My fellow 20's folks I have a question...

Any regrets? Do you wish you didnt have this done? With the saggy skin/hair loss when we are in our 20's? Are you truly happy at your size? Do you feel more opportunities at life have appeared? I just want to know when all is said and done.. is it worth it? My surgery is 8/19 and honestly any other board most of the women are married/ settled down and not within my age range... They dont understand the mental aspects of being so young with this change and in my case single too lol.

Iv been saving for a long time and I am planning on moving from Albany NY to Queens NY it is something that iv always wanted to do and I figure im young why not? Im not married I do have a daughter and I dont want to stay up here for nothing anyway.... Its a big change and on top of that I will be 7m out at that time in March of '10... im so scared but iv been with the same man for 5 yrs and our relationship has slowly crumbled so thats over.. Ugh its scary because I have a child and on top of that its a big BIG change in my life... but im ready just wanted to know if you had any regrets? has this surgery inspired you to do things you wouldnt do? do you love it? do people stare at hanging skin on the arms etc? lol thanks for listening to my ramble folks!!

Nope don't regret it...been through hell and back and have had times where I've thought about what if I didn't - and I know if I didn't I would even be alive probably right now. i was 625lbs...now I'm 205 - I lost over 420lbs in 2 years...and even though it's been tough, mentally - physically...anything you can imagine I would never change it because all I think is...would my life be easier if I didn't do it? Wouldn't I still have problems to deal with emotionally and physically just like I do today? I think we forget at the end of the day this is life...and WLS is a major life change - but even without WLS - you where destined to have major life changes...it's all just...everyone has there own type of problems - mine was being over weight and having to conquer that, just as the drug addict has to conquer there addiction. Different situations...but still - life has it's plans for all of us. I know this is a lil scatterred typing quick - at work.  

Hello!  I'm 25 and I had VSG in March.  I'm 5'3" and started at 196.............but years ago I was over 200.  I felt myself creeping back up.  I was a size 16 and now I'm down to a 10. Best decision I ever made.  For me, I stopped living life.  I didn't want to date, go out, I avoided my family and friends, and was getting depressed.  Nobody knows about my surgery.......NOBODY!  It was a very personal decision for me.   I'm dating again, I've started my own business, I'm lifting weights and working out..............ENJOYING LIFE.   I don't have any skin issues.  As far as hair, it never really bothered me because I wear long extensions now.  I feel beautiful and have more confidence.  I feel like the sky is the limit as far a possibilities in life.  I don't feel like anyone is better than me anymore or that I don't deserve certain things.  I'm glad I did it now before I started having health issues.  Also, I still have years left in my 20s to enjoy life to the fullest.  I'm working to get my last 15 pounds off and to be a size 8. 

PM me if you have more questions.  It's scary, but any new MAJOR life change is scary.  I moved too and quit my Corporate job!  I can relate.  But no regrets here.  Oh yea, I get stares now, but that's because I'm looking pretty HOT these days.  You will too!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thank you so much for this response!! Im ready to make a big change in my life! It makes me want to see your pictures.. I friended you :)

In the process of trying to find my befores.  I got a new harddrive and I can't find the disk with my fat pics:-)  I will PM them to you when I hunt them down.  It's on my to-do list.

mamaz you kno im in the same boat as you... except for i am married but im in the middle of tryna get a divorce... was tooo young to be married in the first place..... lol

hey, i look at it this way...I would rather have sagging skin that i can hide with clothes and put extensions in, than be fat. that something that u cant hide no matter how hard u try. And as far as the sagging skin goes, my doctor says that since I and you are so young we have that going for us. our skin is still elastic and can go back to normal with the right amount of excersise. You will look beautiful and I am sure you will have no problems finding a man. but if you go into it with having those doubts then u will always have those doubts. keep yourself motivated and look forward to your new life! I havent had my surgery yet i start my preop diet monday and my surgery is august 10th. I am soooo excited. plus there is always plastic surgery for that skin anyways...i know its expensive but if u hate it that much u will find a way. im sure you wont hate it as much as carrying all the weight around! good luck!

NO regrets..well only one that I had gone through the process alot sooner. I am going to be 30 in a few year..ARGG! I wish I could have experienced bing under 300lbs in my mid 20's. I started at 346 I had my surgery in feb I have lost 100lbs so far and I feel good and happy. Yes my hair is shedding and I have loose skin but if you take your protein and supplements and alos excersize you should do just fine.  I regret nothing! 

 I dont regret it for a second!  Yes it changes things but thin feels wayyyy better than food tastes.  You will be fine and just think of how much more active you will be able to be with your daughter.