relate

i've been struggling a lot lately. almost all of my friends are very thin. not one of them is bigger than a size 4. i can't hold this against them, but sometimes i do feel jealousy. more than that - i feel sad because they can't relate to how being overweight feels. it makes it hard for me to connect with them since this is such a huge part of my life.

being single doesn't help this situation. i'm tired of being the chubby funny girl. i've lost 40lbs in 5 months - this is very slow weight loss. i'm so upset about it. i know i should be happy with the results so far - but i could have done that on my own. i've done it in the past - just not in a healthy way! i watch what i eat and i work out like crazy. not to mention that i walk everywhere - sort of comes with the territory of living in this city.

anyways - sorry to rant so much - i just need to be able to relate to someone.

hope you're all well...

I have A LOT of small friends too.   I have lost as much weight as some of them weigh.   And even though they are compassionate toward me, they don't know how it feels to be over 350 pounds, and I don't know how discouraging it is for a size Small to always be too big.   A lot of people have self-image issues regardless of size.   So I do have that in common with some of my smaller friends.  

OH is wonderful b/c we are all here for the same reasons.   I know you said 40 pounds in 5 months isn't much, but percentage wise it really is....you are almost half way to your goal weight!!!  So please hang in there and keep doing all the things you are doing right!!!~ Leslie

Even if you had "chubby" friends they couldn't relate because they haven't been through this themselves.

I hope that helps!

Marie

In only 5 months you have lost almost 1/2 your excess weight - your ticker shows you 'only' have 85lbs to lose so each pound counts for a lot - I had 100lbs to lose when I had surgery and it took me well over a year to hit that mark... patience grasshoppa - you will get there soon enough and wonder where all the time went.
Being single should help the situtation - this is YOUR time... be SELFISH... do what YOU want, go where YOU want, act how YOU want and dont worry about anybody else - relationships are hard work, right now you need to be putting ALL your work into yourself - your nutrition, suppliments, vitamins, exercise, dealing with 'issues' and educating yourself so you can KEEP the weight off that you lost.
While your friends may not understand you will hit a point where you feel just like one of them... at least thats how it worked for me, I feel 'normal' now. People who I tell Ive had surgery say they would never had pictured me as being overweight, I love it... I just blend in with all the skinny girls now. Also keep in mind you have us here on OH and hopefully people in your support group that you can relate too... most of my friends are normal so I found other post-WLS people via OH that I can now talk to about things nobody else would really understand... just keep looking and you will find.

ahhh- patience is something i've never been good at. i will try harder to "enjoy" this journey. thanks!

hi, girl  i totally can feel you about the slow loss weight. and about the thin friends. haha,  my friends looks like super models and i don´t soo. that`s don´t help. haha.
about hte weight loss . i was a very slow loser. actually i`m 9 month out. and my weigh loss stope like 2 months ago. at  7 months so it`s been very hard to me to keep losing all the weight but i`m excersicing a lot and watching what i eat. surgery help. but remember that this surgery it`s not magic. we have to work it. to be a success. so hang in there you will lose. i promise.
hugs., see ya around.
mariana.

((hugs))

you're gonna be okay.  you just have to believe in your worth, beauty, and success exactly where you are right now.  You are just as precious and WORTHY as your size 4 friends.  You are valuable simply because you exist, not because of the measure of your waist.  Find activities that reflect your uniqueness that encourage and uplift you.  Spend time doing whatever makes you feel strong and powerful because that will help strengthen your sense of self and confidence.  And dating partners find that verrrrry attractive.  When you sparkle and shine, people are drawn to that!

Be proud of losing 40 lbs so far.  That's 200 sticks of butter!  Way to shine baby!
Heather

thanks for the encouraging words. it's sometimes hard to remember that when you step on the scale and don't see any change - especially when you've worked so hard and committed so much to this new lifestyle.

glad to know you guys are around!