"friends"

ok seriously why cant people just be happy for me? all my "friends" have been trying to talk me out of my decision to have this surgery. this coming from girls that are model type skinny and have never known what it feels like to be fat. never known what it feels like to shop in the plus size section or have people stare at u bc ur fat not bc u look good. I hate that! y cant they just shut up and act like their happy for me? all i hear is "oh brittany, you are pretty the way you are." and "you have such a pretty face" and "if you really wanna lose weight cant you do it the normal way?" UUUGGGGHHHH i just wanna scream! if I could do it the "normal way" dont you think I would be thin by now and stay that way? dont you think I have tried the "normal way"? Did it ever cross your mind that I dont want to be just a pretty face. I want to wear normal cute clothes...not just the ones that fit. I wanna wear a bathing suit without a tshirt over it! I wanna wear a pair of shorts for god sakes! I want to come home and not have pain in my back and knees. I dont wanna be depressed anymore. but noooo no one thinks of all that stuff. they think I am just taking the "easy" way out. but what they dont know is it is ten times harder! IDK What I really think it is is they are worried that when I do get skinny that I will be wayyyy prettier than they are! Jealousy...yup thats it.i dont know maybe im wrong but it just irritates me that they cant support me in my decision and be happy for me. sorry for venting...just had to get it out.

I know people can be frustrating. Most of my family and friends that were not supportive pre-op are totally happy and proud of me now. Weird I know. I compair it to drug addicts. When I look at someone suffering from drug addiction I want to smack them and say "What the hell is your problem? Just lay off the drugs." I don't understand why it is so hard. And I can drink alchol and not need it again the next day so what is wrong with alcholics? Well that's the only thing I can think of to compair it to. Although if their was a surgical procedure to help drug addicts I would be  afan of it.

It has been my experience that the only people I know to be 100lbs or more overweight and got down to healthy were only able to do it with WLS. Sure I know of people who have lost 100lbs the old fasion way but they all gained it back.

OMG I know.  I am really blessed that my closest friends were all really supportive as soon as I told them I was thinking about having the surgery.  I got the most flack from my 'friends' that are more social aquaintances than anything.  They too are the little size 4 biznatches that don't even have to work out and eat what they want and don't  gain anything.  I got lots of 'have you tried this diet' and 'you are fine the way you are', blah blah blah. 

Okay they're not biznatches, but they certainly don't understand me and what I've struggled with for most of my life. 

I am super happy your decision!  Go BRITTANY!!

That is the reason the only ones who know about my surgery is my surgeon and his staff!  You should not have to justify yourself to anyone.  Some people are too shallow to put themselves in other people's shoes.  We understand here on OH so just come here for support.  I would say don't even talk to them about it anymore.  It  will just lead to this again.  I'm sorry that happened to you.  But this too.....shall pass.

 I know exactly how you feel.  Pre-op I had a ton of friends trying to talk me out of it.  Post op and 160 lbs lost a lot of them have lost touch with me and dont want to hang out anymore... because when we went out guys were talking to me, flirting with me, and I was taking some of the attention.  It is partially jealousy I'm sure.  Some of it may be concerned.  Surgery can scare people.  Some of my friends that tried to talk me out of it were just afraid I would have complications.

I know is hard to hear this from ur friends. but they love u and are worry about you. they are not as informed as you are so try to explain them that is for your health, that ur not trying to look pretty.  and that this is  surgery safe, try to inform them about the surgery ur having and all the great things that are gonna come with the surgery. and yes they don´t understan what u are going thourhg and we hope they never have to be in the position u are now. if they were there and they had the posibility to have WLS they would sooo don´t worry they just don´t know what they are talking about so try to understand their position 2.
 I had a couple of friends who were like that but mostly the were ok with my decision altho they were worry for me having surgery.
tell them u need their support i`m sure they are gonna be on ur side as soon as they get use to the idea. I`m sure they love u and are just worried. at the end they are gonna sport u and be soo happy for you when they see how happy and healthy u are.
hugs!!!