the "don't get too skinny" comments

I've noticed lately that more & more random people (and friends!) have been stopping me and telling me how great I look. I've lost 80lbs since my WLS 10 months ago and it feels really good. However, I'm still not where I need to be (about 5lbs away from my max healthy BMI range but about 20lbs away from my goal- which is to be in the median of my healthy BMI range).

Anyways, I've had a bunch of people at work- people who don't even know me- and also friends tell me how great I look/etc... and then they always end our conversation "well, don't get too skinny!". But the most interesting part of this is that I've noticed this comes predominantly from people who are VERY skinny. Definitely much skinner than me at my weight now, and many of those people will probably be way skinner than I'll even ever get (I'm talking like size 2's whereas I'm hoping to be a 4/6).

Has anyone noticed this? What do you make of this phenomenon?

 I don't really think it means anything.  I've had people say that to me but it's been in just a "I don't really know what else to say on the topic, so I'll end it with a funny quip"  type thing because really, it doesn't make sense.   My regular doctor even said that to me at my yearly exam....I wouldn't read into it too much.  

~Emily~

Jealousy. Everyone (well, almost everyone) wants to be the skinniest one in their group of friends/the room, etc. if you get too thin, then they don’t get to be the skinniest anymore. I get it too and trust me I am FAR from skinny- I’ve got 48 lb til my first goal and realistically probably more like 68 lb to go.

See, maybe it's just me but I don't think that way and it would confuse my why anyone else would either, though I know they do.  It's pretty ridiculous, it's not like you get a trophy or a gold star for being thinner than anyone else.  People never cease to amuse/irritate me.

Hopefully we never have to be in the company of people like that!  

~Emily~ 

Some WLS patients do get too skinny... or they just look too skinny - Star Jones was looking like a bobble head for a while... just has to do with the way many WLS patients lose weight... it also takes time for the body to 'adjust' and redistribute some of the weight etc (skin takes a bit to catch up with what is going on).
Also people are not use to seeing you small... its weird to see somebody who has been overweight for a while (or always overweight) thin or at a 'normal' weight. My friend lost about 50lbs on her own and she just looks so strange to me because she is so much smaller... but she is a medium/8 which is perfectly normal... just hard for my brain to adjust to her new body :-)

 1th congrats for all that compliments. u most feel great!.
about the 2 skini coment. i think is just people who are not use to see u in that weight. ask someone u don´t know if he thinks ur to skiny. i bet u look normal to people who don´t know u yet.

i get a lot of : ur way to skiny u should stop it now! an im like u gotta be kiding me! im about 15 lbs over the weight i wanna be. and where all my friends my hight are. so it really boters me when people tell me that. and i feel like u prolly do .like  do u think im that stupid lol. they are just  bein nice cuz u look great!!!!!!!!!!!! so say thakns and smile lol.

good luck!! and 5 lbs are nothing ur skinny lol.
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I dont get why people say this is strange for her to say. A lot of WLS patients do get to small and have to gain a few lbs back to look normal. I dont think it was her being jealous at all.....I think it was good advice. No one wants you to look like Star Jones. LOL!