thin gives more confidence. I think I will be much more confident to go out and speak to people I dont know and especially guys.  I want to be that outgoing person again!!!

HUGS

Haley

 Some what in contrast to what you were saying I realized it the opposite way. Looking back on it I got treated what I thought was "normal" by girls and got a decent amount of attention from guys in high school when I was thinner from playing basketball. I never really noticed the lack of attention once I was heavier until now. I'm currently I little lighter than I ever was in high school and the amount of attention from guys is through the roof and I'm realizing how much I was ignored the last few years. From girls I'm noticing some of my friends that are now heavier then me are kinda of *****y about it, but what are you gonna do? I just figure their jealous and try not to rub it in.

I get hit on.....I that NEVER happened before and it happened as recently as this last weekend by two gorgeous (no lie, HOT) men.  It's kind of funny to have to say that I'm married but oh so very flattering.   

I've noticed people are more open to start conversations with me and friendlier in general.  It's strange.  I was and still am pretty outgoing and my personality hasn't changed much from pre-op to post op but I've noticed a difference in how people respond to me.  

~Emily~

so i used to get alot of male attention pre-op. and now its so overwhelming. AND i have a boyfriend. so its not much more then innocent flirting but sometimes it drives me crazy.. but i just use it give raise my self esteem more then its raised already (my boy tells me i have a big head sometimes .. haha)

people in public get me mad if i really think about it. they are so much more friendly now. i wish we lived in times it didnt matter what was on the outside, as long as your a good person,etc. but some people are shalllow like that. i manage 15 people. and i feel they respect me more then the team i had 9 months ago, 150 pounds ago, yadda yadda. the only differance now is i have a bit more confidence.

anyways, people are just dumb if they judge you for gaining weight and treating you differant.  i find myself now smiling more and being overly friendly to overweight people since my surgery. maybe its because ive walked a mile in their shoes. maybe thats what you can tell people- DONT JUDGE ME until youve walked a mile in my shoes!

It annoys me how some people treat me differently.  My closest friends dont treat me any differently neither does my fiance.  But....they do make comments from time to time and maybe i blow them way out of perportion but...i have one friend in particular who is jealous that i am now smaller than her.  (my sister is also) and now that im pregnant they want to make jokes to me that ill gain back all my weigh...(uh no!)

I have only had a problem with real negative feedback from men.  Its like now that im thinner there are a lot more jerks out there than before.  I get someone calling me some vulgar pet name on myspace and facebook on a weekly basis, I have learned to ignore it.