Relationship Rant

Ok guys maybe you can help me out. So I am 24 years old. I have been with my man since I was 16. I am very much in love and we live the lifestyle of a married couple (i.e. we own a home together, share a bank account, we tried to have children). I believe he honestly loves me. When we first met I was a somewhat normal weight and I gained more than 150lbs while with him. He has seemed to be attracted to me even at my highest weight of 355lbs. He is gorgeous, successful and treats me well. He has never been fat, never married, no kids. He is trying to support me the best he can.   Ok… so here is the problem…   He purchased my engagement ring several (3-4) years ago (I know this because the dumb ass used a credit card in my name to buy it). I bug him about being married all the time but I get nothing. It’s not nice but I have been telling him that after I loose my weight I will be sexy and have more offers so he better hurry up.   I am a little afraid that I will become a ***** when I loose the weight and/or start to look for someone else. What relationship issues are you guys having? Has the WLS helped or hurt your relationships?

My background is that I've been married to my husband for going on 4 years and we've been together over 5.  

WLS hasn't hurt our relationship at all....I guess you could say it's helped it but there wasn't really much wrong to begin with.  My husband has been nothing but supportive from the day I brought the idea of WLS up.  

It sounds like you have a pretty good guy.  You guys have been together a long time, so that's a plus and it sounds like you have a nice life together already.  Do you really want to give that up because you are going to lose weight?   If you are afraid of becoming a ***** then don't become one!    If you are really wanting to get married, just sit down and have a talk with him about a time line of when you want to get married and explain your reasons.  Maybe he has a reason why he's not asked you yet or why he's waiting.    

Just remember, the grass is always greener.   You described a very nice man that loves you no matter what. That sort of thing doesn't come around everyday..... don't be too hasty to give that up! 

~Emily~



~Emily~

Hi,
Ok so this is what I think. You have been with that man for a very long time you DO NOT want to through it away. You and him are living like a married couple and its been working this far so I agree you should ask him what is it that he wants and explain how you feel and what it is that you want. And make your decision from there. You seem to really love him so I would say just talk this out.

He bought a ring 3 or 4 years ago and hasn't given it to you ??? Maybe he gave it to someone else...

Sorry that was mean...I know...Honestly you should just ask...I would really want to know where the hell that ring is...If you want to marry him and he shows no signs of asking, bring it up to him...If it's not what he wants then atleast you'll know where he stands.

Thanks ladies… Yeah I’m gonna keep him. He’s a good guy just a little confused. I have found the ring several times in the house. He kept it in the closet above the swiffers, he put it in my Christmas stocking and removed it a couple days before Christmas and he wrapped it for Christmas a year later and hid it Christmas eve. I think he will get it someday. If not in 18 months when we decide to have children they will have my last name ; )