Whats life like on the other side?

Ive been the big girl all my life. I know there are  some of you can identify what I mean. Im 25 and I have been trying to have this surgery since I was 19, but because of the mess with insurance I couldnt. Im back to square one. New doctor, new insurance (this time completely on my own, not my parents.) etc. I am finishing my Masters in May and Im really begin to to turn a new leaf, including my weight loss journey. What is life like on the other side? What about the feelings of insecurities? I get hit on now, sorta. And Ive dated. But there was one guy a few years ago that hurt my heart, yall know what I mean. And because of the insecurities, Im never sure. I love going out and being around people. I just give myself a mental shake or two. But I am afraid that I will always feel like a fat girl in thin girls body? I know that in the end Ill be different, but I want this committment to be one that pushes it in a positive, healthy direction. Im welcome to any sort of comments, questions, or remarks. Thanks to everyone!

Danie 

Hi Danie!  I'll be four years out January 6th.  I still deal with day to day insecurities, but all the while I'm stronger today than I have ever been.  My whole story seems to be out there somewhere, if you're interested feel free to PM and I can give you the entire run down- positive and negative :)

Short Story- NO male attention what so ever prior.... after, tons of attention but all for the wrong reasons. That in itself was a growing experience of over 2.5 years.  I just moved to a big city 2 hours from home and all alone.  After the surgery this is totally the best thing I've ever done and past only made me the person I am today :)  And yes, this decision is a life long commitment :)

Jaci

hey girl!

good luck with everything!
some days i am now annoyingly confident, other days, i still feel like i am in my old 350 pound body. .this surgery has made my life alot more positive, and healthy. day by day i remind myself, i am NOT that girl i used to be 8 months ago.
its not just a physical journey, im sure youve noticed by some posts on here thats its a huge emotional journey too. my 3 year relationship with my boyfriend has grown so much in the past 8 months since my r n y. hes even lost 15 pounds himself eating healthier! haha. its important you have a great support system when you go into surgery, if i didnt have him and my fam and these boards i wouldnt of come this far. i tell that to everybody going in for surgery, any type of support is a big big thing to think about.
i have had to fight off boys lately. lol its kinda annoying actually and had to fight off many temptations and remember what i have is the most specialist thing in the whole world (i am a cheese...lol). regardless attention is such a confident booster sometimes, just gotta know how to fight off the a*hles.

if you have any specifiac questions lemme know, i love talking about my surgery and the after life.

my facebook is am imperato

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Thanks girls, I really appreciate the support! And I hope all goes well. I see my PCP Monday and see my Surgeon for the first time on Dec 16th. I dont want to be let down again. Keep your fingers crossed!

Danie

congrats!!!
im mariana 24,  2 years out of RNY. n i was heavy all my life!.
well to be honest with u I don`t feel like im in the other side quite yet. In my mind im still fat. it hit me me that im not fat anymore when i see pics where im next to other girls that why i realize im same size. it hard for ur mind to catch up with ur body sometimes.
I do feel  way more confident and happy, i always enyoed to be around people but now im more outgoing.
What i love the most its going out shopping with my girlfriends at the same stores.. and share clothes with my mom and sisters,  that is priceless for me always wanted to do that
this is an amazing journey enjoy everyminute.
keep us posted
hugs

Mariana,

I dont think I have ever gone to store other than Lane Bryant or Torrid with friends that could wear the same clothes as me. Even then it was only one friend.

I look at pictures with me and my friends now and try to crop out the parts where you can see my lower body.

I guess that would be a wonderful treat to be able to do something like that.

More than anything...my best friends wedding is in August. I want to look just as good as her when I stand beside her as her maid of honor and be just a raidant and proud of myself as I know that she is of herself and me. My dream is that THE guy to go with. The one that, although we are friends, I could only wish would happen, even though he is very much the type of guy to be with me now, I couldnt do that. My self doubt would be toppeling the roof.

I guess for once I want to look in the mirror and see something that I immediately need or want to fix. Surgery wont be my cure all, but I think it will begin to break up some of those problems.

Tommorrow is day one for me in this process. I talk to my PCP. I really hope that everything goes well. But even if it doesnt, I know that the Lord has the very best for me no matter how difficult it will be.

Danie

Hi Danie,
Life on the other side...let's see.  It's different, def. different.  People both men and women just seem to treat you differently.  I def. get more attention from men.  During the process I didn't see the weight loss, but now I do and I'm happy with the way I look.  I do find myself scrutinizing my body a lot, like oh my face looks fat or I shouldn't stand that way, but it's all not true.  I'm trying to get back in the dating game but it's hard.  Just because I think a lot of the men that I've known for a while still have that vision of me as the fat girl even though I'm not anymore, its like they can't get that vision out of their heads or they have a fear that I can become that girl again?? I dunno, men are weird.  Life is def. good on this side, but it's a journey and continues to have it's ups and downs.