Confidence

How long did it take you to get your confidence up after surgery? Or do you still struggle with it. I have lost 73lbs and i still feel like i have a very low self esteem and i dont feel skinny enough. help!

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I’m about halfway done and down 75 pounds with 75 or so more to go and some days I start to feel a little confident. Most days I still look in the mirror and just see fat and gross, wrinkly skin lol… Those are the days I have zero confidence at all.

well girl i`v lost a 100 lbs and i can tell u i still feel sooo fat sometimes, and sometimes i feel great! it depends of the day. above all we are women and we are never 100% happy is the way we are lol. but i`m working on it and every day the confidece is building back. so just try to keep going and enjoy your new you.
hugs.

I have always been a realy confident person. So its reallyhard to relate. The thing that I realized is that I AM FABULOUS! Fat or skinny its who you say you are. YOU ARE WHAT YOU SAY!  SO if you keep saying your ugly or whatever then thats all you will ever think of yourself. You have to stand in front of the mirror and say I am fabulous, I am amazing, I am strong, I am whatever....whatever it is you are stugling with. EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT! Baby...just fake it til u make it. But you have to change the words you speak cause the have power. Start making positive confessions over yourself and see what happens. The way I see it is that you have to rock the body you got along the journey. Hope this helps!

Self esteem is not something that we magically gain because we lose weight.  In fact, for many of us (me included) it's the opposite and we sometimes feel worse.  It's really a paradox but when you are one way for so long and then pretty much overnight you change, it's a huge toll on your emotions.  I still get bummed out over my saggy skin and my non-existant boobs, sometimes to the point where it brings me to tears.  Isn't that horrible?  105lbs gone and I'm still having body issues. 

I do feel worried though that you say you don't feel skinny enough.  Sometimes we have to ask ourselves when is enough?  Is it ever going to be enough?   The biggest thing I"ve learned through this WLS experience is that regardless of what I look like or how much weight I lose, at the end of the day it's still just going to be me staring back at me in the mirror...so I'm going to have to start liking myself for how I am.  It's hard...I'm my own worst critic.  But when we start actually loving ourselves it just changes our perspective on so many things in life at so many levels. 

Have you thought about seeing a counselor/psychologist/pastor/priest/etc.?  I really do think it would help you get a good footing for seeing your self worth for more than just your body.  I'm a big fan of the mental health profession, I have taken so many steps forward in so many areas (not just WLS) since I started visiting my psychologist.  Think about it!

Best of luck to you!

~Emily~ 

P.S.  Congrats on the 73lbs, that's awesome!