men and sex

xtina1907
on 8/3/09 12:35 am

so i am about 5 months out now and i am still not completely comfortable with my weight. So ihave been talking to this guy for a while now and we just met this weekend. we ended up having sex. How do i know if he just wanted sex or if he really did like me???? help please i am freaking out. he told me it wasnt just sex but men can tell you that just to have sex right????

  
Ruthsmiley_79
on 8/3/09 4:02 am - Denver, CO
Wait to see if he contacts you in the next couple of days.  If he is totally into you he will be calling to set up another date!  And if he doesn't, well its his loss NOT yours! F em', you would't want him, he is not a real man anyways.  And to make you feel better my fiance and I had sex on our first date, and we have been together for 3.5 years and getting married in March. 

GOOD LUCK! And remember you are beautiful no matter what!
Down 63lbs... my scale is sticking to 199.  I am under 200 YAY! Next goal, size 14 pants? October? Maybe? In 18s and a few 16s
  

 
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Emily J.
on 8/3/09 4:02 am
Give him time and he'll show his true colors either way.  If he treats you well (which you should expect nothing less!!) then he will be there for you and be supportive.  If it was just a booty call then you'll figure that out pretty darn quick when that's all he wants or makes excuses for not being available to you.   In the mean time, figure out if this guy is someone who you want to persue a real relationship with.  Is he a good match for you, good morals, similar goals and values, does he have a job...etc..etc?  

Best of luck to you, I hope he turns out to be a nice guy!

~Emily~ 
   
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Jennifer K.
on 8/3/09 6:24 am - Phoenix , AZ
I hate to say since you just met it was sex... you have not been dating per se and are not in any sort of relationship. Remember that men are not emotional like us women are... we tie emotions and sex together, for men its mainly just sex.
I would see how he acts now and see what happens... if you are looking for it to be a relationship then you need to express that and treat it that way.

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babymama22
on 8/3/09 11:38 am - toledo, OH
i disagree...not all men are just wanting sex. YES, alot of them are but that doesn't mean he is. I am not saying that he will call you, but you never know. you just have to wait and find out for yourself. its hard for any of us to tell because we werent there on your date to see the chemistry and we dont know him. so give it a week...if he doesnt call you, take it as a loss and move on. if he does call you after that then BONUS! But dont let him stop you from dating other men and dont let it hold you back. If he just wanted sex then whatever! who cares? a girls got needs too! try not to let your emotions get too attached to him untill you know its for real. and some future advice, dont give it up too soon, let him like you for you and you personality and your heart. NOT just your goods! Good luck hun and keep us posted on whether or not he calls!
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