Self-image, self-worth, blah, blah

Hey girlies and gents! Wanted to know if anyone was in the same boat. I thought I was pretty mentally stable before surgery but after losing all this weight I realized a lot of self-image and self-worth issues were lurking behind the fat.

I have a tendency to get into very unhealthy relationships with somewhat manipulative and abusive men. I only realize it when I am already deep in and then I fight for months to get out. It's emotionally exhausting and I deal with a lot of abuse along the way.

Sooooooooo.... this needs to stop. NOW. I am going to check into getting some therapy... because this girl needs to learn what she is WORTH.

Anyone else feel a little crazy like me? Either way, I need to get myself back together... I am in pieces right now. I don't get why I think ten times worse of myself now than I did when i was 300+ lbs.

Girl, we're all a little crazy in our own way!

I didn't realize until now all of the body image issues I have. I think they just popped up outta nowhere now that I'm thinner. I feel like I had resigned myself to being fat for the rest of my life, and didn't care what others thought before surgery.

Now, dear god. Now, I care what I look like most days. I hate the way my body looks (saggy, baggy, etc,). I feel like my outter appearance is vital to my existence. In short, I've become vain. And feel disproportionate and ugly. And I sit here and go WTF??? When the hell did that happen?

I think therapy is a wonderful tool. Objective third parties (even expensive objective third parties) are amazing. I think the whole surgery process is tougher mentally and emotionally than physically.

You can get yourself back together. You are always worth more than you think!

Hugs and Support!!!!

I feel like when I lost my weight I lost myself. I was never comfortable with myself at my highest weigh but like you said it's worse now. Everyone tells me how great I look, But I can not see it.  And no one understands how I feel cause they just see that I look better now then I ever have before.  I have never felt this crazy and I don't know what to do anymore.

I am kind of relieved that others are going through this. I feel like I'm crazy. I was a very stable person before surgery but man oh man... now I don't know what's going on.

I am really glad that you are recognizing this in yourself.  It is very hard to see when we have things that need to be fixed within ourselves.  You will get to where you should be!

yeah, i've become way more unhappy about the way i look... and uncomfortable with myself lately. it's the opposite of what i expected, but often i guess i just feel like im not where i want to be, or i look more like i used to.... blah blah blah. it's crazy how our minds work against us sometimes. you're not alone, by any means