Lets give em something to talk about

Okay, so I am pretty well known in my small town- and I have a very active social life in my community, I am a local hairstylist and I work full-time at a clinic as well.  I grew up here my whole life.  Welll my weight loss is aparently the talk of the town.  Everyone is talking about it.  its making me freakin nuts.  I dont like it. 

I dont want to be rude and tell poeple I odnt want to talk about it, but at the same time- give me some friggin privacy.  does this happen to anyone else? how do u deal with it?  I dont like being talked about and I dont like being a new 'hot commodity' I am over it.  Some of my friends have begun acting jealous, and others are nothing but happy for me and totally respect my decision and lifestyle. I have stupid guys fighting at the bar talkin about me, one I used to be with and the other a close friend, I dont like it im over it.  I want to be a shadow again. there is NO reason for this behavior!!  jfklds;fjs

im just so damn frustrated..its like its all beyond me.  again- a control issue.  I am over everyone talking about me. and mostly my body. 

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how do you deal with all of the new comments and opinions. doesnt it just get frustrating as all hell!

hey girl i know what u mean.
i'm not from a small town but we have a pretty close society. i remember that when i was going to have surgery i didn´t want anyone to know so i only told my friends. and ask my parents to not tell anyone of their friends or family member till i got the surgery `cuz i didn´t want anyone to make me nervious. TO LATE!! everyone already new!! aparently my parentes were more excited than i was!!!.
then when i came back just a few friends talked to me about my surgery all my class mates and people knew i had they surgery and they didn´t say anything that was more annoying `cuz i already knew they knew ant they wouln´t dare to ask me about it. even a few after i lost 100 lbs didnt´comment on my weight lost and obviusly is very notable. so it was kindda annoyin  that people know and act like doésn´t so i think is better they wanna talk about that : )....but I think this is really afecting my dating life with the guys they think i`m hot but they are to selfconcious about what would people thing u know me the ex fat girl u know . i might be crazy but is what Ì feel.

and yes it sucks but is better now than before!! haha
hugs

well i have been totally open about it from the start. I am not ashamed,I am grateful for my RNY.  It was done to prevent heart surgery-which by the way didnt happen, they are seeing me again this Thursday to decide which procedure they are going to do on my Aorta.  It was supposed to relieve pressure but..that was wishful thinking.  Buuut....whatever..i just dont know why it matters what I weigh.  or what I dont weigh.  I am not out trying to date anyone, I am trying to work and get my head on straight.  I just...I dont know I am over everyone telling everyone else 'have u seen her' did u see she fit into those jeans, blah blah 'who cares shes still fat' or 'she cheated and has weight bc she is lazy' im like hey ***** its none of your f-n business why I had surgery, but for your information- I dont mind a bigger girl. I think I WAS ACTUALLY prettier in the face and shapelier when I was 230 lbs.  I am just saying.  I guess I am fed up, and I know its not even over- its hardly begun.    some effin people.  and yeah I know the shame of the 'ex fat girl' I feel that way about my own self, I dont need somene else carrying that..ya know?

Thanks for being so great Mariana! Always so helpful to everyone!!
im just annoyed, I want to be like look! leave my sad crazy life alone damn it! and Guys- I only want friends...I am still in love with a bad relationship from before.  fjkdls;fj;sakf

i yi yi. I wish I could have a drink right now. jeeeezzzz.....

AMEN!!! lol
u r so right in everything u said. is like u think that all of this issues would go way wen u had surgery and now we have some new issues going on. but i guess is better to deal with this new issues than the old ones lol.
is hard to deal with ur own weight goals and stuff. don´t know if u have to deal with this but like people say to u how good u look and for you is hard to see it.  buts i guess is the same way with skiny girls lol.
hope everything goes well with your test and hope they find the surgery for you. keep me posted about this please.
hugs girly.

i also come from a very small town where i grew up in and lived most of my life in. and just to warn you, u are have a long road ahead of you. so u had ur surgery like 5 months ago or something, u need to relax, and take it all in stride. i know it sucks, but there is nothing u can do about it for the longest it's all i ever heard about. but i know u are getting a lot more comments too, so try to focus more on those. some relationships will change, some for the better and some for the worse. not everyone can accept our change and have a had time time dealing with. i am not as close to my life long friends since i have gotten down to goal weight. i think a lot of it has to do with me getting more attention than some of them. it totally sucks, but it is just part of our journey. and the people who are meant to stay in our lives will. but it has opened more dors to meet new people who are more accepting. hope this helped and i dint sound too much like an ass. Good luck on the rest of your journey!!

Josh

im not from a small town and I barely have any friends, but I notice that with a certain family that I have been friends with for a while, they seem to find something negative to say about my weight loss, when most people find something good to say, like WTG! or Wow you look good.

No one wants to be the pinata for everyone to take a swing at, but people are talking because now you look good. They were comfortable with you being the fat girl, and now they are disturbed by the ripple you caused by losing weight. (dontcha love how its their business?)
People need to mind their own buisness sometimes! I hate when someone blurts out my business since not everyone in the world needs to know all my details.
Maybe this is why I barely have any friends! I hate people! I know how you feel (sorta kinda)
I remember what it was like when I got fat all of the sudden. I could hear whispers or someone would say something about fat people, then look at me like, oh I forgot you got REALLY FAT.
grrrrrr. at least now they are talking about how thin and awesome I look like now!
Ha ha. I have the last laugh

 My hometown has a population of 500 people.  Talk about gossip!   Granted, I don't live there now but my parents still do and you would not believe the stories that have gone around about me regarding my surgery.  Everything from I'm anorexic to I am getting a divorce from my husband......neither which is true, I eat regularly and am very much in love!   The saddest thing is that all the stories are spread by the "good Christian people" of the town.  Pathetic.  

But ya know, that's the way it's always been there and unfortunately that's how small town's operate because ...well...there's nothing else to do!   Since you are in such a high profile position (everyone needs a haircut!) you will get talked about some positive and some not so positive.  Like you, I'm also very open about my surgery but sometimes people don't bother to go straight to the source, they just make up their own story for ****s and giggles.  

I learned early on from living in that town to just brush all the bad comments off and just realize that people are just nosey busy bodies that have no life of their own so they have to talk about others.  I don't know how brave you are, but if it was me and someone said something horrible I'd call them on it but in a nice, sarcastic way, "Well, I just heard that I was the topic of you recent conversation...bless your heart for thinking of me and thank you for being such a positive support in my life."   I guarentee that will shut them up.  

~Emily~

Thanks so much again for all the input!  I am brave, and I am not afraid, its just sad.  its put a lot of ripples in my past relationship.  and with that family which devastates me!  People are just making their own problems and I dont even know whats going on but they 'involve me'  which- ie- SUCKS.  thanks again for the wonderful advice!  Hopefully one day I will start over new somewhere else...I just might do that sooner than I planned..sadly.

I just want to crawl under a rock and pretend like nothing is going on around me.  I dont like drama and i DONT like being involved in it. I am not afraid to say things to people, because I am down with squashing the problems- again thank u all so much for your advice!  I am going to just let it go. if I dindt do it and dont have anything to do with it- let it gooo.. I read T.D. Jakes let it go over and over agian this morning....    =)  My heart is bad I cant handle stress for no reason. haha