OT: need advice, BFF and fiance

So my best friend is also our room mate.  Well my fiance and my BF are not getting along at all.  I feel like I am stuck, I can't talk to either one about either one because they end up having amunition about eachother.  Then I can't stand it when they ***** about each other to me.... I can't take sides at all. I try to, but then when I tell either one to stop they get mad.  I don't know what to do.  Her extra money is really helpoing especially when planning a wedding, and I just want them to grow up and get along, why can't they set aside their egos and just get along and put all this bull **** behind? Shes too sensitive and he isn't sensitive enough.  How can we solve this? I feel like it my job to fix it because they both mean a lot to me.  Sorry I just had to vent.... and its not like I can vent to either one.... Any advice would help!

i think that you need to sit the two of them down and let them work out their differences. you need to be the mediator....tell them that it hurts you to see them fight like this and that you are under to much stress to deal with the stupid stuff that they are disagreeing about. so they need to work things out and be vocal about the things they dont like about eachother. obviously neither one of them are going anywhere so they need to make things work for you. Good Luck!

babymama22 is right about how you need to sincerely make them acknowledge that between their fighting, you are also getting hurt. Solid, worthwhile relationships require attentiveness and compromise; they need to be mature enough to realize their behavior isn't being geared toward solving what's wrong, and that is putting a lot of stress on you.

If you are as close to your best friend as I am to mine, I could predict that you will almost never be moved to cast her away. Your fiancee is being irresponsible by disrespecting the people you hold close to you. Both are being selfish in the same way: they want to be at odds without realizing it, feeling slighted by the other and wanting to win over them. Instead of solving the problems or at least trying for some middle ground, they're disregarding their ties to you. That's unfair, and you ought to make that clear to each of them.

I don't think seating them together to 'have it all out' will solve anything; in fact, it will escalate things because both of them will have agreed to it grudgingly, which results in the inability to listen (they're just going to want to keep pressing their points against each other).

Before you put your foot down, let go of any frustration and concentrate on how much you love these two people and need them to not necessarily see eye-to-eye, but consider your feelings and just, if nothing else, agree to disagree. Tell them to act respectably instead of insisting on battleship tactics.

I won't sugarcoat it; I don't know the entire situation, but a sensitive girl and an insensitive guy can really drain even the most persuasive efforts. You may be in a situation that will inevitably cause you to fall away from one or both of these people. If it's as bad as it sounds to me, it needs to be cleared up pretty soon or you'll all be too tired to make it right.

 Good luck, girl. :)

wow, this brings back a lot of bad memories for me. First off congrats on the wedding and I'm sure it will turn out beautifully. Ok I knew this girl for 11years, we were best friends and everyone always said we were connected at the hip because we were always together. Anyways, she meets this guy and a friend of ours tells us hes bad news, we both try to give him a chance and she ends up falling maddly in love with him and he decides he doesn't like me and her hanging out... well she starts to choose him over me which I was like if it makes you happy but its still pretty ****ty that you chose a guy over your best friend. Long story short we trired to stay friends and the guy and I try to figure out our differences but he was a douch and never really "tried" like I did. Now they have been married for almost a year and they are pregnant with their first child and I havent talked to her in almost 2 years because of how things went down. I know this is a sad story and I hope that your situation doesn't turn out like this~! good luck