transfer addictions...

 They say people with WLS get transfer addictions... well mine apparently is men and online dating lol!!! Now that I am starting to love me... I want a guy to love me... is it me or is this not the most random crazy transfer addiction?!? lol Are there meetings for this?  I need help lol

Yes... actually what you're wanting is the attention.  I went through the same exact same thing!  I was craving the attention, I wanted them to tell me I was worthy, lovable, etc etc.  And it took a good nine months to realize I didn't need them to give me anything.  Lots of heart and mental pain, be careful honey!

Some can play the game, I just can't lol.

You deserve to be loved, just be careful!!! 

On the other hand, I did find my husband online (12+ years ago)!!! 

Good luck!!!

Caroline

umm, I dont know if that is a transfer addiciton, I mean if it is related to wanting attention then its possible, but I met my boyfriend online through a chat site, and hes great!

we have been together right at a year now!  Good luck, hope you find someone that makes you feel perfect!!

I hear you girlie! I really enjoy the attention I'm getting now too but I see how dangerous can be. Especially when I have those days when I feel like the old me wants to come back and start cursing out these people who wouldnt give me the time of day when I was bigger. You just gotta make sure this transfer addiction doesnt put you in a bad place emotionally.

I say go out and have fun! Meet people! Be bad lol but remember anything in excess or anything you start to become dependent on...can be a bad bad thing!









....but sometimes bad is fun lol

I Think its safe to say that my transfer addiction will be shopping. Its all i've ever wanted to do is walk into ANY STORE and shop and soon the day will approach when i can shop in juinors instead of "plus size" or "womans sizes"....

Hey darlin,

I actually have been posting about this for a couple hours, then came across your post. I have been suffering from cross over addictions as well. Unfortunatly mine are shopping and sex. I'm spending anywhere from 1500-3000 a wk. And well we wont go to the sex part. It is a tough situation but I know where your coming from, as far as help I'm sorry to say I cant help ya =/

I think you are completely accurate in calling it a transfer addiction... if you used to use food to cope with stuff emotionally. if not, it's still related it's just a slightly different clinical term. I'm really early in my journey, but I've noticed myself taking more risks in the boy area, and craving attention and (mostly) touch from them much more. It's put me into my share of awkward situations, especially since I'm a virgin and my religious beliefs keep me kinda prudish about sexual situations. I do see a therapist, not exclusively about that but we talk about it a lot. If its something that you feel out of control with, I'd recommend looking into support groups or therapists. good luck